The Second Steps; How to get unstuck and achieve your goals!

What to do when your mind imagines the worst case scenario?

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All of us have given or received a guilt trip. In this podcast we discuss how to deal with it when you get one and why it backfires when you give one.

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We were stuck for about 4 hours in a snow storm and traffic wasn't moving. It was not how I planned to spend my evening. Fortunately we managed to find some amazing podcasts to listen to that left us feeling enlightened and more informed. I zoomed with Rachel, we made a podcast and overall we made the best of a challenging situation. Maybe it was actually a blessing and we made beauty from ashes?

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Actions + Thoughts + Perceptions = ATP which is the energy molecule. You can examine your actions, thoughts and perceptions to determine how you may undermine your goals. Once determined action steps can be created to achieve your goals.

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How to get into a cold river is a great metaphor for taking second steps. Some people go in slowly and others jump. You get to decide what the right step is for you.

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We all feel a bit scared sometimes when we take on an activity that is out of our comfort zone. This episodes discusses the second steps that will help you take on the challenge.

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When people do terrible things it is easy to feel discouraged about humanity. But in every tragedy you can find incredible acts of altruism and kindness that can restore your belief in the benevolence of humankind.

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Often we loose touch with people and somehow a lot of time goes by without seeing or talking. The second step is to reach out to people even when it is uncomfortable.

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We discuss great strategies to help you deal with feeling overwhelmed.

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There are many destructive things you can get into when feeling bored or empty. Listen to this podcast to find healthy second steps.

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When we have a hard the second step is to talk to your support system.

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When you feel shy or insecure with strangers the second step is to connect with them. Listen to learn more.

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If you find yourself worried about how other` s view you and this keeps you quiet there is another option ...

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Do you ever hold yourself back because you are worried about what others think? The second step is to decide to live fully and worry less about how others may view you.

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In this episode Rachel's husband who is a counsellor shares his insights from years of being a therapist.

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In this podcast Rachel and her husband Steve discuss the steps to creating a happy 39 year marriage.

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Sometimes we start thinking too much about the reasons not to reach out to someone. People usually want to be seen and remembered so take a risk and reach out.

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Often we think we can't do something and then we don't try. The second step is to suspend the limiting belief and try it; Maybe you can do it. It can be fun and confident boosting to do something you think you can't do.

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We all have times when we have said or done something that was embarrassing and shows our "humanness”. A great second step is to try to see the humor in these incidents, and maybe make them into a fun story.

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Even when you have had distance from someone it is worth reaching out to try to reconnect. Two people together can make a great impact.

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If you are unsure about what feels true to yourself take a moment before you respond. The second step will likely show up.

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When we let go of judgments we can be kinder to people, and may be able to see the best in others.

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When you feel you are not being hear or undervalued it is important to advocate for yourself.

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The second step may be respecting other people's “no” when you set boundaries.

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Feel like life is passing you by? This podcasts talks about how to get back on track.

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The second step when you are having a really hard time is to reach out to friends, family and colleagues.

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We can make a difference in the world by contributing in small ways in our sphere of influence.

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Do you ever get sucked into the rabbit hole of discouraging media? Listen to this podcast to find out how to climb out.

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It is important to be honest with ourselves and others. This may mean having to say no in order to care for yourself.

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It is easy to get stuck in anger and judgement of others, and the truth is some people are doing really awful things. But if we choose to hate them then we get stuck in the negative, angry vortex. If we try to remember and look for the goodness in the world we can find it.

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It can be frustrating when people don't take our advice and then experience a difficult consequence. Sometimes we need to move past the frustration, step back, put things in perspective, and decide to learn from the situation.

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Sometimes it is tricky to figure out when helping is enabling.

A good question to ask is who is responsible for the situation? If it isn’t your responsibility then tread carefully, and let others be responsible for themselves.

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In this podcast we discuss the second step of taking a break from a project. A break can allow the unconscious mind to problem solve, and inspirations often appear. This is known a the Eureka phenomenon and is named after Archimedes the Ancient Greek scientist who solved the problem of water displacement. He was so excited by his realisation that he jumped out of his bath and yelled Eureka (I have found it) as he ran down the street. Eureka is now known as the sudden understanding of something previously unknown, and is expressed with much excitement.

In this episode Nancy shares a story about a short, but meaningful connection with a homeless person.

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We interview Mary who does not use the word retirement, but redirection instead. She incorporates many second steps including gratitude, following interests, noticing needs, pausing, listening to your knowing, and letting things unfold.

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We all have different skill sets, and it is wise to ask for help when we recognize we are struggling. We can often get more accomplished as a team

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Lead with gratitude, graciousness and faith even when you're frustrated and upset.

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This is not considered medical advice.

Our guest today discusses how she thrives with new twin babies added to an already full house.

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This episode focuses on the concept of prolonged exposure. This involves taking small steps when facing our fears. Overtime we begin to have less fear and may even enjoy what we previously feared.

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You are allowed to feel your feelings, but it is important to focus on hopeful and encouraging new possibilities as well.

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AI can feel very intimidating and dangerous. If we embrace and learn one step at a time it can become a great asset.

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Christmas can be so focused on materialism. We discuss steps to making meaning for the holidays?

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There is always a lot of tragic things happening in the world, and it is easy to get pulled into fear and judgement. We should be upset by injustice and violence, but we don't want to have it pull us down too much. There are several second steps that can help us get out of the fear cycle.

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The dedication and commitment that comes with parenting can help you stay on the right path when things get hard.

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Perfectionism is a recipe for feeling stuck. Sometimes we can get so focused on doing things just right we never get started. Most creative endears start with a rough draft and greatness is only achieved with time.

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Grief includes a lot of different feelings and sometimes it is hard to move forward. When we appreciate who is still with us we can begin to feel joy even during the hard times.

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Hearing our elders stories is invaluable. It can be hard to make time for this, but the connection listening to these stories is a special experience in itself.

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Sometimes things don't go the way we expect. Rachels shares a story about an evening when the power went out and instead of being stressed they had a dance party.

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We have a choice about how we view our days. We can decide to see every day as the best day yet.

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Untangling ideas can be a slow meticulous project. Identifying your goals, and keeping them in sight can help you to continue to take the small steps forward.

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Fear responses are not always within rational control, and we need to have compassion when we or other experience them. We can, however, prepare for emergency situations which helps us have choice during scary moments.

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In this episode Rachel talks about wanting to forgive and leaning on her Faith and asking God to help her forgive. She was able to take responsibility for her part in holding offences and then completely let go of her animosity.

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"Beauty is in the eye of the beholder" is an ageless saying. What one person values another person may not. When we are curious about others perspective we can be more understanding.

If we have worked hard for something it may have more meaning than a gift.

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You can avoid and resist stress or embrace it. Studies show that when you embrace stress your body will engage the parasympathetic (relaxation) nervous system and increase your well being.

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Sometimes we need to let go of order and embrace the moment. You can email us at the secondstepspodcast@gmail.com

In this episode we address the possibility of learning and growing through trauma.

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If you feel like you are walking alone through sludge the second step may involve finding the courage to reach out for assistance.

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When scrambling at the top of a mountain the next step is to be in the moment, choose faith over fear and determine the next step. Similar steps are required when life feels like a scramble.

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Overcoming a fear involves stepping out of your comfort zone.

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A series of second steps are often required. Patience and not panicking is a good place to start.

When you feel resistance to an excursion; Ask yourself a few questions: Is this important? Why is it important? Is this a great opportunity?

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There are strategies that can help you feel calm in a storm.

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The human tendency is to do avoid hard things. However, there is often great rewards once you get through the hard thing.

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When your mind is imaging the worst; remember it is probably not as bad as you think it is. Once you start, and make a plan it may feel more manageable.

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When feeling overwhelmed you can sometimes make a choice that will help you feel peaceful. In one situation it may mean jumping in with both feet and in another it may mean slowing down and stepping back.

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Many of us fantasize about an empty inbox. But that may mean that no one is reaching out to us and we are not engaged in life. Your inbox means you are actively involved in life and that is a good thing.

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When we recognize an achievement the feel good hormone dopamine is released. If we give ourselves a "good job" when we achieve small, second steps we can break the discouraging feeling that work never ends.

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Often the next step is hard. It may mean getting back on the bike after you fall off. It is scary to get back on, but avoiding it will only make it harder in the long run.

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In this podcast we discuss trying to remember to look up and notice what we can be grateful for.

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Sometimes we tell ourselves defeatest stories. We believe that a situation is hopeless or we will never succeed. We need to challenge beliefs that leave us feeling hopeless. Friends and families can support loved one's by understanding, validating the pain people are in, but also holding hope that things can get better.

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Sometimes puzzles are frustrating; pieces don't fit the way we think they should and it is hard to believe it will work out. But we keep trying because we can see the picture on the box and know it will somehow work come together. Life can be a bit the same, but when we trust that things will work out and accept the challenges it is a bit easier.

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It is so important to cultivate friendships in which you feel emotionally safe. Although we are often use to being self-reliant, leaning on "our people" makes our load a little easier to carry.

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When creating a project there is usually an idea, planning and implementation stage. We always want to make sure we get to the implementation stage.

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Sometimes we need to ask for help from others who have a different skill set. When we work together, leave our ego's behind synergy can lead to a great outcome.

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This episodes discusses setting boundaries and accepting the boundaries that others set.

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We interviewed Kevin Petersen who is an expert in addiction and helping family's set the loving boundaries needed to help their addicted loved one. Please email us at secondstepspodcast@gmail.com

Getting caught in the business of life and work you can forget to notice what you have accomplished. A second step is to give yourself credit for what you have completed. You can email us at Secondstepspodcast@gmail.com

Sometimes we can feel paralyzed when making decisions; There are so many things to consider. A second step can be to focus on your values which can guide you to a decision.

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This podcast discusses the importance of accepting other people as they are and how this can help you and the other person.

Rachel is starting the new year with plans to finish things. We discuss how to start with small projects you can complete and feel good about.

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It can be hard to understand other people at times, and this often leads to condemning them. If we take the take to try to listen to their perspective we may be able to understand them even if we still disagree.

It is easy to put things off and wait for the "right" time, but sometimes you just have to make the time and do it anyways,

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JOMO. Sometimes there is Joy in missing out because it means we really need some time to slow down and decompress. A great second step is to check in with yourself and determine if this is a time you need to say no or a time you need to say yes.

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In this episode we discuss the making of the Panama Cannel and how so many people came together to accomplish this great feat and many died as well. The second steps of working with others to achieve goals and appreciating those who sacrificed for a cause are highlighted.

Sometimes what seems like the best business or financial decision is in conflict with your values. The second step is to listen to your conscience and choose faith over fear.

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This episodes discusses the second steps of how to say no and set expectations with love.

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It is normal to get distressed when it feels like you keep hitting obstacles. Sometimes we need to catch the "end of the world" thoughts and recognize what you can control and remember many of these obstacles can be overcome.

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There are so many upsetting things that can happen in a day or in a relationship. Often the second step is to let go of the upset so it doesn't ruin your day or your mood and you can start fresh.

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Learning a language can feel daunting. There may be a number of steps involved.

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In order to make time for the people we love we may need to be spontaneous and make conscientious choices that reflect our values.

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We all make mistakes at times and it is easy to be hard on ourselves about it. We can also take a second step of being kind to ourselves and what we can learn from the experience.

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Rachel tells a story about trusting that things will be well enables you to flow with change.

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In this episode we talk about how easy it is to loose your peace and how to reset when you do.

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When you find yourself exhausted, unable to focus and less effective you may be burnt out and the remedy is good self-care.

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Breaking down goals into bite size pieces is a life changer. You can also pair a step with a habit you already have to make it easier and more efficient. 

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Rachel felt inspired seeing how flocks of birds can fly as one. The second step can mean identifying group goals over individual needs which can lead to great results.

Sometimes emotions can feel really intense. It is important to acknowledge these emotions, but also to take a breathe and evaluate the seriousness of the situation.

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This episodes discusses the value of taking a break from technology; it allows us to be more present with loved ones and a well deserved mental rest.

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Rachel and I interview a life coach Janessa Zohner and discuss how she started her business. Janessa shares some of her coaching tips and exercises.

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Rachel shares a story about how a couple imagined building a beautiful wood house on a mountain and then did it. Several second steps in this episode.

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