The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast

While we all say, "Merry Christmas" or "Happy Holidays," are they? Are they merry and happy? Well, in this episode, Roy, our host, says that if we pay attention to 3 things, our holiday season will be truly merry and happy.

If you want to enjoy the coming days, don't miss this episode.

Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:

Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com

Roy's Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/

Roy's 4 Books:

·      Quantum Que...

One day—and it's a very alarming day—you realize that the only thing keeping you from having the life (and love life) you want is fear.

You're scared of something, perhaps a few things (we all are), and that's what's holding you back from success, growth, freedom and especially intimacy.

We need to have a frank and honest conversation about fear and how to conquer our respective anchors, for if we don't, we'll stay stuck and single.

This is the final installment of a 7-part series where R...

We're all sick of people playing games in the dating scene, but in a sense, everyone is playing a game, meaning, everyone has an M.O., a method of operating.

Getting clear on your Relationship M.O. and mastering it, is a critical issue and it's the topic of this podcast.

In this episode, you will learn that there are only two "dating games," two Relationship M.O.'s, and which game you choose to play is probably the most important decision you'll ever make.

This is par...

There was a horrible story in the news recently where a father and son were killed by a swarm of "murder hornets" while zip-lining in the country of Laos.

That is tragic, and I don't mean to make light of it when I say your love life is being killed by a bunch of "Killer B's" too.

Those B's are: Blind Spots, Baggage, Beliefs and Barriers. And unless and until you deal with them in your life, you won't attract lasting love.

This is part five of a 7...

You have probably tried just about everything to find your life partner. You've sought the wisdom of the "experts"—watching their videos, reading their books and listening to their podcasts. You've tried a few online dating sites or perhaps hired a matchmaker. You've talked to your friends, to your therapist, even your God.

And… bupkis. Nothing. You're still single.

And it's not because you need better experts, dating sites, therapists or even a better God. What you need is one single insight that will unlock the whole mystery as to why you're...

What if it is your desire for a relationship that is keeping you from having one? That is such a crazy suggestion, isn't it?

But what if it's true?

Could it be that hidden within our desire to be in a relationship was an unconscious motivation that was, in fact, sabotaging us and keeping us from a healthy connection?

In this episode, I am suggesting that very thing, that we are our own worst enemy when it comes to attracting lasting love, but we don't know it!

This is pa...

What do you bring to the table? This is a question being asked on social media, podcasts and nearly everywhere people discuss dating and relationships. And while it's often asked in a judgmental and condemning way, it is a legitimate question.

What makes us a great partner? A "high value" partner?

You'll be glad to know that it's not beauty or bucks, but something much deeper and surprisingly simple. It's our ability to be present and authentic.

This is part two of a 7-part series where Roy off...

Since it's Halloween week, our host, Roy Biancalana, takes a deep dive into some of the destructive relationship costumes we often wear in our pursuit of intimacy. Are we being ourselves or are we playing a role or showing up in some sort of fear-driven persona?

This is part one of a 7-part series where Roy answers the 7 questions found in his newest book, Quantum Questions: How Answering 7 Radical Questions Leads to Attracting a Healthy, Lasting, Intimate Relationship.

This Halloween episode appropriately discusses the first question in the book, Who Am I...

In this episode, Roy shares a recording from one of his favorite spiritual teachers, David Deida. Deida is a leading voice in conscious relationships, especially when it comes to masculine/feminine dynamics.

Given the culture wars going on these days around sex and gender, David's message is even more necessary and powerful.

Don't miss this episode!

Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:

Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com

Roy's Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/

What does a healthy relationship look and function like? That's the focus of this 7-part series. The goal is to paint an accurate and aspirational picture of how two people behave in a conscious, loving relationship by discussing the seven components of heathy intimacy.

In this episode, you'll learn the last component of healthy intimacy: Aliveness.

The underlying purpose of a great relationship is the aliveness of the individuals in it. In other words, the reason two healthy people commit to one another is that they believe that each of them ar...

What does a healthy relationship look and function like? That's the focus of this 7-part series. The goal is to paint an accurate and aspirational picture of how two people behave in a conscious, loving relationship by discussing the seven components of heathy intimacy.

In this episode, you'll learn the sixth component of healthy intimacy: Appreciation.

In great relationships, appreciation is not just felt, it's verbally spoken. But it's more than saying "thank you" or "I appreciate you." It's seeing beyond a person's mere actions, to seeing the heart, intention and mo...

What does a healthy relationship look and function like? That's the focus of this 7-part series. The goal is to paint an accurate and aspirational picture of how two people behave in a conscious, loving relationship by discussing the seven components of heathy intimacy.
 
In this episode, you'll learn the fifth component of healthy intimacy: Agreements.
 
The secret sauce of great relationships is trust. But don't tell yourself that trust is a complicated or complex thing. It isn't. Trust is the easiest thing in the world to build and maintain. All we need to do is...

What does a healthy relationship look and function like? That's the focus of this 7-part series. The goal is to paint an accurate and aspirational picture of how two people behave in a conscious, loving relationship by discussing the seven components of heathy intimacy.

In this episode, you'll learn the fourth component of healthy intimacy: Affection.

One of the signs that a relationship is healthy is that there is a lot of physical affection. There is touching, kissing, holding, hugging, and of course, sexing. And in this episode, you'll hear all ab...

What does a healthy relationship look and function like? That's the focus of this 7-part series. The goal is to paint an accurate and aspirational picture of how two people behave in a conscious, loving relationship by discussing the seven components of heathy intimacy.

In this episode, you'll learn the third component of healthy intimacy: Authenticity.

One of the hallmarks of a great relationship, is that each person in the relationship not only is aware of what's going on inside themselves, but they are also committed to being completely open and ho...

In this special edition of the podcast, Roy Biancalana, our host, shares important information on who actually killed Charlie Kirk.

It's not some college kid dressed in black wearing a baseball cap. No, the assasination was done by a far more sinister and scary group of people.

Tune into this short, 18-minute episode because the future of your life and our country just might depend on it.

What does a healthy relationship look and function like? That's the focus of this 7-part series. The goal is to paint an accurate and aspirational picture of how two people behave in a conscious, loving relationship by discussing the seven components of heathy intimacy.

In this episode, you'll learn the second component of healthy intimacy: Acceptance.

In great relationships, the atmosphere is permeated with unconditional love and acceptance. The couple is not trying to change or control each other because they love each other as they are. However, that doesn't mean ev...

Frequently on this podcast, Roy Biancalana, our host, focuses on the beliefs, blind spots, baggage and behaviors that sabotage our ability to attract lasting love. That's because, as the mystic poet Rumi said nearly 800 years ago, "Your task is not to seek love, but instead, to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it." So, it's appropriate to talk about the barriers that keep us single.

But that's not the focus of this 7-part series.

Here you will learn how a healthy relationship functions. The go...

When Kenny Rogers sang, "You gotta know when to hold 'em, know when to fold 'em; know when to walk away, know when to run," he was talking about gambling and playing cards. But little did he know that he was also giving some great relationship advice, too!

We all need to know when to hold on to someone and when to let them go, when to walk away from a relationship and when to run. So, in this episode, Roy explores when to end a relationship and how to do it in the most c...

In honor of his son's upcoming 31st birthday, our host, Roy Biancalana, describes his successes and failures as a parent with incredible vulnerability. You'll hear him describe, in great detail, the things he did wrong as a dad, while also celebrating the things he did right.

Whether you are a parent, aspire to be a parent, if you have parents or know a parent, there is something valuable for you to learn from this episode.

Don't miss it.

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Since it's the middle of July and it's hot outside, Roy, our host, thought it appropriate to do a 3-part series called, "Hot Takes."

You'll hear many provocative perspectives relating to cultural, political, spiritual and relational topics. Buckle up. It's intense.

In this episode, the topics discussed are hurt feelings and being offended, therapy and talking about the past and completely misunderstood words like forgiveness, compassion and independence.

Don't miss this episode.

Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:

Since it's the middle of July and it's hot outside, Roy, our host, thought it appropriate to do a 3-part series called, "Hot Takes."

You'll hear many provocative perspectives relating to cultural, political, spiritual and relational topics. Buckle up. It's intense.

In this episode, the topics discussed are social media, science vs spirituality and new age ideas like astrology, numerology, reincarnation, past life regression and the law of attraction.

Don't miss this episode.

Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:

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Since it's the middle of July and it's hot outside, Roy, our host, thought it appropriate to do a 3-part series called, "Hot Takes."

You'll hear many provocative perspectives relating to cultural, political, spiritual and relational topics. Buckle up. It's intense.

In this episode, the topics discussed are narcissism, religion and politics.

Don't miss this episode.

Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:

Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com

Roy's Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/

In this episode, Roy shares an important talk given by his favorite spiritual teacher, Michael Singer. He talks about how to feel love all the time and it was a talk he gave recently in front of a live audience at his temple near Gainesville, Florida.

We all want to feel love. When you wake up you realize that all our pursuits, relationships or otherwise, are ultimately about finding and feeling love. And that's not a problem. In fact, it's natural and normal.

The issue is that most of us believe th...

Music is an incredibly powerful and enjoyable artform. Not only does it make us want to sing along and dance, but it can move us to tears, open our hearts and inspire our souls.

Yet, as amazing as many songs are, the message they contain can be magnificent or their message can be complete madness. This 4-part series explores around a dozen amazing and famous songs—half with messages that are complete madness, and therefore, should be ignored, and half with messages that are magnificent and should be adopted.

This is the...

Music is an incredibly powerful and enjoyable artform. Not only does it make us want to sing along and dance, but it can move us to tears, open our hearts and inspire our souls.

Yet, as amazing as many songs are, the message they contain can be magnificent or their message can be complete madness. This 4-part series explores around a dozen amazing and famous songs—half with messages that are complete madness, and therefore, should be ignored, and half with messages that are magnificent and should be adopted.

This is part...

Music is an incredibly powerful and enjoyable artform. Not only does it make us want to sing along and dance, but it can move us to tears, open our hearts and inspire our souls.

Yet, as amazing as many songs are, the message they contain can be magnificent or their message can be complete madness. This 4-part series explores around a dozen amazing and famous songs—half with messages that are complete madness, and therefore, should be ignored, and half with messages that are magnificent and should be adopted.

In part two...

Music is an incredibly powerful and enjoyable artform. Not only does it make us want to sing along and dance, but it can move us to tears, open our hearts and inspire our souls.

Yet, as amazing as many songs are, the message they contain can be magnificent or their message can be complete madness.

This 4-part series explores a dozen amazing and famous songs—half with messages that are complete madness, and therefore, should be ignored, and half with messages that are magnificent and should be adopted.

In...

As we celebrate Father's Day, it's important to know that 70% of American children grow up without their father living in the home with them—and it's been that way since the early '90's. This has had a catastrophic impact on children, leading to poverty, violence, poor performance in school and a host of other tragic consequences.

Fathers, and the masculine energy in general, are critically important to the family and the culture at large. So, in this episode, Roy discusses how and why fatherhood and masculinity have taken such a beating in our cultural dis...

This powerful podcast series is about finding freedom from dangerous and destructive emotional experiences that seem to imprison us and keep us from a life of joy, playfulness and peace.

You'll not only learn how to deal these issues when you're caught in their debilitating grip, but more importantly, you'll discover their root cause which will allow you to you rarely, if ever, experience them again.

In this, the final installment of the series, the focus is on anger. And there are three major issues with this powerful and scary emotion. Fi...

This powerful podcast series is about finding freedom from dangerous and destructive emotional experiences that seem to imprison us and keep us from a life of joy, playfulness and peace.

You'll not only learn how to deal these issues when you're caught in their debilitating grip, but more importantly, you'll discover their root cause which will allow you to you rarely, if ever, experience them again.

In part four of the series, the focus is on anxiety. This is a very complicated subject, often having medical, emotional and even spiritual elements to...

This powerful podcast series is about finding freedom from dangerous and destructive emotional experiences that seem to imprison us and keep us from a life of joy, playfulness and peace.

You'll not only learn how to deal these issues when you're caught in their debilitating grip, but more importantly, you'll discover their root cause which will allow you to you rarely, if ever, experience them again.

In part three of the series, the focus is on stress. And who can't relate to feeling stressed out, occasionally or often? And while stress is...

This powerful podcast series is about finding freedom from dangerous and destructive emotional experiences that seem to imprison us and keep us from a life of joy, playfulness and peace.

You'll not only learn how to deal these issues when you're caught in their debilitating grip, but more importantly, you'll discover their root cause which will allow you to you rarely, if ever, experience them again.

In part two of the series, the focus is on insecurity. How do we center ourselves in moments of self-consciousness, embarrassment, jealousy or rejection? But mo...

Roy's new 5-part podcast series is about finding freedom from dangerous and destructive emotional experiences that seem to imprison us and keep us from a life of joy, playfulness and peace.

You'll not only learn how to deal these issues when you're caught in their debilitating grip, but more importantly, you'll discover their root cause which will allow you to you rarely, if ever, experience them again.

In part one of the series, the focus is on loneliness. One would think that after over 20 years of social media, we'd feel more co...

In this special episode, Roy discusses his latest book, Quantum Questions: How Answering 7 Radical Questions Leads to Attracting a Healthy, Lasting, Intimate Relationship.

You'll hear about all 7 questions, why they're important and how answering them leads to a quantum leap in your love life.

You'll learn…

·      Why knowing yourself is the foundation of a great love life;

·      How to manifest the "secret sauce" of intimate relationships;

·      How to break free of self-sabotaging relationship motivations;

·      Discover hidden the key to finding a life partner;

·      Identify the "Killer B's" and how they are sta...

It is more difficult today than ever to find a life partner. The dating scene is wild and frustrating, and online dating has created as many problems as it has possibilities. Yet you still want to be with someone special, but you just don't know how to make that happen.

Until now.

"Mindful Manifestation" is a 6-episode series of podcasts that offers practical and comprehensive wisdom on how to find your life partner—in today's world.

This is the final episode of the 6-part series, and the focus...

It is more difficult today than ever to find a life partner. The dating scene is wild and frustrating, and online dating has created as many problems as it has possibilities. Yet you still want to be with someone special, but you just don't know how to make that happen.

Until now.

"Mindful Manifestation" is a 6-episode series of podcasts that offers practical and comprehensive wisdom on how to find your life partner—in today's world.

This is part five of a 6-part series, and the focus is Co...

It is more difficult today than ever to find a life partner. The dating scene is wild and frustrating, and online dating has created as many problems as it has possibilities. Yet you still want to be with someone special, but you just don't know how to make that happen.

Until now.

"Mindful Manifestation" is a 6-episode series of podcasts that offers practical and comprehensive wisdom on how to find your life partner—in today's world.

This is part four of the 6-part series, and the focus is on...

It is more difficult today than ever to find a life partner. The dating scene is wild and frustrating, and online dating has created as many problems as it has possibilities. Yet you still want to be with someone special, but you just don't know how to make that happen.

Until now.

"Mindful Manifestation" is a 6-episode series of podcasts that offers practical and comprehensive wisdom on how to find your life partner—in today's world.

This is part three of the 6-part series, and its focus is on...

It is more difficult today than ever to find a life partner. The dating scene is wild and frustrating, and online dating has created as many problems as it has possibilities. Yet you still want to be with someone special, but you just don't know how to make that happen.

Until now. "Mindful Manifestation" is a 6-episode series of podcasts that offers practical and comprehensive wisdom on how to find your life partner—in today's world.

This is part two of the 6-part series, and it is focused on THE #1 most impo...

It is more difficult today than ever to find a life partner. The dating scene is wild and frustrating, and online dating has created as many problems as it has possibilities. Yet you still want to be with someone special, but you just don't know how to make that happen.

Until now.

"Mindful Manifestation" is a 6-episode series of podcasts that offers practical and comprehensive wisdom on how to find your life partner—in today's world.

This is part one of the series, and you will learn:

It is said that death and taxes are inevitable but so is running into relationship sticking points. Sooner or later, every intimate relationship faces several challenging issues, and if the relationship is going to last, they must be handled successfully.

In the final episode of this 5-part series, the focus is on several frequently ignored but important relationship sticking points that arise simply as the result of relating with another human being. The assumption that a healthy relationship is harmonious and mostly conflict-free is challenged. You'll learn that conflict arises because of different backgrounds, experiences, p...

It is said that death and taxes are inevitable but so is running into relationship sticking points. Sooner or later, every intimate relationship faces several challenging issues, and if the relationship is going to last, they must be handled successfully.

In the fourth episode of this 5-part series, the focus is on how to navigate the different emotional needs that often exist between partners. Though men and women are equal in value, they are very different, especially when it comes to their respective emotional needs. The difference in needs is the result of different personality t...

It is said that death and taxes are inevitable but so is running into relationship sticking points. Sooner or later, every intimate relationship faces several challenging issues, and if the relationship is going to last, they must be handled successfully.

In the third episode of this 5-part series, the focus is on sex. The issues addressed are when to have sex (sorry guys, this is bad news for you), when to reveal your complete sexual history, setting safe sex boundaries, handling different sex drives, dealing with sexual dysfunctions like being nonorgasmic, E.D. and premature e...

It is said that death and taxes are inevitable but so is running into relationship sticking points. Sooner or later, every intimate relationship faces several challenging issues, and if the relationship is going to last, they must be handled successfully.

In the second episode of this 5-part series, the focus is on money and couples. The three underlying commitments discussed in part one is further explored, but then Roy gets into the "weeds," discussing savers & spenders, trust & fear, joint & separate bank accounts, even prenups! At the end of the episode, there's even a mini rant a...

It is said that death and taxes are inevitable but so is running into relationship sticking points. Sooner or later, every intimate relationship faces several challenging issues, and if the relationship is going to last, they must be handled successfully.

In this episode, our host, Roy Biancalana, talks about money and dating. Not only will you get some mindful suggestions as to who pays for what and why, and when money responsibilities begins to change in dating, but more importantly, you'll learn three underlying commitments that allow you to work through any relationship sticking point. Duration: 00:59:34

In this edition of "Roy's Rants," which is back by popular demand, Roy rants about Valentine's Day and our struggle to connect.

While most of us want to find a life partner, it seems that we are growing further and further apart. Men are increasingly less interested in relationships and women believe that the more self-sufficient they become, the less interested men seem to be.

In this V-day episode, we discuss what divides us and what needs to happen so that we can finally connect with each other.

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We all want to feel alive, motivated and inspired, but few of us know specifically how to create such a life. Well, in the podcast series, Roy Biancalana, our host, describes 5 big ideas that will make 2025 come alive. If you were to devote yourself to any one of them, your life will never be the same.

In this, the last episode of the series, Roy talks about how to improve your people skills. Being successful professionally or personally is largely about the quality or depth of your connection with other people, so in this episode, y...

We all want to feel alive, motivated and inspired, but few of us know specifically how to create such a life. Well, in the podcast series, Roy Biancalana, our host, describes 5 big ideas that will make 2025 come alive. If you were to devote yourself to any one of them, your life will never be the same.

In this, the fourth episode of the series, you will learn how to make decisions you won't regret. You'll learn about your three centers of intelligence—intellectual center, emotional center & instinctual center—and why having them aligned is so impor...

We all want to feel alive, motivated and inspired, but few of us know specifically how to create such a life. Well, in the podcast series, Roy Biancalana, our host, describes 5 big ideas that will make 2025 come alive. If you were to devote yourself to any one of them, your life will never be the same.

In this, the third episode of the series, Roy invites you to make a big, bold statement toward yourself, an act of self-love that will catapult your life and make you feel alive in '25. You'll be presented with s...

We all want to feel alive, motivated and inspired, but few of us know specifically how to create such a life. Well, in the podcast series, Roy Biancalana, our host, describes 5 big ideas that will make 2025 come alive. If you were to devote yourself to any one of them, your life will never be the same.

In this, the second episode of the series, Roy challenges you to make the Enneagram of Personality the focal point of your life this year. He feels, as millions do, that the Enneagram is the deepest, most accurate personality s...

We all want to feel alive, motivated and inspired, but few of us know specifically how to create such a life. Well, in the podcast series, Roy Biancalana, our host, describes 5 big ideas that will make 2025 come alive. If you were to devote yourself to any one of them, your life will never be the same.

In this, the first episode of the series, Roy share what it means to live life from your "zone of genius." You'll learn that everything we do, personally or professionally, falls into one of four zones: Incompetence, Competence, Excellence o...

Most of us approach a new year wanting it to be the best year of our lives. And while there may be many positive actions we can take to make that happen, the truth is most of us are holding ourselves back in some way.

In this episode, our host, Roy Biancalana, presents 10 questions that can help you identify what might be holding you back and keeping you from fully coming alive in '25.

Don't miss this episode.

Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:

You are probably familiar with Rudolph and his story.

Well, just imagine it's late afternoon on Christmas Eve and you're the Grinch, sitting at the North Pole Pub, having a cold one when a funny looking reindeer walks in and sits down next to you. You can tell he's dealing with something, and so against your better judgment, you ask the red-nosed freak, "What's going on? You seem like something is bothering you."

The little guy opens up and tells the Grinch his story. Seems he's been bullied and rejected by hi...

The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast is all about relating consciously and mindfully, and although that sounds good on the surface, it's actually a crazy way to live and love.

Even though mindful wisdom delivers better results, you need to know what you're getting into if you're seeking a conscious relationship. So, this series explores 5 reasons you might want to reject the conscious perspective and stick with conventional wisdom.

The fifth radical relationship perspective is about dealing with our results, the outcomes that we are currently experiencing. When we aren't getting the re...

The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast is all about relating consciously and mindfully, and although that sounds good on the surface, it's actually a crazy way to live and love.

Even though mindful wisdom delivers better results, you need to know what you're getting into if you're seeking a conscious relationship. So, this series explores 5 reasons you might want to reject the conscious perspective and stick with conventional wisdom.

The fourth radical relationship perspective is about dealing with thoughts. Are they trustable? Do we act on them? We're told to "trust our gu...

The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast is all about relating consciously and mindfully, and although that sounds good on the surface, it's actually a crazy way to live and love.

Even though mindful wisdom delivers better results, you need to know what you're getting into if you're seeking a conscious relationship. So, this series explores 5 reasons you might want to reject the conscious perspective and stick with conventional wisdom.

The third radical relationship perspective is about dealing with criticism. Sometimes called "feedback" or "constructive criticism," how are we to respond when it's de...

The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast is all about relating consciously and mindfully, and although that sounds good on the surface, it's actually a crazy way to live and love.

Even though mindful wisdom delivers better results, you need to know what you're getting into if you're seeking a conscious relationship. So, this series explores 5 reasons you might want to reject the conscious perspective and stick with conventional wisdom.

The second radical relationship perspective is about dealing with problems. What is the conscious perspective concerning people or circumstances that are preventing us fr...

The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast is all about relating consciously and mindfully, and although that sounds good on the surface, it's actually a crazy way to live and love.

Even though mindful wisdom delivers better results, you need to know what you're getting into if you're seeking a conscious relationship. So, this series explores 5 reasons you might want to reject the conscious perspective and stick with conventional wisdom.

The first radical relationship perspective is about dealing with feelings, especially hurt feelings. How do we handle ours or someone else's? Who's responsible fo...

In this current podcast series, I've been using the analogy that an intimate relationship is a lot like owning a car.

There are 3 major phases when owning a car. There's the purchase phase, the maintenance phase and the selling phase. If you want a good experience with a car, you need to know how to navigate each of those phases, right?

It's the same with a relationship. There's the "purchase phase" (meeting, dating and committing), there's the "maintenance phase" (keeping the relationship running smoothly) and there's the "selling phase," (it's a le...

In this current podcast series, I've been using the analogy that an intimate relationship is a lot like owning a car.

There are 3 major phases when owning a car. There's the purchase phase, the maintenance phase and the selling phase. If you want a good experience with a car, you need to know how to navigate each of those phases, right?

It's the same with a relationship. There's the "purchase phase" (meeting, dating and committing), there's the "maintenance phase" (keeping the relationship running smoothly) and there's the "ditching phase," (it's a le...

I got to thinking the other day—probably because I have too much time on my hands—that an intimate relationship is a lot like owning a car.

There are 3 major phases when owning a car. There's the purchase phase, the maintenance phase and the selling phase. If you want a good experience with a car, you need to know how to navigate each of those phases, right?

It's the same with a relationship. There's the "purchase phase" (meeting, dating and committing), there's the "maintenance phase" (keeping the relationship running smoothly) and th...

The issue of "Trauma" brings up some very important questions, the first of which is, how do you know if you have Trauma (with a capital "T") or just basic baggage/pain from the past and its corresponding neurosis?

The second question that comes up is, how do I deal with them? What processes, strategies or support do I need to find freedom from Trauma or basic baggage?

These and other questions are the focus of this episode and it's one you don't want to miss.

Additional Resources Roy may have m...

There are some very important questions that single people ask concerning their pursuit of intimacy, but in this, the final episode of the series, there's a big twist.

Instead of addressing another frequently asked question, as was the case in the previous four episodes, Roy addresses a question that single people should be asking, but usually don't.

In the final episode of the series, Roy puts the question you should be asking to A.I. (Artificial Intelligence, i.e., ChatGPT) and compares its answers to C.I. (Conscious Intelligence).

There are some very important questions that single people ask concerning their pursuit of intimacy, and in this episode, we address the third question.

But where do you go for answers you can trust?

Well, at the risk of oversimplifying, you can ask A.I. (Artificial Intelligence via the Internet) or you can seek C.I. (Conscious Intelligence via a relationship expert).

A.I. is all the rage, and perhaps ChatGPT is the most popular version going. It's sort of like Google. You can ask it questions and...

There are some very important questions that single people ask concerning their pursuit of intimacy, and in this episode, we address the third question.

But where do you go for answers you can trust?

Well, at the risk of oversimplifying, you can ask A.I. (Artificial Intelligence via the Internet) or you can seek C.I. (Conscious Intelligence via a relationship expert).

A.I. is all the rage, and perhaps ChatGPT is the most popular version going. It's sort of like Google. You can ask it questions and...

There are some very important questions that single people ask concerning their pursuit of intimacy, and in this episode, we address the second question.

But where do you go for answers you can trust?

Well, at the risk of oversimplifying, you can ask A.I. (Artificial Intelligence via the Internet) or you can seek C.I. (Conscious Intelligence via a relationship expert).

A.I. is all the rage, and perhaps ChatGPT is the most popular version going. It's sort of like Google. You can ask it questions and...

There are some very important questions that single people ask concerning their pursuit of intimacy, and in this episode, the most frequently asked question is addressed.

But where do you go for answers you can trust?

Well, at the risk of oversimplifying, you can ask A.I. (Artificial Intelligence via the Internet) or you can seek C.I. (Conscious Intelligence via a relationship expert).

A.I. is all the rage, and perhaps ChatGPT is the most popular version going. It's sort of like Google. You can ask it...

Dr. John Gottman, a famous couple's therapist and relationship researcher, has identified four warning signs that a relationship is doomed. They are criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling. If any of those are occurring between two people, he's found that the relationship won't last.

And that makes sense, right? They are sort of obvious red flags.

But in this episode, Roy identifies five subtle issues, dynamics that are not as obvious, yet just as dangerous and destructive. Being aware of the not-so-obvious issues that can ruin a relationship equips and prepares you fo...

In the previous episode, Roy shared something that no one had ever told him (and something you've probably never been told either): That although masculine people crave freedom at their core, they will never get it from either Woman or World, and likewise, although feminine people crave love at their core, they too will never get it from either Man or World.

Because that is such an outrageous truth to hear, Roy thought it needed to be unpacked further. To do that, he shares a talk by the world's leading expert on Masculine/Feminine dynamics, D...

The host shares, quite candidly, that he's been struggling in his personal life. He talks about being in an angry, dark, whiney place and it hasn't been pretty, to put it mildly.

He explains that as he's paid attention to how shitty he's felt and why, it's become clear to him that he's been lied to. There is something no one's ever told him about the reality of life and relationships, and it's led to misery.

So, in this episode, Roy, the host, gets very personal, sharing all about his recent bo...

This is part 2 of a 2-part series where Roy, the host, offers very practical, down-to-earth wisdom on how to let go of the past.

In the previous episode (#179), Roy discussed the first two steps to letting go. In this episode, he discusses the final 3 steps.

In this episode, you will learn…

…the three most devasting results of not letting go;

…the inner attitude that keeps the past alive and makes letting go nearly impossible;

…the final three steps to letting go and how exactly to do it;

Most of us know how important it is to let go of our past and its pain. If we hold on to the past, we live with suspicion, projection, and worst of all, repetition (if we don't learn from the past, we're destined to repeat it).

Most of us want to release our baggage and experience the inner freedom it brings, but the problem is no one ever tells us how to do that!!!

Until now.

In this episode (and the next one), our host, Roy Biancalana, off...

If you are interested in changing the trajectory of your love life—and after listening to the previous episode, how could you not be!—you are probably considering working directly with Roy. But because it's a big decision, you might be interested in hearing from someone who's "been there, done that."

Well, ask and you shall receive.

In this special episode, Roy interviews Lyla, a former client. They discuss her interest in coaching and why she chose Roy. They talk deeply about all the components and resources included in the coaching progra...

This is probably the most important podcast Roy has ever recorded. Yes, on the surface it looks like he's simply promoting his coaching practice, but in reality, something much, much deeper takes place.

Roy is offering the solution to your disappointing love life. In fact, three major themes are addressed: (1) You want a great relationship with all of your heart, and you know it's possible; (2) Your relationship history, up until now, has been disappointing and painful; (3) You are more than a little concerned about how or if it will ever change.

If...

Perhaps you've heard the phrase, "You just can't make this stuff up!" It speaks to how reality is often stranger than fiction. That is certainly true in our world today—have you been paying attention to politics in the U.S.?—but it's often equally true of our personal lives.

How do we respond (or how can we respond) when life is not unfolding the way we'd prefer? How do we handle reality, when reality is stranger than fiction?

Well, in this episode, our host, Roy Biancalana, shares a talk given by his...

In a playful, tongue-in-cheek, reverse psychology kind of way, Roy shares how each of us can be utterly miserable and ruin our lives. (LOL!) If you want to feel stuck, angry, and unmotivated, if you want to feel dead on the inside and be the type of person no one wants or wants to be around, then this series is for you!

In this, the last episode of a 7-part series, Roy shares the overarching commitment of all miserable people—"Un-Accepted Reality". If you can master the art of saying "no" to life, arguing with is...

In a playful, tongue-in-cheek, reverse psychology kind of way, Roy shares how each of us can be utterly miserable and ruin our lives. (LOL!) If you want to feel stuck, angry, and unmotivated, if you want to feel dead on the inside and be the type of person no one wants or wants to be around, then this series is for you!

In this, the sixth episode of a 7-part series, Roy shares the most powerful way to ruin your life which is to have an "Un-Finished Past". If you can master the art of h...

In a playful, tongue-in-cheek, reverse psychology kind of way, Roy shares how each of us can be utterly miserable and ruin our lives. (LOL!) If you want to feel stuck, angry, and unmotivated, if you want to feel dead on the inside and be the type of person no one wants or wants to be around, then this series is for you!

In this, the fifth episode of a 7-part series, Roy reminds us that a beautiful way to ruin your life is to have "Un-spoken Truth". If you can master the art of playing g...

In a playful, tongue-in-cheek, reverse psychology kind of way, Roy shares how each of us can be utterly miserable and ruin our lives. (LOL!) If you want to feel stuck, angry, and unmotivated, if you want to feel dead on the inside and be the type of person no one wants or wants to be around, then this series is for you!

In this, the fourth episode of a 7-part series, Roy shares that perhaps the best way to turn people off and ruin any relationship in your life is have "Un-questioned Beliefs," especially everyone's f...

In a playful, tongue-in-cheek, reverse psychology kind of way, Roy shares how each of us can be utterly miserable and ruin our lives. (LOL!) If you want to feel stuck, angry, and unmotivated, if you want to feel dead on the inside and be the type of person no one wants or wants to be around, then this series is for you!

In this, the third episode of a 7-part series, Roy shares another great way to ruin your life, which is have "Un-Kept Agreements". If you can master the art of making agreements or p...

In a playful, tongue-in-cheek, reverse psychology kind of way, Roy shares how each of us can be utterly miserable and ruin our lives. (LOL!) If you want to feel stuck, angry, and unmotivated, if you want to feel dead on the inside and be the type of person no one wants or wants to be around, then this series is for you!

In this, the second episode of a 7-part series, Roy shares another way to ruin your life, which is to have "Un-felt Feelings". If you can master the art of avoiding, suppressing, medicating, a...

In a playful, tongue-in-cheek, reverse psychology kind of way, Roy shares how each of us can be utterly miserable and ruin our lives. (LOL!) If you want to feel stuck, angry, and unmotivated, if you want to feel dead on the inside and be the type of person no one wants, or wants to be around, then this series is for you!

In this, the first episode of a 7-part series, Roy shares that perhaps the best way to ruin your life is to "Un-own Responsibility". If you can master the art of blaming and c...

While it certainly isn't politically correct to speak of toxic femininity, it needs to be addressed because it's a real thing. Yes, feminine people are rarely toxic physically, especially when compared to masculine people, but they can, and often are, emotionally, psychologically, and verbally toxic.

So, building off the previous episode, Roy points out four counterfeit and toxic versions of the divine feminine. They are: The Super Scared Woman, The Super Self-Sufficient Woman, The Super Special Woman and The Super Seductive Woman. Each is a dangerous distortion of the true, healthy expression of the divine f...

We are obsessed with superheroes. Whether it's Batman, Spider-Man, The Hulk, Thor, Captain America, or Iron Man, it seems we've always been fascinated by the Masculine superhero archetype.

But if there is a quintessential icon of masculinity, it's definitely Superman. For men, there's something about ripping open our shirts at the first sign of trouble and revealing a big red "S" on our chests. Well, that's not really a fantasy.

Our host, Roy Biancalana, says that if you rip open the shirt of ANY man, you will find a big red "S"...

This series on spiritual awakening has been conceptual in nature so far, and rightly so. We need to understand what awakening is (and isn't). We need to know what starts us on a true spiritual journey (and what doesn't), and we need a map that shows us how to get there. Those are some of the things that have been covered so far in this series.

But now that the conceptual foundation has been laid, we need an up-close-and-personal conversation with an awakened being, and that's what we have here.

In...

The path of awakening is a lot like following a trail to the summit of a mountain. First, we must decide if we want to climb "Mount Enlightenment" in the first place. If we do, we then need to find the trail head because that's when the fun begins. The trail is long, however, with many switchbacks and cliffs, so we need an experienced guide to show us the way to the top.

In this episode, Roy, our host, functions as such a guide. He tells us of 4 waypoints on the journey (4 states of consciousness), t...

Many think that spiritual awakening leads to a boring life, but it actually leads to a life of engagement, playfulness, and authenticity, a life where the past is powerless, loneliness disappears, and drama ends.

In the third episode of this 5-part series, you'll not only learn that we all are suffering from a severe case of spiritual amnesia, but you'll also be taken through a simple process—a process of elimination—that leads to the discovery of your true nature.

You will learn…

·      why "Who am I?" is the most important...

It’s fair to say that we are obsessed with superheroes. Whether it’s Batman, Spider-Man, The Hulk, Hercules, Thor, Captain America, or Iron Man, it seems we’ve always been fascinated by the Masculine superhero archetype.

But if there’s a quintessential icon of masculinity, it is Superman. For men, there’s something about ripping open our shirts at the first sign of trouble and revealing a big red “S” on our chests. Well, that’s not a fantasy.

Our host, Roy Biancalana, says that if you rip open the shirt of ANY man...

"Pain is a portal to profound spiritual growth," says our host, Roy Biancalana. He shares that there is a moment in every person's life, a dark-night-of-the-soul type moment, where we realize that the well from which we've been drinking is dry.

It's at this crucial moment that our spiritual journey CAN begin. We can recognize that our strategies for happiness haven't worked (and will never work), and in that moment of despair, we can begin an honest search for answers.

In this, the second episode of a 5-part series, you will re...

Many think that spiritual awakening leads to a boring life, one of abstaining and renunciation. They fear it means never having any fun and sitting on a cushion all day saying goofy words like, "Om" and "namaste".

But in this 5-part series, you'll learn that the opposite is true. In fact, our host, Roy Biancalana, says enlightenment leads to a life of engagement, playfulness, and authenticity, a life where the past is powerless, loneliness disappears, and drama ends.

In this first episode of the series, you'll discover not only what spiritual aw...

Roy is back with another epic rant! The first time Roy unloaded (episode #136), he ranted about things that drive a conscious relationship like himself insane.

In this episode, which might feel like someone waking you up out of a deep sleep by dumping a bucket of cold water on your head, Roy rants about 4 things that surprise and confuse him, things that just don't make sense. People say they want to attract a healthy, sustainable, intimate relationship and yet they don't do the very things that are needed to make it happen. It leaves Roy s...

To lead meaningful and effective lives, we need to make sense of truths that appear to contradict each other, and that's what this 6-part series of podcasts is all about. Each episode in the series seeks to improve our relationship and life skills by helping us find "the middle way," or the balance between two truths that appear contradictory but actually aren't.

So, in this episode, Roy discusses MASCULINE and FEMININE. These energies (they aren't genders) hold the key to attraction, chemistry, and a great sex life!

But balance is not th...

To lead meaningful and effective lives, we need to make sense of truths that appear to contradict each other, and that's what this 6-part series of podcasts is all about. Each episode in the series seeks to improve our relationship and life skills by helping us find "the middle way," or the balance between two truths that appear contradictory but actually aren't.

So, in this episode, Roy discusses SELFISH and UNSELFISH. Separately, they are both true—we need to value our needs, but we also need to consider others—but together they seem contradictory, or at le...

To lead meaningful and effective lives, we need to make sense of truths that appear to contradict each other, and that's what this 6-part series of podcasts is all about. Each episode in the series seeks to improve our relationship and life skills by helping us find "the middle way," or the balance between two truths that appear contradictory but actually aren't.

So, in this episode, Roy discusses JUDGMENT and DISCERNMENT. Being wise and discerning keeps us from experiencing heartache and pain, but how is that different from being judging or judgmental? How do we d...

To lead meaningful and effective lives, we need to make sense of truths that appear to contradict each other, and that's what this 6-part series of podcasts is all about. Each episode in the series seeks to improve our relationship and life skills by helping us find "the middle way," or the balance between two truths that appear contradictory but actually aren't.

So, in this episode, Roy discusses COMPASSION and RESPONSIBILITY. Separately, they are both true—compassion and forgiveness are necessary but so is responsibility and accountability—but together they seem contradictory, or at least it lo...

To lead meaningful and effective lives, we need to make sense of truths that appear to contradict each other, and that's what this 6-part series of podcasts is all about. Each episode in the series seeks to improve our relationship and life skills by helping us find "the middle way," or the balance between two truths that appear contradictory but actually aren't.

So, in this episode, Roy discusses THINKING and FEELING. Separately, they are both true—thoughts are important, but so are emotions—but together they seem contradictory, or at least it looks that way. But l...

To lead meaningful and effective lives, we need to make sense of truths that appear to contradict each other, and that's what this 6-part series of podcasts is all about. Each episode in the series seeks to improve our relationship and life skills by helping us find "the middle way," or the balance between two truths that appear contradictory but actually aren't.

So, in this episode, Roy discusses ACCEPTANCE and ACTION. Separately, they are both true—we need to accept reality, but we also need to take action—but together they seem contradictory, or at least...

Let's face it: relationships can be a source of great frustration. People do and say things that trigger intense reactions within us, and all too often, because we don't know how to handle those feelings, we react in ways that make it worse. We've all been there.

In this episode, Roy shares a talk given by his favorite spiritual teacher, Michael Singer. In his down-to-earth, practical style, Michael goes into detail describing the skill that we all need to develop if we want to stay centered when we're triggered or when experiencing inner turbulence.

There are at least seven issues that impact our ability to "attract lasting love," yet they are rarely talked about. Well, no more.

In this series of podcasts, Roy discusses, in the most practical, down-to-earth way possible, the topics we should be talking about. These topics, and the advice you'll receive, will give you a chance to audit your life and perhaps experience a complete makeover, which will finally allow you to have success in your pursuit of intimacy.

In this episode, which is the final installment of a 7-part series, Ro...

There are at least seven issues that impact our ability to "attract lasting love," yet they are rarely talked about. Well, no more.

In this series of podcasts, Roy discusses, in the most practical, down-to-earth way possible, the topics we should be talking about. These topics, and the advice you'll receive, will give you a chance to audit your life and perhaps experience a complete makeover, which will finally allow you to have success in your pursuit of intimacy.

In this episode, which is part six of a 7-part series, Roy ad...