My Coach Kate

When we are afraid of doing something or we hesitate to get started, that fear or anxiety is very real. It's hard to believe that there is a fun and silly strategy that will take something that is serious and real and transform it into a lighthearted and silly experience. It's easy to do and actually fun once you learn how. And the best part? It will get you back into action again in no time. 

Time to add another tool to our toolbox of things that we can pull out when it feels hard to change our thinking. This week we will address those moments when your thinking feels stuck or inflexible. What are the struggles that you have in your life that other people just don't seem to have. This will be a hands-on process that can change your thinking quickly, based on skills that you already have. 

We have all heard this advice before: 'fake it until you make it' to build your inner confidence. But, just because it is well known advice, does that mean that it is the best advice? We are going to talk about how this advice can advance your skills in one way, but that it really can't get you the rest of the way to true confidence in yourself. There is a big difference between faking it and building real confidence and I have 4 practical tips for you to get you on your way. 

Did you ever picture what it was like for your mom to grow up in the era that she grew up in? What was life like in the 1950's for people, and for women in particular? We are going to talk about the concept of conformity that was evident at that time and what it has to do with women today? If you find that you sometimes dismiss your own needs in order to accommodate others, then this is an important episode for you. 

Who do you look up to? Are there people in your life that you look to for advice or who are further down the road on the path that you want to travel? Think about how you think about those people. Have you ever put them on a pedestal and pictured them not having the struggles that you have? We are going to talk about this phenomenon and how you can think of these experts in a way that is more helpful. 

Do you know that saying that the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence? Why does it appear that way? What is it that our brains are telling us or that we are thinking to feel like other people just might have it better than we do? We are going to explore this idea, along with 3 consequences for having this mindset and then I will give you 4 valuable ways to squash it in its tracks. You will leave here with the realization that you don't have to live with envy and that it IS possible...

It's natural to want to make more room in our life for hobbies, friends, other things that we want to work towards. And we feel like we don't have time. Or we might want to work towards a specific goal, but there are things in our way that stop us from getting there. This week, we will explore an idea that can jump-start the results, borrowing a strategy that doctor's use to solve a physical problem by 'going without', as an experiment. Sometimes, we have to isolate the possible problems, in order to figure out exactly what is causing...

Have you heard about the studies that look at the effectiveness of taking a placebo, measured against those that take an actual medication and against those that receive no treatment at all? Let's take a peek into why the placebo works in the way that it does and how you can use this concept in a very practical way. How can you use this knowledge to make some impact on the challenges that you have in your life or in an area where you feel stuck?

Are you in a relationship? If so, for how long? Have you ever considered which of the 5 stages that you and your partner are currently in? If you aren't in a relationship right now, you can think of another couple that you are close to or a previous relationship. You might be surprised that the length of time that two people are together doesn't always dictate the stage of the relationship. 

This week, I have been experimenting with a new technique to make habit formation easier. We have talked so much about setting big goals. And sometimes we get so intimidated by those big, scary goals that we can get in our way of doing the work to get to them. This new technique that I have been using this week has been so successful that I want to share it with you so that you can finally up your habit game too. 

Just how busy are you? Very often, the answer is that we are MUCH busier than we actually are, if we looked at what is on our calendar and added up the actual minutes of physical work. We add in a lot of that feeling of being busy, by adding up the time that we spend THINKING about our tasks. There is a mental load that goes along with many things that we do. Let's talk about what it is that we can actually do to catch our brain when it tells us how busy we are. 

This week I am telling a story. Listen to an analogy about Tom and the house that he builds. Then I will pose a question to you about two different roads and which one you would take. It's an episode to get you thinking about what kind of person that you want to be in this lifetime. It's as old as the question "Is it better to have loved and lost? Or to never have loved at all?"

When you feel stuck with moving towards a goal that you really want to achieve, sometimes the problem isn't really what you think it is. There is something else at play underneath, something that your brain is doing, to try and hold on to the identity that it knows. To the you that feels normal. Turning that problem into a project to complete takes some attention to what it means for your identity to change. This episode will explain why your brain is trying to keep you safe and what to focus on so that it will feel safer...

This week we will do another little experiment of bringing a little something to your life. If you are a skeptic when you hear about energy, manifesting, and the Law of Attraction, then this is an episode for you. We are first going to dive into a little bit of the basics of Quantum Physics in order to understand what Alignment is and what 3 things in your life you need to align in order to attract something to you. 

What are the unexpected things that bring a little spark of joy to your day? Do you ever plan for things to sprinkle throughout your day or your week that make you happy? We all know what it's like to fall into a habitual routine and to sometimes forget to be present, forget to have a little bit of fun and laughter in our day. Sometimes, we can even be guilty of not being able to list a few things that bring us joy. We might forget to take care of ourself in this way. If this sounds familiar...

We have talked before about the dos and don'ts of manifesting those things that you really want in your life. But what if you are feeling skeptical about manifestation? What if you think of it is something that is just fairy magic pretend stuff? Or that you think that it could be real but it's something that only mystical people know how to do? This episode is for the dis-believers. You just might realize that this is something that, not only you could do in your life, but that there is good reason why you should be manifesting positive...

Sometimes we can't control our circumstances. Sometimes we can control our circumstances but we just don't want to change them at the moment. It might not seem worth the effort. Or maybe it's just not the right time. We are going to look at an idea about, not just making the best of a bad situation, but are going to go one step farther to explore who it is that we want to be in the situation. There might be skills or personality traits that we want to have. Maybe a new attitude or perspective in that situation. How...

Have you ever heard a song that caught you off guard? One that you didn't know but that you just instantly fell in love with? I am going to share a few times that this happened to me and 3 lessons that we can learn from these little surprise moments. 

Last week we talked about how to put whatever problem that you are encountering in your life into a coaching tool that is called The Model. The Model allows you to take a look at the thought that you are having about your situation and to see what emotions and actions it is bringing and how that is tied to the results that you are getting in your life This week, we are going to explore what to do from there. You know that there is a certain result that you really want in your life. And there is...

We all know that when we are unhappy with something in our life, we can make a change. Change is not usually easy and sometimes we just don't want to. Maybe we are afraid, maybe we are tired, maybe the change just doesn't feel worth the effort. I am going to give you a way to get out of that funk and actually be able to turn up the happiness meter when you DON'T want to make a change. 

Come and join me for some reflection on the WILDFIT program that I have been following for the last 7 weeks. It's been an educational journey and I am going to specifically talk about emotional eating: why we do it, how we learned it, and how to recognize when you are doing it too. This is such an important episode if you have a desire to be healthy, to lose any weight, or if you are just interested in the differences in how our ancestors ate vs. how we learn how to eat today. 

We are at the final part of our 4-episode series. We have explored the GROW model for attaining a goal, one letter at a time. In this last segment we explore the W for "Way Forward" (or some prefer to use the word 'will'). It's time to make a map for yourself that you can follow step-by-step and have that goal achieved before you know it. We will also talk about how to fool-proof your plan to make success inevitable. 

In part 3 of our series, we will take a look at the obstacles that you identified last week that might get in the way of you accomplishing this particular goal that you have chosen for yourself. We will take a look at the particular ways that your brain might try and get you to believe that you have only 2 choices available to you: succeed flawlessly or give up and fail. We will explore all of the beautiful options that are really available to you. 

In Part 2 of this series, we will explore the R in the GROW model. R stands for Reality and we will take an honest look at where you are right now, before you start the journey towards your goal. In any good journey, you must plan for the obstacles that you might encounter so that you can be prepared to handle them. Then those challenges will not stop you and you will not feel stuck. 

Welcome to a 4-part series this month on how to achieve any goal that you set. Once you listen to the entire series and do the work that goes along with each episode, you will be on your way to following a step-by-step plan that is personalized for you and will result in becoming the person who has that specific accomplishment that you want. In part 1, we will choose and fine-tune the first goal that you want to use this process on. We will also assess that goal and tweak it, if necessary, so that you will be on...

This week we are celebrating Episode #150 together. Let's take a look at the different ways that we tend to celebrate the accomplishments in our lives. Are we helping ourselves or hurting ourselves with the rewards that we choose to mark the moments that we want to pat ourselves on the back to say 'great job'? After listening to this episode, you just might have a whole new outlook on the moments that you will want to mark and the way that you can reward yourself that will truly make you happier. 

We all know that couples are supposed to compromise to make decisions. But let's talk about a positive way and a negative way to do this. Settling and Acceptance are very similar ideas. But we all know that settling has a negative connotation to it and acceptance a positive one. But do you understand what the difference is and why one is positive and one is negative? Understanding the difference can help you to move from a position of having settled in some key areas of your life to a much better feeling by accepting your partner's needs and...

We've all seen that depiction in movies and cartoons when the little angel on your right shoulder whispers in your ear, telling you to do the things that will keep you on the path that you want to follow. And the little devil on your other shoulder will whisper into your other ear, giving you directions that will give you some pleasure in the moment and lead you astray, off of the path that you have planned. Let's take a closer look at this analogy this week and see how you can learn about your own self-talk, inside of...

Do you ever feel stuck in your thinking? Or, let me ask you this: do you ever think about what someone else should or shouldn't do? And it makes you feel bad for someone else? Or judgmental about that person? You know that it doesn't change the circumstances and it doesn't make you feel good either. It just makes you feel helpless. And maybe even a little bit on a 'higher level', since we think that we would make a better choice than that other person is making. We are going to talk about one slight change that you...

We all know that we react when things happen in our lives. We interpret what it means when someone doesn't text back or when someone's words or tone is not what we expect or when their actions don't make sense to us. But how much of our interpretations come from our own stories? The ones that lie underneath and come from the stories that we heard and learned growing up: from our families, from our friends, and from the world around us. How do we break out what is just a story now? Let's take a look together at...

'And' can be one of those powerful little words that can change the way that you talk to others, talk to yourself, and enable true understanding, validation, and set and hold boundaries. That's a big promise for such a little word! This is an episode that is packed with specific examples so that you can walk away and begin using this little trick right away. It's one of my favorite tools!

Have you ever found yourself in a situation in which you are in a crowd? Maybe it's not even a crowd of strangers, but people that you like or love, but it's either too loud, too angry, too chaotic for you to feel calm, safe, and comfortable? If you are ever around anyone else's negative energy, then listen to this episode to begin to think about the practical steps that you would need to take in order to be that calm in the middle of the storm. You know that it's important to take care of yourself, but how...

Everyone needs a balance of things in their life to make sure that you feel good, that you are taking care of yourself, and that you are creating an environment for yourself in which you can thrive. We are each so individual and we are going to look at why your personal pie chart of categories cannot be copied from someone else. One size does not fit all and you will learn how to create the personal mix that will work for you right now, at this time in your life. 

When you have wanted to drop a few pounds in the past, how have you gone about putting together your own personal plan? My guess is that you might have done what a lot of us have done. We started out by looking at all of the choices of diets that are out there so that we know what to do. I am going to tell you this week why that strategy never seems to really work for us. There is a much better way to put together our own weight loss puzzle and to make sure that we...

Active Listening has been around for a very long time. We have all heard of it and you might even know the steps. But have you ever spent a significant amount of time practicing them? Practiced them until it feel more natural? If you have, then you have gotten to the other side of this to be able to witness and feel the magic that is there. Let's talk through how a practice, as simple as Active Listening is, can transform your communication at home. 

You have heard the saying "Show me your friends, and I will show you your future", or "I will tell you who you are". We are going to take a look at your closest friendships and do some reflections on them and on the influence that they have on you. What do your friends show others about your core values? And if this isn't the area of your life that is really clicking for you right now, what can you do about it?

Have you ever heard of the terms Carb Cycling, Metabolic Confusion, or Macro-nutrients? If you have but you aren't really sure what they are all about or how they relate to each other, then we are going to take a little crash course into the basics. It won't be a deep dive into every concept but just enough to give you what you need to know in case you want to try this out for yourself. There are lots of ways to personalize this to fit your life and your specific needs. I am starting out on trying out...

Let's talk about what is left on your list of brand-new habits that you want to start. Or you are working on starting them. Maybe you even do them once in a while, but not yet regularly. Let's consider why using accountability and raising the importance of starting those to an emergency in your life just might be the ticket to living a satisfying and fulfilling life. Once you listen to this episode, you will have a few ideas of how to get started and begin creating some time to do so. 

Have you heard of Gretchen Rubin's Book, The Four Tendencies? If you haven't, I will give you a quick re-cap and this week we will talk about what it is like to be the tendency that is the MOST common- that of The Obliger. If you are an Obliger like I am, you will hear about the number one tip that you can put into your life to embrace this tendency and to make it work for you, rather than against you. 

I know- you've heard it... fruits and vegetables are good for the diet. Plant-based eating is good for your gut health. Good gut health is the key to lots of all-around health. But what do we do when we don't want to completely change the way that we are eating? How can we make it feel easier? You have come to the right place if you want to know how to 'sneak it in' and not really feel a big change. But follow this plan and you will soon find yourself with a much happier gut. 

How is your New Year going? Many of us have begun some new habits and already by week 3 of January, it is not as exciting and fun as it felt on Week 1. Sometimes we already feel like we are juggling too much and that familiar feeling of overwhelm creeps in. What's a girl to do? Tune in for some practical tips that you can put into place today. 

Did you realize that MOST of what we do in a day, in a week, throughout the year are our established habit actions? We do have some variety in our lives, but even when an event comes up that we attend, or we go on a date, or see family, our behavior is largely based on our habitual behavior in those situations. When we begin a new habit, when is it actually considered to be a habit? We are going to dive into this deeply this week to look at the stages that we have to go through to...

There are so many sayings around telling us to live a big life and to chase our dreams and never to give up until we get to exactly what it is that we want. After all, we don't want to have any regrets, right? This week we are going to explore the idea of what it means to actually live a smaller version of that life and a way that we can do that and end up with more satisfaction, gratitude and maybe even some manifesting the things that we want. 

It's that time again. Many of us will be sitting down to write our New Year's Resolutions. I have a different approach for you this year. Before you begin making yourself promises that will be abandoned within the first few weeks, consider making some goals that are sure to work for you. I will talk about the key factor that you should think about so that you can start the New Year off in a way that will make it the best year yet. What if this is the year that you can finally achieve that big goal that...

What are the songs and the bands and the artists that really get your blood pumping? We all have favorite types of music and this week we will dive in to why your favorites are your favorites. And more importantly, how can you use your favorite music, both the old favorites and new ones that you can discover, to help you to create new habits and routines in your life? We will take a look at the science and the biology of what happens when you listen your music that you love. 

As we develop new skills in ourselves, how often do we begin by sitting and relaxing, closing our eyes and taking some breaths. We do it with meditating, with praying, with thinking or calming down. Let's take a look at the two books that I am currently reading to see how slowing down helps with developing two new skills: one from each book. And we will talk about how you can relate this to your life and the new skills that you are able to develop, whether or not you believe that you can right now. 

What are your thoughts on hypnosis? What about self-hypnosis? Some may by more familiar with this than others, but I bet that most people do not currently have this tool as a part of their daily life. But, what if there is something there that you might be missing out on? Come along with me as I share my thoughts from the book that I am reading, The Self-Hypnosis Diet by Steven and Joy Gurgevich. I will share my experience and you can learn how to help your sub-conscious mind work for you in the background of...

What are the things that you do consistently in your life? I bet that you have other things that you wish that you did more consistently. Have you ever started some new habits and then had them fall off when you didn't keep them up perfectly? Let's take a look at the difference between consistency and perfection and get a big clue to what is holding you back from starting some of those new habits. 

Have you ever thought about the things that we do to make ourselves feel better? How do you get through a stressful day? Can we find any lessons in taking a look at the way that babies learn to self-soothe themselves? How do they do it and what is at the root of what we do? Let's talk about this so that we can find the ways that are most effective and healthy for our lives. 

How do you decide what it is that you fit into your morning routine? Have you had the same morning routine for years and years? Or does it change over time? Or is it completely different every day? What are your morning tasks tied to? Is it the short-term goals that you have for the day? Or do any of your tasks get you a little bit closer to your long-term goals? Let's jump in and look at how you can assess your morning routine and how you might think of looking at it in a different way, as...

Sometimes you find yourself in a difficult decision. Maybe it's even a small decision, but it feels like a little tug of war between what you want in the moment and what you wish that you would decide to give yourself what it is that you like in the long run. When this happens, I have a tool for you that you can use to make it feel easier. Learning the art of practice is one way to kick perfectionism to the curb. And to help you in your journey to adopt new habits and beliefs about yourself. Listen...

Do you ever wish that you could have more control over things in your life? What about over other people or even over things like our country's election? It can feel terrible wrestling with the fact that we just don't have control over things. Let's take a look at how shifting your mindset just a little bit can help you let go a little bit. Can help you focus on something else. Can help you to consider what things you CAN control in your life. Especially with Election Day happening this week, it's always helpful to think about where...

Think about the way that you live your every-day life. How many days seem the same? How many days are filled with activities that are closely aligned with your core values? We have all established some habits that we WANT to keep. They are habits that help us stay close to those values. Or they propel us towards our goals. And then we have other habits. That feel comforting but are not as aligned with the values or goals that we have. Let's put a magnifying glass on how we are living each day so that we can make...

What are you doing right now? Right this very minute? Now I know that you are looking at the description on this episode, but what else is going on in your life today? Can you picture others who are having the same kind of day as you today? What about the exact opposite kind of day? Let's take a look at another tool for your toolbox that can help to put your life into perspective very quickly and it only takes a little bit of imagination. It's just the thing that you need when you feel unmotivated or stuck.  Duration: 00:16:14

Have you ever had a See and Say wheel when you were little? If not, are you familiar with that old toy where you pull down the lever or pull the string to see which farm animal it will land on and make that noise? We are going to talk about what that old vintage toy has to do with choosing the thoughts in your head, the feelings that you have and the actions that you choose. After listening to this episode, it might occur to you that the things that do are related to what we have chosen...

We all want things and we all like things. What is the difference, really? Very often it is easy to identify the things that we want. It requires an action to give something to ourselves right away, in the moment. It takes a little bit more considering to figure out what the things are that we like. Usually it's a good feeling that we get after something happens. Or when we are proud of ourselves, for doing something hard, or for not doing something. For sticking to a plan. Let's take a look at how to figure this out...

We all get stressed sometimes. We all find ourselves in situations when we reach for a tried and true strategy to help us to calm down. To help us to decide something. To help us to be accepting, to be kind, to stop judging someone else or ourselves. We tend to use the same strategies over and over again. Some of them work well. Sometimes we try a strategy that does not work well enough. And we think that maybe we should learn a new strategy or two. Let's take a peek at how well-rounded your toolbox or tool...

When was the last time that you made a big decision? How did it affect or change your life? Did you stick to it? Come with me this week and learn the definition of decision that changed the way that I think about my decisions. It was an AHA moment this week that I want to share with you. It was something that I used to motivate me and change the view that I have about the decisions that I make. I can turn a decision into a tool that I use when making other decisions. 

When you have a big block of time in front of you, how do you handle it? Do you have a to-do list a mile long? Do you spend more time than you should relaxing? How productive is your day? Is it hit-or-miss if it will be a super-productive day or a wash? Here is a tried-and-true strategy that you can use to make sure that you will always hit it out of the park AND have your time to rest and rejuvenate as well. It works for me and I can't wait to share it with you. 

What are the big milestones that you have achieved in your life? What are the ones that you have coming up? Think about your biggest goals. Today we are going to talk about what ACTUALLY makes up the important stuff of your life. You will be surprised that it just might not be those big goals. This is a practical episode that can help you to start enjoying your life a little bit more, right now: this week. 

Why is it that we look at other people who have accomplished big goals, or the goals that WE want to accomplish, and somehow believe that they have gotten to that point all by themselves? Why do we stop and start and struggle, by trying to figure things out by ourselves? We know that there are people who would be happy to help us, but something is getting in our way from getting that help- what is it?

What is the goal that you have kept in the back of your mind for a while now? The one that you keep delaying starting on? Guess what? It's time to stop putting that one on the back burner. We are getting started with this goal THIS WEEK and I will do it right along with you! Let's have a chat about why you haven't gotten started yet and find out what is involved on stepping aboard that boat to set sail to the island of that goal, finally. 

Think about the current goals that you have for yourself. Especially the goals that have been goals for a while. What are you doing to obtain those? Have you outlined all of the steps to get there? Are you following those steps most of the time? I bet that if someone asked you how committed you feel towards this goal, you might say that you are fully committed. Let's take a look at why your brain is not completely truthful with you about this? Why your brain TELLS you that you are fully committed, and how that is not...

Have you done something recently that had you questioning why you did it after the fact? And how did you ask yourself that question? Was it with judgement and shame? Did you feel upset with yourself, or angry, or ashamed? Let's take a look at what element could be much more useful when you find yourself asking that question of yourself. There is a way to make that a powerful question that can help, instead of hurt. 

What is that you really get out of a coaching session? If we don't go to a coach for expert advice, and we don't go to a coach to tell us what it is that we should do, then what is it that coaching can offer to us? It is a chance to have someone to help us to examine our own minds and our own thinking. There are tiny, little perspective shifts that we can make that will change a lot. Here are 7 of my favorite ones that you can think about or try on for size. 

Whether or not you have ever been coached before, there is always a very first coaching experience. What was yours like? If you have never been coached before, what do you THINK it would be like? There are so many different types of coaching programs. Let's take a look at a few different types, so that if you are ever in the market for a coach for yourself, you can have some knowledge of which type of program might be the best fit for you. 

Have you ever watched any reality TV? What about reality game shows? Well I have been indulging in some of these this week and I have some thoughts. I identified one theme that really stood out among multiple shows and it got me thinking about true integrity. The kind of integrity that seems like an ideal? What are the results that a person creates when they have that type of true character? And where do you find yourself when it comes to this area of our life?

We all come up against things that we wanted to do, planned to do, feel like we SHOULD do, and we just don't feel like it. We come up with reasons why we can't. Why it's not a good idea. With other things that are more important than that, in the moment. How do we know when our brain is giving us good information and when it is giving us an excuse? Did you know that you can't really trust your brain to be honest with you? Let's look at how to figure out when something is an excuse...

Today is a chance to understand some Life Coach 'speak'. I am going to give you some insight into how a Life Coach would use this technique, the Elevator Technique, on a client in a session. Why, do you ask? Understanding one strategy of this technique just might be able to help you when you are coaching yourself and you are feeling stuck. We all have some blind spots in our thinking and knowing how to try this on your own thinking models just might uncover one of those blind spots and give you some insight into your own...

What is decision fatigue? It is the drain on your brain from making thousands of little decisions throughout your day and your week. It is the resulting exhaustion and not being sure, really, why you are so exhausted. What is the solution and how can we put it into effect right away to make our life better, give us more energy and more brain power for other things? It's easier than you think!

Let's take a look at an analogy about a cup of coffee. Ultimately, we will be talking about what it is that you fill 'your cup' with. When life bumps into you, what comes spilling out of your cup. What would you LIKE to fill your cup up with? Let's consider whether or not this is another area of your life in which you have some control and one area that you never considered before. 

This week, we are going to do something a little bit different. We aren't going to talk about something, but we are going to explore the absence of something. Those moments in time in which we get a glimpse of what 'nothing' might be. What is it actually? What is left when all of the somethings are cleared away? Let's have a little conversation and you can see what you think 'nothing' can do for you. 

I know that you have heard the terms gut health and microbiomes thrown around and that you know that they have to do with digestion. But it can be all confusing because we constantly hear that certain foods are good to eat for one diet and terrible to eat in another diet. Your digestion is actually related to so many things so I want to help make it a little bit clearer as far as what things to do to keep your gut happy and working for you. 

Do you workout? Do you want to workout? Do you hate working out? This week let's hear some lessons learned from trying a brand new type of exercise (at least new to me!)- water aerobics. Listen to my 5 reasons why it's one type of exercise that I really like for myself. Maybe it's for you too? Maybe not? Come and see for yourself!

What are your plans for the future? What are your biggest, most far-away dreams? How sure are you that they are going to happen? Let's look at a simple 6-step procedure that you can take to pull those dreams out of your future and land them very squarely in the present. Once you have these 6 steps into place, you can be sure that you will turn your dream into a reality. 

Happy 100 Episodes! I am so excited that you are here to celebrate with me. I have a special guest with me today: my wife Dina! Come and listen as I interview her about our life together and what it's like to live with, and partner with, a life coach. Thanks for being here to celebrate with me Dina!

What kind of an outlook do you have on life? Do you take on challenges as puzzles to figure out and circumstances to handle and move on? Or do you feel like life keeps happening to you and you get the short end of the stick? Let's dive into the surprising simple reason why some people feel hopeless and some feel hopeful, when they are in the exact same circumstances as each other. 

We are going to continue our conversation from last week about the Vacation Mindset and how to make your home life as fun and relaxing as your vacation life. Let's look at how to use a tool for only one minute out of your day to switch up your train of thought to the way that you think on vacation. This is a practical solution that anyone can put into place. 

How do you feel when you are on vacation? What is your mood like? We all know that it's probably more happy and carefree than it is during your time at home. Have you ever stopped to really think about why that is though? What if there is something there that we can learn and extract, so that we can learn to have some of that all of the time?

Have you ever had a time in your life when you felt overwhelmed? Maybe you had a pretty organized life and then some new tasks or events came into it that just seemed like one task too many. It's hard to juggle new things and come up with a new schedule that works. But there is more to this than just a schedule-rearrange. It's important to think about how you are thinking about all of it. Let's look at a tool that can help you to sort it all out. 

Do you remember, in the 80's and 90's, those choose your own adventure books there were popular? Whether or not you do, come and contemplate what these books have to do with living a rewarding life. I want you to consider a little perspective shift that might help to make decisions easier for you, and might even help you to enjoy your life a little bit more. 

What are the things that scare you? What are some things that you just don't feel like doing? How often do you find yourself staying in your comfort zone? Let's look at a few benefits of coming out of that safe space and getting comfortable with the 'uncomfortable'. 

What is your perspective on dessert? Whether or not weight-loss is one of the goals in your life, I am curious about your perspective on the access of dessert. We are going to take a look at 3 different perspectives and see where you land on these ideas. Do you live in one of these philosophies? Or do you combine the ideas into your own unique approach? 

Many decisions that we make in our life just might be made without realizing that we are actually avoiding a consequence. We make them with good intentions, such as to consider someone else's feelings, but are we making the best choice? We also don't want to put ourselves first all of the time. Just what is the right balance? Let's take a look at how to make decisions and be able to detach from the outcome and why we would do that anyway. 

What is the purpose of your life? Not the purpose of life for all of us. But, just for you as an individual? If you aren't sure if you have that really dialed in, then this is the perfect episode to help you to figure that out. Hurry up- your people are waiting for you to know your purpose so that you can help them!

How much do you regularly fit into your day? What are the things that you do every day, or every week without fail? Have you ever had the thought that you just can't fit in more? Let's take a look to see what can actually fit right in with the habits that you already have. You might be surprised!

What  are the ways that you hold yourself back in life? I bet that you might be able to think of one or two, but how would you uncover the ones that you can't easily see. We all place ceilings over ourselves and sometimes we are not even aware that we do it. I am going to give you a tool to become aware of your own and talk about how you can change it, in the places that you would like to. 

Have you ever heard of the 80/20 rule? Many of us have and a lot of us understand the basic concept. But whether or not you have heard of it before, this episode will help you to know it, understand, AND be ready to figure out how to apply it to your life. Only 20% of people will use this knowledge to get the best results. So, if you want to be part of that 20%, then give this episode a listen!

What do you hear in those moments that you are quiet? Those moments where your brain calms and steps aside and you can hear another voice? And where does that voice come from, really? Let's consider these questions this week, in a way that can help you to create the habits that you really want. 

Happy Valentine's Day Week! Whether you currently have a partner or not, it's important to understand the different Love Languages that everyone speaks in, both when giving to others and when receiving love from others and interpreting those actions. You might give and receive in the same language, or you just might be bi-lingual. Let's dive into this special Valentine's Day edition. 

Let's talk about a magical way that you can find one little thing that you are willing to do and make that magic bean grow and grow into something that helps you to enrich your life in all of the different areas. Just like the idea of 'Paying it forward' can expand exponentially to other people, this is way to expand something, but to yourself. 

Most of us have focused on a task, or been sitting at a workshop for longer than optimal. We start to get a headache or our concentration is just faltering. What is a brain break and what is the best way to get one? Let's look at all different scenarios, as they apply to both children and adults. Find the best fit for what you need at the moment, so that you can be productive again when you are ready. 

Have you every been inside a greenhouse? Experienced the warm, sunny environment? Plants thrive in that environment. Let's jump into this analogy and see how it can apply to your life, when you are in a leadership position. Whether or not you have much of a green thumb, you will be able to see your role as a leader in a new way. 

What does your work style look like? Are you a long-distance runner? A sprinter? Let's look at a simple analogy and think about how it benefits you to work one way, and not the other. After listening to your podcast, you will be one step closer to completing that task that you have been putting off, or trying to complete, without making much head-way. 

What are wheels? They are pie charts that we are going to talk about today to create an analogy for when you should give 100% effort to something and when you shouldn't. Were you raised with the idea to give your all to everything that you do? If you were, then listen to this to think about why maybe that isn't the best idea after all, and what might be better for you. 

Happy New Year! What are the basic core beliefs in your primary relationship? If you don't know them, off of the top of your head, then come on in and listen to mine. New Year's Eve brought some deep conversation with my wife and I and we came up with our 5 most important beliefs. They will be our reminders in the new year and you can see if they inspire your own. 

You have goals; Big goals. But how are you picturing your life after you achieve your next big goal? If you are like most of us, you might be picturing the 'you' that you are now moving toward your other goals. We often forget to picture ourself as the new version that we will be after our next big goal. Here is a little secret way to give yourself the opportunity to practice being the next version of you. 

What is your life like today? Would you want to live your life today, for the rest of your life with no change? What would be the pros of that and what would be the cons? We are going to explore the idea of cost, different lenses that you use to look at your life and that you might use when it's time to make decisions, and a review of that primitive brain and the motivational triad that drives it. Then we will put it altogether to talk about the cost to you of staying the same and never...

What is the last goal that you set that just seemed like it was staying out of reach? Why wasn't it working? You were doing the work but just not getting near that finish line. Let's take a look at one big reason why this might be. Let's talk about why you need to have a very detailed picture in mind of what it looks like and feels like to be there. How does it work to have more details? Why is that the key? We will talk about all of it this week. 

Your parents taught you things. They told you lessons that they wanted you to learn- yes. But they also taught you lessons by their day-to-day actions. Some of these, you might even not be aware of. How can you uncover what those lessons are? And decide if there are some that are not serving you? Let's take a look at 4 categories of beliefs and examine how to change any that you want to change.