The Ace Couple

The start of an important, yet contentious conversation. Please be nice! We put these episodes off for literal years, because historically some of you have been EXTREMELY not nice about this topic.

Yet another type of romantic and/or sexual feeling that we will simply never understand...

Ketamine can be a life-saving treatment... It can also be prohibitively expensive. And only fellow chronically ill Americans will believe the audacity of our health insurance company revealed in a series of phone calls we've had this month.

A life-saving drug.

Analyzing a 25 year old robot movie that bombed in order to make a point about sexuality, humanity, and asexual media representation because we simultaneously love and hate it.

Imagine a year where the Tony award winning best play and musical were both asexual??? Maybe Happy Ending might not be as elegant or explicit as Purpose in that regard, but honestly....please just let me have this?

Wow somehow we haven't done an AITA yet in 2025..let's fix that!

Courtney is fighting doctors again.

Reviewing and adding our Asexual commentary on quotes about Marriage, Family, & Home Life from the book Oxymoronica: paradoxical wit and wisdom from history’s greatest wordsmiths.

2025 Tony award winning play, Purpose, is a triumph of the stage which prominently features asexuality as one of its core themes.

Reviewing and adding our Asexual commentary on quotes about Sex, Love, and Romance from the book Oxymoronica: paradoxical wit and wisdom from history's greatest wordsmiths.

Courtney went undercover on the anti-vax dating site, Unjected...

Courtney is now an ordained minister of the Church of Gnome and she is ready to officiate your Ace wedding (or other important life event)!

TWO weird allo show episodes in one year?? Oh, how we spoil you! Today we talk about Pop the Balloon, Million Dollar Secret, and Sneaky Links: Dating After Dark.

July is disability pride month. We've already talked about Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome from Courtney's perspective a lot, so here's Royce's perspective as an EDS spouse.

Cake has been the most consistent symbol for Ace Pride over the last 20 years- let's explore why!

(...and also a Nazi)

Selah and the Spades is a movie that brings us Ace rep that's rare in a number of ways...but it's also complicated.

Not sure if you've noticed, but politics lately are uh....not good

Pride feels a little different this year with the state of our politics.

Enough of you listeners requested that we play this game...so we did!

We're diving into another new subreddit because it's easy to do and a lot of you like it.

Pronatalists like JD Vance, Elon Musk, and Simone & Malcom Collins have very dangerous ideas for society that everyone should be raising alarm bells about. Unfortunately, they have tremendous wealth and power and they're infiltrating every level of our federal government, so we need to take them very seriously.

HBO's Genera+ion held so much promise for a sapphic, mixed-orientation allo-ace relationship. It is pretty obvious that Greta is an Asexual teenager whose only just beginning to understand herself and probably doesn't have the language for it yet, however, the show got cancelled, so we unfortunately won't get to see more of her character development.

What Now? with Trevor Noah recently platformed Scott Galloway. In the past, Scott has asserted that pro-Palestinian protests are the antisemitic result of college students not having enough sex. Now, he says Asexual men are a danger to society.

We recorded this episode before RFK Jr's latest autism registry bullshit.

It's time to dive into the deep, dark depths of the Acephobia-Transphobia pipeline. A phenomenon which has been self-reported by TERFs and witnessed by the Asexual community for years. If you're new here because J.K. Rowling's hate tweets attacking International Asexuality Day surprised you, then welcome! We've got SO MUCH to catch you up on...

On International Asexuality Day, JK Rowling wished us a "Happy International Fake Oppression Day to everyone who wants complete strangers to know they don't fancy a shag". Large swaths of the internet were surprised and concluded that her bigotry is growing...but any Aces paying attention already predicted this would happen YEARS ago, because transphobia and acephobia go hand in hand.

TTRPGs are a source of great joy in our life...except, of course, when we dive into these subreddits.

Life is Strange: Steph's Story is not only a welcome edition to the Life is Strange universe, but it is actually written by Aromantic Asexual author Rosiee Thor an includes a delightfully realistic and relatable Ace character.

Life is Strange is one of our favorite franchises, and we finally have not only one, but TWO examples of Ace rep that can be found within. Today we discuss the almost certainly Demisexual character Diamond Washington in the video game Life is Strange: Double Exposure.

In this, the year 2025, people are fed up with dating apps, conservatives, and even talking to people like a real person. Luckily we have such innovations as Pokemon Go and AI to solve these problems. And if that doesn't work, perhaps we can turn to the government-run dating apps. What could possibly go wrong!?

Our dentist offered us HRT to "cure our low libido". Yes, really.

Times are scary out there, but you didn't need us to tell you that, so today we're keeping in chill and chatting about some of the things that have been keeping us as happy and healthy as possible including hobbies, pets, habits, and more.

We're, unfortunately, back at it again with the weird allo reality shows. Today we talk about MILF Manor, Love Island, Secret Lives of Mormon Wives, and Later Daters.

It's Aro Week and Courtney's been feeling awfully Aromantic lately...but even so, it's still complicated. So here's some probably demiromantic rambling on the topic.

New research on public attitudes towards asexuality has been published by Kings College London Policy institute authored by Yasmin Benoit, Vanessa Hirneis, and Michael Sanders. Today we have Yasmin back to discuss a few of these findings and to give an audience Q&A!

Politics is a hellscape right now, but here's a little glimmer of GOOD news that you may have missed!

Back by popular demand!

As a charting podcast, we receive some bizarre PR pitches that are hilariously misaligned with our content at best and downright acephobic at worst. Take a peak into our inbox as we throw some shade at "life-saving" sexual technologies and grad school eunichs.

Even though Word of God representation leaves a lot to be desired, Viktor could be a very interesting case study as a character that became more fleshed out and humanized at the same time he was determined to be Asexual. This bucks usual trends we see when a character's asexuality gets erased as they grow.

Once again we have a "creator confirms off-screen on a twitch interview that a character is asexual" situation on our hands. But wait there's more! It's also the disabled character who becomes a robot. We have THOUGHTS (but they may not be what you think)!

We're welcoming the New Year with leading activist Yasmin Benoit to talk about her Ace in the UK report, her many "controversies", and an exciting announcement...Stay tuned for Part Two!

Submit questions for Part Two! contact@theacecouple.com

New subreddit, who dis?

I Saw the TV Glow is a visceral queer horror movie that expresses the fear of living as your authentic self and, perhaps more importantly, the fear of never having the opportunity. Many viewers pick up on the Transgender themes, but fewer notice the subtler themes that can be interpreted as Asexual and/or Aromantic.

Time to right our past wrongs and finally officially judge the ungrateful lizard gender reveal invitee...among other r/AITA posts pertaining to Aces. Get the gavel ready.

According to a recent survey, nearly a quarter of iPhone users say green bubbles are a dating dealbreaker, so that's our cue to rant about about technology and capitalism.

The director of The Hangover gave a throwaway line to a reporter at the premier of the second movie which got published in a single article that no longer exists, but it made it onto Wikipedia anyway, so now we have to analyze Alan Garner as Ace Rep.

Some brief and scrambled post-election thoughts, including a few predictions for what we might expect in the next few years.

Season 3 of Heartstopper finally gave us the AroAce rep we've been waiting for!

Governor Laura Kelly signed a proclamation officially recognizing Ace Week in the state of Kansas! That means that in 2024, for the first time, our state acknowledged both Ace Week and Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week...so what's next for local Aspec activism?

With lesser-known orientations, such as ours on the A-spectrums, we often curse the lack of representation in mainstream media or praise it when it does the bare minimum, when we SHOULD be looking at the Own Voices examples coming from talented creators within our own community who are always going to be ahead of the curve. Today we talk about Baker Thief which is all of that and more.

Despite Obergefell v. Hodges legalizing same-sex marriage in 2015, we still do not have marriage equality in this country. Notably, Disabled, Ace, Aro, and Black Americans do not have equal rights and benefits under our current marriage framework.

The new documentary 'Lover of Men' asks if America's favorite president was queer. WE ask if our hunger to queer historical figures and justify these views by carefully picking and choosing some social and historical details while discarding others is simply thrusting us into a new era of limited binary thinking.

Here we go again. A new round of discourse sprung up calling everyone who sees asexual representation in The Vampire Chronicles "stupid" because Anne Rice wanted to write gay vampire sex the whole time but couldn't because it was literally illegal...so naturally, we've been tagged in. Here's what the author has actually said.

We did it! We finally made it through more than 14 accursed hours. Here's the finale of what we found.

More horrors lie in store for us as we continue to analyze Project 2025...

Continuing on from last week, we're commenting on some of the highlights from Project 2025 training videos 3-9.

ProPublica recently leaked 23 videos created for Project 2025's Presidential Administration Academy. Today we recap and unpack their training on "Left-Wing Code Words and Language".

For Good Omens part 2 we discuss season two of the TV show as well information about the author- including things he's said about what is and is not canon as well as the recent allegations against him.

The loving yet sexless relationship between an angel and a demon resonates deeply with many in the asexual community, so let's dive into the Good Omens TV series and talk about why that is.

As avid players of Dungeons and Dragons, Co-DMs, and players previously scorned, we know all too well the immense joy and devastating pain that asexual players can sometimes face at the gaming table. Due to popular demand, our love of the game, and desire for DnD to be a safer hobby for our community, we're back to analyze another round of TTRPG horror stories.

As avid players of Dungeons and Dragons, Co-DMs, and players previously scorned, we know all too well the immense joy and devastating pain that asexual players can sometimes face at the gaming table. Due to popular demand, our love of the game, and desire for DnD to be a safer hobby for our community, we're back to analyze another round of TTRPG horror stories.

Trump's VP pick has weird pronatalist policy opinions and close ties to The Heritage Foundation.

Trump's VP pick has weird pronatalist policy opinions and close ties to The Heritage Foundation.

And we're so glad we did! Not only does Bury Your Gays have FANTASTIC Ace rep, but it is just outright one of the best books we've read together in a long time.

And we're so glad we did! Not only does Bury Your Gays have FANTASTIC Ace rep, but it is just outright one of the best books we've read together in a long time.

Are these people assholes about asexuality? You all know the drill, so let's get to it!

Are these people assholes about asexuality? You all know the drill, so let's get to it!

New logo, who dis? Plus, we got silenced during Pride month and Courtney's boobs broke PodBean.

New logo, who dis? Plus, we got silenced during Pride month and Courtney's boobs broke PodBean.

We've spent a lot of time covering articles that range from completely ignoring to downright hating Asexual people, so today we are thrilled to be covering an actually good article by Kera Bolonik about an asexual wedding.

We've spent a lot of time covering articles that range from completely ignoring to downright hating Asexual people, so today we are thrilled to be covering an actually good article by Kera Bolonik about an asexual wedding.

Sexless marriages are often stigmatized as failures, but is the absence of sex truly a sign of a loveless relationship? Today we critique an article by Kate Lister, which fails to genuinely include asexual perspectives, and explore how understanding asexual experiences can benefit all individuals, regardless of their orientation.

Sexless marriages are often stigmatized as failures, but is the absence of sex truly a sign of a loveless relationship? Today we critique an article by Kate Lister, which fails to genuinely include asexual perspectives, and explore how understanding asexual experiences can benefit all individuals, regardless of their orientation.

Outside of the few explicitly Ace characters in media, there's a wide variety of Ace vibes and headcannons. Today, we'll talk about long running action adventure manga series like Dragon Ball and One Piece and how we can look at character depictions through all the adaptations, translations, and filler content.

Outside of the few explicitly Ace characters in media, there's a wide variety of Ace vibes and headcannons. Today, we'll talk about long running action adventure manga series like Dragon Ball and One Piece and how we can look at character depictions through all the adaptations, translations, and filler content.

How has our relationship dynamic changed over the span of a decade? Do we feel pressure to conform to traditional gender norms? How do people react to us being vegan vs being asexual? We answer all these and more!

How has our relationship dynamic changed over the span of a decade? Do we feel pressure to conform to traditional gender norms? How do people react to us being vegan vs being asexual? We answer all these and more!

We recently celebrated ten whole years of Asexual marital bliss! To celebrate we're answering listener questions about exploring new labels and identities after getting married, how people perceive our relationship, what "date nights" and intimacy looks like for us, and more!

We recently celebrated ten whole years of Asexual marital bliss! To celebrate we're answering listener questions about exploring new labels and identities after getting married, how people perceive our relationship, what "date nights" and intimacy looks like for us, and more!

We're rejoined today by Yilin Wang to give an update on the British Museum stolen translations debacle and to discuss their absolutely stunning new book The Lantern and the Night Moths.

We're rejoined today by Yilin Wang to give an update on the British Museum stolen translations debacle and to discuss their absolutely stunning new book The Lantern and the Night Moths.

We honestly had no intention of talking about Ashly Madison again, but a new documentary came out and we just couldn't resist watching!

What is cheating? Is "emotional cheating" a thing? Have we ever been cheated on? Plus a very silly article review about Ashley Madison users who cheat on their spouses but for some reason are adamant about their nauseatingly high brand loyalty.

Ca$h's Asexual journey continues into season 2. How does it develop... and is it getting better?

Last year we spotted some errors in the GLAAD Where We Are on TV report, so we thought we'd dig in this year's report to see if the numbers seem more accurate and analyze what it means for Asexual representation as whole.

An NYU professor thinks the Pro-Palestinian college protests are due to a lack of sex which is yet another example of sex being used as a tool of control to induce complacency and sexlessness being used as a scare tactic. This episode is NOT a comprehensive educational tool on the crisis in Gaza, but it IS a call to action...

Wow, has it really been 10 months since our last r/AmITheAsshole episode? Prepare for another round of judgement!

The New York Times Magazine asks, "Can a Sexless Marriage Be a Happy One?" in their recent Modern Love Issue, but they made a GLARING omission...

Let's talk about Asexual comedy! Starting with the Asexual computer repair episode of Nathan for You and following up with several standup sets, we have a variety of examples. Some is good, some is bad, some is written by us and for us, while some is downright cruel to us.

The Heritage Foundation is at it again. Their "Mandate for Leadership" tells a terrifying story of what the country will look like under the next conservative president and EVERY queer person needs to be aware.

It's time for round two of weird allo reality shows! Today we discuss Love is Blind Sweden, Perfect Match, Twenty Somethings Austin, and Dated & Related.

Sensational headlines and hateful comments online have informed us that Kourtney Kardashian came out as Autosexual. We investigate these claims and ponder whether she's even the first in the family to identify with an Ace-spec label.

Although not explicitly stated to be Asexual representation, the South Korean Netflix film Love and Leashes shows a fascinatingly sexless BDSM relationship that resonates with many Aces.

Forbes released a survey on "The State of Dating in America" and some of these results seem downright bizarre!

TTRPGs can be a sacred space for queer people exploring their identities...unfortunately, if you get the wrong GM, it can also be a space riddled with acephobia.

Is Alastor the Radio Demon good Aromantic and/or Asexual representation? And, for that matter, is his orientation even canon and obvious to the average viewer? We have THOUGHTS.

We got Aromantic Spectrum Awareness Week recognized by Governor Laura Kelly in the state of Kansas, so now we're celebrating by playing AroAce Bingo!

Today we discuss the adorable Jewish magician who served as a surprisingly early and surprisingly good example of Asexual representation on the web-turned-TV-series High Maintenance.