Wellish

If you’ve ever felt chronically “off,” overly influenced by other people’s opinions, or like you’re living a version of your life that doesn’t actually fit you — this episode is for you.

So many of us think we’re being ourselves, when in reality we’re operating from survival patterns, old identities, and external conditioning we never consciously chose. People pleasing feels like personality. Perfectionism feels like character. Overfunctioning feels like ambition. But none of it is who you actually are.

In this episode, we break down what it really means to become the person...

This one’s for my Wellish friends who feel drained, stuck in their own head, or looping a story about themselves that just…isn’t true anymore.

In this episode, I’m joined by Barbara Savin—Reiki master, energy healing specialist, clinical hypnotherapist, life coach, and host of The Spiritual Warrior Coach podcast. Barbara grew up feeling “crazy,” shut down her gifts, got sick, ignored her intuition… and then rebuilt her entire life and identity from the inside out.

We talk about how childhood wounds, other people’s words, and absorbed energy quietly script who you think you’re a...

What do you do when the story you built your whole life on suddenly… doesn’t exist anymore?

In today’s episode, I’m talking with abstract artist and former Air Force critical care flight nurse Cheri Carandanis, whose entire identity was built around being “the capable one” — the nurse, the helper, the perfectionist, the strong one. After two brain injuries and a sudden, traumatic loss, that version of her was gone. No more ICU, no more hospice leadership, no more “Cheri the nurse” everyone called for answers.

What came next wasn’t a perfectly curated glow-up. It...

Real healing isn’t pretty. It isn’t a 5 a.m. routine, a perfectly lit yoga flow, or a tidy before-and-after. It’s messy, textured, human — and sometimes it starts with ripping up old love letters.

In this episode, I sit down with mixed media artist and Soul Portrait creator Devorah Brinckerhoff, whose 30+ years as an artist and very real journey through childhood trauma, family estrangement, and her children’s abuse led her to a completely different way of healing. Instead of talking about your story, Devorah guides people to literally work with it — using old letters, photos, jour...

If you're exhausted by people trying to sell you silver linings, same. Today we’re talking about the kind of plot twists that blindside you, crack your identity open, and force you to choose who you’re going to become next.

This episode is your no-b.s. guide to turning the chaos you didn’t choose into the character development you actually need. Because yes, life hands out golden tickets disguised as breakups, failures, endings, and detours… but most people don’t take them. It’s uncomfortable. It requires accountability. It demands growth.

But you? You’re one o...

What if the version of you you’re meant to be is already here — she’s just waiting for privacy, honesty, and imperfection to let her breathe?

In this episode of Wellish, Sarah peels back the layers between the person you are in private and the one you perform for the world. We talk about the quiet truth of identity — the moments you can’t post, the thoughts you censor, and the parts of yourself that only come out when no one’s watching.

You’ll learn how to close the gap between your inner voice and your...

We talk about glow-ups like they’re visible — new wardrobes, better apartments, a life that photographs well. But the kind of transformation that actually changes your life happens in silence. In this episode, Sarah explores the difference between the algorithmic glow-up — the one everyone can see — and the soul glow-up — the one only you can feel. It’s about learning to like yourself in private, trusting the growth no one notices, and redefining what transformation really means.

You can’t “heal” perfectly. You can’t “manifest” perfectly. And you definitely can’t “surrender” perfectly — but that doesn’t stop so many of us from trying.

In this episode, Sarah breaks down the hidden perfectionism that’s taken over modern spirituality — the pressure to meditate daily, feel high-vibe, never spiral, and always “trust the universe.” She explores how this obsession with getting it right actually blocks connection, intuition, and meaning.

Instead, she offers a gentler, truer path: one rooted in embodiment, intuition, and imperfection as spiritual practice. You’ll learn how to release the pressure to perform your gro...

What if the real transformation isn’t about doing more—it’s about finally slowing down enough to ask why you’re doing it at all? In this soulful convo, Sarah sits down with writer and author Ashley Jordan (Unhappy Achiever) to explore what happens when success stops satisfying, self-improvement becomes another mask, and “becoming” quietly turns into self-rejection. Ashley shares the moment her biggest career win felt…numb, how grief cracked her open, and why the path forward is an unbecoming—peeling back perfection, releasing the “good girl,” and choosing a life that feels aligned over one that only looks the part...

You don’t manifest signs by chasing them — you receive them by softening.

In this episode, Sarah explores the energy shift that makes synchronicities start showing up everywhere. You’ll learn how to move from control into receptivity, rebuild trust with your intuition, and understand why signs appear only when you’re finally open enough to notice them.

This isn’t about magical thinking — it’s about getting quiet enough to hear what’s been whispering to you all along. When you stop gripping and start trusting, life starts reflecting your alignment right back to you.

What if your higher self isn’t someone you’re chasing — but someone you’re remembering? In this reflective Wellish compilation, Sarah revisits past guest conversations that reveal what becoming your higher self actually looks like in real life: the breakdowns, the surrenders, and the quiet shifts that turn healing into transformation.

Through raw, soulful clips and her own reflections, this episode explores the subtle art of self-evolution — how to live as your higher self now, without waiting for perfect.

You know that fantasy where you wake up one morning as the “new you” — glowing, healed, unbothered, journaling at sunrise? Yeah… that’s not how it actually works.

In this week’s episode, I'm calling BS on the myth of the overnight transformation. Real change doesn’t come from a lightning bolt moment, it comes from a thousand tiny, unglamorous choices you make when no one’s clapping for you. The nights you say no when you want to say yes. The mornings you show up when no one’s watching. BUT, while you may have to be patient to see...

In this Wellish conversation, I'm sitting down with Erica Bonham — licensed professional counselor, somatic and attachment-focused EMDR trainer, and author of Always Enough, Never Done — to explore why healing can’t be thought into existence.

Together, we're dive into the messy, liberating truth that self-criticism and overthinking don’t create transformation. Instead, real healing asks us to trust the body’s wisdom, practice radical self-compassion, and make peace with imperfection.

This episode unpacks:

We’ve all had those breakthrough moments — the hidden narrative clicks, you realize you’re done with the old story, and you declare your new one. So you listen, watch, and read all of the things so you understand how to become your new narrative. But no matter what you do, nothing feels different. Why? Because awareness isn’t embodiment. Your knowledge to skill gap is too large.

In this Wellish conversation, I break down why knowing your patterns isn’t enough, and how to actually become the person in your new narrative. We’ll talk about:

Perfectionism, comparison, and waiting for validation can keep us trapped in old stories. In this Wellish conversation, I’m sitting down with Brandon Keith Osborn—filmmaker, photographer, writer, and founder of For Real Life—to explore how rewriting your narrative creates room for authentic growth.

Brandon shares his story of creative ambition, addiction, and identity struggles, and how fatherhood and therapy pushed him toward honesty, sobriety, and sustainable success. We dig into the cultural narratives of “tortured artist” and hustle culture, the shame of letting people down, and the identity work required to believe a new story about your...

In this episode of Wellish, I dive into what I’ve been learning about how our thoughts create our reality—and how I’m putting it into practice in my own life. I open up more than I ever have about my past relationship, the dynamics with my ex, and the deep-rooted beliefs about myself that I’m actively healing.

Through raw stories and everyday examples, I show how the narrative we tell ourselves doesn’t just stay in our head—it shapes our entire experience. This isn’t about “magical thinking.” It’s about realizing that your thoughts are th...

Letting go heals faster than trying harder. In this Wellish conversation, I am sitting down with Alisha Kapani, a mind–body mentor and quantum health coach, to unpack why hyper-control and hustle can keep you stuck. Alisha shares her story of depression and social anxiety, how “giving up” softened her resistance, and the moment she followed intuition into mind-body medicine and theta healing. We dig into the biology (fight-or-flight vs. parasympathetic), the feminine energy first approach to processing emotions, and Alisha’s 3-step A.B.C. Tool—Awareness, Breath, Conscious Choice—for nervous system regulation you can use today. We also talk...

When you hear the word “manipulation,” you probably think of toxic exes, narcissists, or evil a**holes. But the truth is we all may be more guilty of manipulation that we realize, and it’s often happening without us even knowing it. In this episode of Wellish, I'm breaking down the subtle, everyday ways we manipulate (and get manipulated), why it’s rooted in fear, and how these patterns quietly make life harder. From people-pleasing to guilt trips to fishing for reassurance, you’ll learn how to recognize the signs and start showing up with more honesty and less control. Duration: 00:34:37

In this special episode of Wellish I’m putting myself in the hot seat! Think of this as an unfiltered get to know me - the stories, quirks, confessions you don’t hear in the self improvement episodes to help you get to know me outside of the personal growth talk!

What does it actually mean to be good enough? It's something we battle with and hear constantly, but when I sat back with that concept I realized I didn't even really know what that meant to be "good enough". What I did know is I allowed the constant need to feel good enough to play too much of a negative role in who I was and how I was showing up in my life. In order to make any progress on a certain area we first need to understand what it is, where it came from and why it's...

Living alone (or just being alone) comes with both freedom and frustration. In this episode I explore the good -- the grounding, the independence, the chance to build a life on your own terms -- and the bad --the boredom, the lonliness, the temptation to fill every quiet space with distractions. Then we'll dive deeper into the real question: are you using this time alone to connect with yourself, or just waiting for it to be over? Because if you don't learn how to befriend yourself now you'll risk abandoning yourself the second someone else walks into your life.<...

On Wellish, we’re not here to blindly follow every self-improvement trend — we’re here to question them. This week, I’m diving into TikTok’s newest obsession: monthly curriculums.

Are they a genius way to learn, grow, and add structure to your life — or just another self-optimization spiral dressed up as self-care? I’ll break down what the trend is, who it’s for, and why people love it… but also where it can go wrong.

I’ll share how I’ve been running my own journalism curriculum (and the surprising ways it’s boosted my confidence an...

You don’t have to hustle yourself into the ground to create the life you want—but you also can’t just wait for it to magically fall into your lap. In this episode, we're exploring the sweet spot between toxic productivity and hopeless surrender, and how to close the gap between your current self and your dream self without burnout or perfectionism.

We’ll break down the psychology behind why we get stuck (hello, learned helplessness), the nervous system science that explains why more motivation isn't the answer, and the identity shifts that make change stick. From ide...

What if you stopped performing for love? In this raw and deeply relatable episode, I'm cracking open the fear of stillness, the pressure to be impressive, and the subtle ways we perform just to feel worthy. From spiraling after a chill weekend to curating confidence after heartbreak, this one is for the overthinkers, the perfectionists, and the ones who secretly feel like they have to "earn" their place in someone’s life.

Whether you're healing from conditional love, navigating post-breakup identity, or just trying to feel okay doing nothing—you’ll walk away feeling seen. It’s not abou...

Just because you’re not being fake doesn’t mean you’re being real. This week, we’re untangling the difference between comfort and authenticity—and why the truest version of you might not feel natural at first. I’m sharing stories about showing up loudly, being labeled “scary” (aka confident) by men, and realizing that what I thought was growth was actually just survival mode.

We’re breaking down:

This week’s episode is a full-blown spiral turned breakthrough.

First, I’m breaking down the friendship anxiety no one talks about—the kind that doesn’t hit during the hangout, but after, when you’re stuck replaying everything you said and wondering if you were too much.

Then, we’re talking about what it really means to be “too loud,” “too emotional,” or “too sensitive”—and how being told I’m too much my whole life made me start shrinking myself without even realizing it.

Finally, I’m sharing the secret formula I’ve been using to create a li...

I’m moving out of my healing den and into my new city life (!!), but before I pack up, I had to sit down and record a mini-episode with three mindsets that are seriously saving my sanity lately. If you’ve been overthinking your future, spiraling after social plans, or stuck in your feelings — this one’s for you. We’re talking:

You don’t need more willpower. You need a new story.

In this episode, I’m breaking down why so many of us feel stuck—even when we’re trying—and how your identity, not your discipline, is what’s really running the show. I’ll share the brain science behind why we repeat the same patterns, the tiny identity anchors that helped me stop tying my worth to productivity, and how to finally shift into the version of you you know is in there… without forcing it.

This one’s for the girl who’s trying...

If you’ve been spiraling about whether you’re making the right moves, doing enough, or working hard enough to finally live the life you want—this episode is for you. We’re talking about what it actually means to surrender when it feels like doing nothing could cost you everything.

From control as a trauma response to the magnetic power of full receiving mode, this episode walks you through the art of letting go without losing momentum. You’ll learn how to soften your grip when panic hits, how to stop chasing alignment and start attr...

You’re doing the mindset work. You’ve got the vision. You know who you want to be. So why does it still feel like something’s blocking you?

This week on Wellish, we’re talking about what really keeps you from becoming your ideal self and why it has nothing to do with effort, productivity, or motivation. It has everything to do with your nervous system. If your body still thinks you’re unsafe, it will do everything it can to protect you from change... even if that change is becoming the most expressed version of yourself.<...

This week on Wellish, I’m breaking down what I’ve learned in the first 6 days of my 30 day magnetism experiment and spoiler alert: magnetism isn’t about being hot, loud, or liked by everyone. It’s about self worth, self trust, and having standards high enough to reject what doesn’t align.

I’m sharing the real moment I proved this to myself: turning down an “almost perfect” apartment because it didn’t feel right energetically and how that one choice brought me the exact space I was actually looking for. We’ll also talk about the difference betwe...

Are you understanding, empathetic and low maintenance or are you abandoning yourself?

We’re unpacking the subtle, sneaky ways self abandonment shows up in your everyday life. From lowering your standards because it's more comfortable to convincing yourself you're being the bigger, emotionally mature person you might be betraying yourself without even realizing it.

I’m breaking down seven signs that you’ve been disappearing on yourself in the name of peace, perception, and protection. This isn't a lame self improvement listicle, it's real life examples that indiciate you could be holding yourself back from living...

Are you healing… or hiding? In this episode of Wellish, we’re calling out the sneaky way self-improvement can become a full-blown identity crisis. Healing is powerful—but it was never meant to be your whole personality. If you’ve wrapped your sense of self around your trauma, your therapy speak, and doing everything “right,” this one’s for you.

We’ll talk about how easy it is to over-identify with the healing era, confuse insight with action, and use emotional growth as a shield from actually living. You’ll learn why your self-awareness doesn’t have to come at the cost...

What if your emotional reactions weren’t something to fix—but something to understand? In this unapologetically honest episode, we’re talking about what happens when you confuse healing with becoming more “chill,” more digestible, or more likable—and how that mindset is quietly killing your self-trust.

This one’s for the woman who’s done doing everything “right” and still feeling off. Who’s tired of trying to be soft, silent, and selfless in the name of growth. We’re exploring what it means to stop shrinking and start showing up—even when it makes people uncomfortable.

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Do you ever feel like life is forcing you to toughen up—whether you want to or not? In this episode of Wellish, we’re talking about the art of staying soft in a world that tries to harden you. If you’ve felt jaded, guarded, or disconnected from your true self, this is your permission slip to come back to your softness without losing your power.

We’ll unpack:

In this birthday episode, I’m not just reflecting on the past year—I’m sharing the 27 empowering choices I’m making this year to step into the woman I’m meant to become. Rather than dwelling on what I’ve learned, I’m focusing on intentional decisions to shape my future.

I start by toasting the past versions of me that got me here, flaws and all, so we can appreciate how far we've come. Whether you connect with my choices or create your own, I hope this episode inspires you to think about what you're choosing for y...

Control doesn’t just disappear when we start healing — it adapts.

In this episode, we’re unpacking the sneaky ways control can morph into perfectionism, over-performing, emotional over-responsibility, and even the need to be understood — all while looking like empowerment.

If you’re still feeling stuck, anxious, or frustrated after “doing the work,” you’re not broken — you’re facing the next layer of growth.

Let’s break it down and talk about how to spot control in disguise and step into real emotional freedom.

In this episode of Wellish, we’re slowing down the hustle of self-improvement to talk about something real: the human side of healing. This is your reminder that needing reassurance doesn’t mean you’re weak—and feeling your feelings doesn’t make you less evolved.

I share what often gets lost in the race to become “better”—like rest, softness, and the right to have an off day. If you’ve ever felt like you’re supposed to be more unbothered, more healed, more sure of yourself by now, this one’s for you. You’ll walk away feeling seen...

This episode is for the girl who’s tired of making herself smaller to be more likable. The one who’s been called too emotional, too intense, too ambitious, or too sensitive—and started to believe it. I’m sharing the things I’m no longer apologizing for: my feelings, my boundaries, my standards, my softness and my strength. If you’ve ever felt like you had to shrink to stay loved, this is your reminder that you don’t. You’re not too much. You were just around people who gave too little. Let’s stop apologizing for who we are and sta

You’re doing the work. You’re trying to be calm, grounded, emotionally strong—and yet, you still spiral. You still compare yourself to people who seem more healed, more confident, more “together.” But that doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong.

In this episode, we’re talking about what real emotional growth actually looks like—hint: it’s not always pretty, perfect, or peaceful. You’ll hear why spiraling doesn’t mean you’ve failed, how to stop comparing your healing to someone else’s, and how to start honoring your own messy middle.

Ever had something fall apart that felt like the worst thing ever—only to realize later it actually led you somewhere better? In this episode, we're talking about the unpredictable, messy, magical path of life. When things don’t go the way we planned, it’s easy to panic. But what if the detour is the actual route? I am exploring why trying to control every detail usually backfires, how our definition of “good” or “bad” isn’t always accurate, and why some of our biggest disappointments end up becoming our greatest blessings. This episode is your reminder that life doesn’t nee...

For a long time, I wished I could be meaner. Tougher. Someone who could pop off on people so that I could stop feeling taken advantage of. People have called me aggressive, and honestly, I think it’s because I’ve leaned into my masculine energy, believing my voice only holds value if I speak with authority. Thanks, society!

But here’s what I’ve realized: real strength isn’t about matching someone’s bad energy. It’s about standing firm in who you are, no matter how people treat you. Kindness isn’t weakness, and being a good person do...

I disappeared for a bit—and not by choice. Life ripped the rug out from under me in a way I never saw coming, leaving me with two options: fight against reality or lean back and let the current take me somewhere new. In this episode, I’m unpacking what happened, how I’m rebuilding, and why sometimes the best thing you can do is stop gripping so tightly and let life flow.

I’ll share the mindset shifts that have kept me steady, the daily practices that strengthen your mental resilience, and how I’m learning to trust t...

How many times have you talked yourself out of an opportunity because you didn’t feel ready? Fear, doubt, and perfectionism can keep us stuck—but real growth happens when we say yes before we feel 100% prepared.

In today’s episode, we’re diving into: Why fear often disguises itself as ‘not being ready’, how saying yes to opportunities creates confidence and self-trust, recognizing growth moments in your daily life, and actionable ways to push past self-doubt and step into your potential

Daily Challenge: Say yes to something that scares or challenges you today, even if it’s smal...

We talk a lot about setting boundaries with others, but what about setting them with yourself? Learning to say ‘no’ to yourself is just as important as saying ‘no’ to others—it’s how you protect your energy, stay aligned with your values, and avoid self-sabotage.

In today’s episode, we’re breaking down: Why internal boundaries are essential for your well-being, how overcommitting, overindulging, and self-sabotage stem from a lack of personal boundaries, practical ways to say ‘no’ to yourself without guilt, the balance between self-discipline and self-compassion

Daily Challenge: Identify one area where you need to say ‘no’...

Do you only feel worthy when you're accomplishing something? In a world that glorifies hustle culture, it’s easy to tie your value to productivity—but your worth is not measured by how much you do.

In today’s episode, we’re exploring: Why we equate self-worth with achievements (and why that’s harmful), how to redefine success beyond productivity, the power of rest, joy, and simply being without guilt, actionable ways to detach your identity from what you accomplish

Daily Challenge: Take intentional rest today—read for fun, take a slow walk, or do absolutely n...

Confidence isn’t something you’re born with—it’s something you build. If you’ve ever waited to feel “ready” before going after what you want, this episode is for you. True confidence doesn’t come from overthinking or seeking validation; it comes from taking action, even when you’re scared.

In today’s episode, we’re diving into: Why confidence is built through action, not waiting, how small, consistent steps lead to self-trust, overcoming fear and hesitation when taking risks, practical ways to step into your confidence starting today

Daily Challenge: Take one small action today tow...

How do you prioritize yourself while being in a relationship? Too often, we’re taught that love means giving everything to our partner—but the healthiest relationships happen when both people maintain their sense of self.

In today’s episode, we’re breaking down: Why it’s easy to lose yourself in a relationship (and how to prevent it), the difference between codependency and interdependence, how prioritizing yourself actually strengthens your relationship, ways to maintain self-love while being a great partner

Daily Challenge: Do one thing today that is just for you—something that brings you joy, com...

Why is it so hard to set boundaries without feeling guilty? Many of us have been taught that saying no is rude, selfish, or even unkind—but the truth is, boundaries are an act of self-love, not rejection. Protecting your peace doesn’t mean pushing people away; it means showing up for yourself first.

In today’s episode, we’re breaking down: Why boundary guilt happens (and how to reframe it), the difference between selfishness and self-respect, how setting boundaries actually strengthens relationships, and practical ways to say “no” without over-explaining or feeling bad about it

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How many times have you swallowed your words to avoid conflict, keep the peace, or because you weren’t sure your voice mattered? Speaking up—especially in uncomfortable situations—can feel terrifying, but owning your voice is an act of self-love and self-respect.

In today’s episode, we’re diving into: Why speaking up feels so hard (and how to overcome the fear), how staying silent leads to resentment and self-doubt, practical ways to assert yourself with confidence, the mindset shift that makes speaking up easier over time

Daily Challenge: Identify one situation where you normally s...

The way you see yourself today is deeply connected to the experiences you had as a child. Many of us carry unhealed childhood wounds—whether it’s fear of abandonment, people-pleasing, perfectionism, or self-doubt—without even realizing how they shape our self-worth as adults. But here’s the truth: healing your inner child is one of the most powerful ways to deepen self-love.

In today’s episode, we’re exploring: What the inner child is and how it affects your self-worth, signs your childhood wounds might still be influencing your life, how reparenting yourself can break old patterns and...

Criticism is inevitable—but it doesn’t have to define you. Too often, we take other people’s opinions as truth, letting their words shape our self-worth. But here’s the reality: criticism says more about the person giving it than it does about you.

In today’s episode, we’re exploring: Why criticism feels so personal (and how to stop taking it to heart), the difference between constructive feedback and destructive criticism, how to build resilience so others’ opinions don’t shake your confidence, when to take criticism seriously—and when to let it go

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Why are we so quick to offer kindness to others but so harsh on ourselves? Many of us believe that self-criticism keeps us accountable, but in reality, it often leads to burnout, fear, and feeling never good enough. The truth? Self-compassion isn’t self-indulgence—it’s a tool for real growth.

In today’s episode, we’re breaking down: Why self-criticism feels productive but actually holds you back, how self-compassion builds resilience, not complacency, simple ways to soften your inner dialogue and reframe negative thoughts, how to talk to yourself with the same kindness you offer others

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The way you talk about yourself shapes your reality. If you’ve ever caught yourself saying, “I’m not good enough,” “I always fail,” or “I’ll never change,”—those thoughts aren’t just passing comments; they’re stories you’ve been telling yourself. But here’s the truth: you have the power to rewrite them.

In this episode, we’re diving into: how the stories you tell yourself impact your self-worth and confidence, identifying limiting beliefs that are holding you back, steps to challenge and rewrite negative narratives and how small actions can reinforce a new, empowering self-story.

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We’ve been told to love our bodies, but what if that feels impossible some days? While body positivity encourages self-love, it can sometimes feel like another expectation to meet. That’s where body neutrality comes in—shifting the focus from how your body looks to what your body does for you.

In this episode, we’ll explore: The difference between body positivity and body neutrality, why you don’t have to love your body’s appearance to respect it, how shifting focus to function can free you from constant self-criticism, and simple ways to start practicing body neutral...

We’re always waiting for the big moments to feel happy—dream jobs, perfect relationships, exciting trips. But what if self-love is actually built in the smallest moments of our daily lives? Today, we’re diving into the art of romanticizing your life—how shifting your perspective on the ordinary can make your everyday routine feel more fulfilling, special, and deeply yours.

What it really means to romanticize your life (without toxic positivity), why finding joy in small moments is an act of self-love, simple ways to turn your daily routines into meaningful rituals and how to stop liv...

Perfectionism tricks us into believing that if we just work harder, do better, and fix every flaw, we’ll finally feel worthy. But in reality, the endless chase for perfection only fuels self-doubt, procrastination, and burnout. In today’s episode, we’re breaking down how perfectionism keeps you from true self-acceptance and how to start embracing progress over perfection.

We’ll talk about the difference between ambition and perfectionism. why perfectionism actually holds you back, how to shift from self-criticism to self-compassion, small steps to break free from the need to be “perfect”

Plus, I’ll give you a...

Self-love isn’t just about adding good habits—it’s also about recognizing what’s draining you. In today’s episode of Wellish, we’re diving into the habits, people, and environments that slowly chip away at your self-worth and prevent you from fully embracing self-love. Do you ever feel emotionally drained after spending time with certain people? Do your daily habits support self-love, or are they rooted in self-doubt? Are you stuck in an environment that makes you question your worth? We’ll break down the hidden self-love killers and how to start noticing these patterns in your own life.

Self-love isn’t a one-time achievement—it evolves as we grow, face new challenges, and learn more about ourselves. In today’s episode, we’re kicking off the 28 Days of Self-Love challenge by exploring how our definition of self-love shifts through different life stages. Maybe self-love used to mean having the perfect routine, but now it looks like setting boundaries or giving yourself permission to rest. Maybe it meant seeking external validation, but now it’s about prioritizing your own needs. No matter where you are in your journey, self-love is constantly changing—and that’s okay. Join me as we unpack t...

What happens when you spend a week journaling your deepest thoughts, feelings, and dreams? In this episode of Wellish, I take you through my journey of self-discovery after analyzing my journal for one week. Join me as I share the patterns, themes, and surprising truths I uncovered about myself—things I didn’t fully realize until I put them on paper. We’ll explore how journaling can unlock hidden insights, help you connect with your authentic self, and provide clarity in a world full of distractions. Plus, I’m sharing practical journaling tips you can use to start your own self...

Do you ever feel like your emotions run the show, leaving you frazzled and overwhelmed? In this episode of Wellish, we're diving into how to shift from reacting with high emotions to responding mindfully in any situation. Sarah shares personal stories—like a frantic moment over holiday plans—and the lessons she's learning about grounding herself, recognizing triggers, and embracing progress over perfection.

In this episode of Wellish, I dive deep into the idea of chasing goals that might not actually be yours. Are you pursuing things because they align with your true desires—or because social media, societal pressures, or validation-seeking have convinced you that you should? I share personal stories about career goals, social expectations, and wellness routines to explore how easy it is to confuse what you think you want with what truly fulfills you. Listen in to uncover the difference between genuine desires and external influences, signs you might be chasing goals that aren’t aligned with you, and...

In this powerful episode of Wellish, we sit down with Terry Tucker, a motivational speaker and author, to discuss the importance of embracing discomfort on our journey toward growth. Terry shares his personal story of overcoming adversity, from battling a rare form of cancer to navigating career changes and life's toughest challenges. Together, we explore how discomfort is not something to avoid, but a necessary step toward personal transformation.

Terry offers profound insights on how to approach life's difficult moments with courage and resilience, turning them into opportunities for self-discovery. We dive deep into the mindset shifts...

The holidays are a time for joy, but they often bring chaos, stress, and tricky family dynamics. In this episode of Wellish, I am sharing my personal experiences with holiday challenges and offering practical tips to maintain your peace and sanity. From navigating social obligations and work parties to handling financial pressures and finding time for self-care, you'll learn how to set boundaries, let go of perfection, and truly enjoy the season on your own terms. Tune in to reclaim your holiday happiness!

Are you stuck in the cycle of overthinking and fear of not doing things perfectly? In this episode of Wellish, we’re tackling perfection paralysis head on. I share my personal struggles with perfectionism, explain why it holds you back, and, most importantly, give you actionable steps to start—even when it feels impossible.

Learn how to lower the bar, embrace imperfect action, and reframe failure as growth. If you’ve been waiting for the ‘perfect moment,’ this episode is your sign to take that first step today. Let’s stop letting perfectionism keep us stuck and start making...

In this solo episode, I am opening up about my personal journey of self-improvement, mental health struggles, and navigating the ups and downs of life. From embracing wins like cultivating gratitude and emotional regulation to tackling challenges like decision-making and living in my head, I share my authentic, unfiltered experiences. This candid check-in is a reminder that self-improvement isn’t about perfection—it’s about progress, persistence, and embracing the messy, imperfect moments that make us human. Tune in for relatable insights, reflection prompts, and actionable tips to carry forward in your own journey.

In today’s episode, I sat down with my fiancé Frank to dive into a question many of us might be afraid to ask: Is my productivity toxic? We explore the fine line between healthy ambition and a hustle mentality that could be doing more harm than good. From glorifying busyness to feeling guilty when resting, we unpack the signs of toxic productivity, its impact on our mental health, and how to break free from the cycle. Tune in as we share personal stories, insights, and practical tips to help you redefine success and embrace a more balanced approach to...

In this episode, I sat down with Liz Landon, M.Ed. Certified Hypnotist and Law of Attraction Coach to discuss the concept of neutralizing experiences and how shifting your mindset can transform the way you approach life’s challenges. Life isn’t always perfect, and that’s okay. We explore how every experience, whether joyful or difficult, is neutral until we assign meaning to it—and how this simple shift can free us from emotional overwhelm.

Liz shares her unique perspective on releasing resistance, reframing emotions, and stepping into a state of receiving, where personal growth can truly fl...

In this episode, we explore the often overlooked but incredibly powerful tool of self-compassion—and how embracing it can transform your life. Trauma recovery coach and author Patty Cabot joins us to discuss her journey of healing from perfectionism and self-blame, and how cultivating self-compassion can help us break free from negative cycles that keep us stuck.

Patty shares insightful wisdom on how self-compassion isn’t just about being kind to ourselves when things are easy, but especially when we feel overwhelmed, anxious, or like we’re falling short of our own expectations. We dive into how improv...

I've got a confession to make: I've always felt a little...resistant when it comes to traditional "mom culture." You know, mom as a personality trait, the Pinterest-perfect lifestyle, and the endless #MomLife posts on social media. But why do we feel this judgement? In this episode, I'm digging deep to unpack the discomfort with embracing that full on 'mom' identity and what that really looks like. Is it just fear of losing ourselves, or is there something more behind the resistance? We are talking with personal trainer, yoga instructor, CEO, business woman and, of course, mom, Sarah Praise...

In this episode, we dive into the hidden toll that chronic stress and burnout take on our lives—and how we can begin to turn things around. Meditation master Kira Leskew joins us to discuss her journey of transforming stress into resilience, even after decades of seeing stress as “normal.” Learn how years of chronic stress shape our bodies and minds to the point that true calm feels foreign, and hear compelling stories of entrepreneurs who found new clarity, even with high-pressure demands. Whether you’re overwhelmed, burned out, or just looking to find better balance, this episode offers practica...

On this weeks solo episode I am telling you the story of my engagement!!! More than that though, I am sharing life lessons that thoroughly absorbed within me from experiencing this major life choice. I am discussing topics like expectations, living in the present, showing up as the person you picture in your mind, judgement from others, and allowing your emotions. When you listen with an open mind, there are mindset shifts here for you to apply to your own life that can change how you show up as your best self.

Do you feel like you want, so badly, to become a better version of yourself but nothing you do is enough? Whether you are in a constant state of self depreciation or you are a self improvement queen who always feels like they could be doing better leaving you in a constant state of coming up short, this episode is for you. With your mentality, you will never be good enough. I want to provide you with the mindset shift, and tools to make that shift. You'll find them in this weeks episode!

On this episode I wanted to talk about one of the most important realizations I have had when it comes to actually feeling like our whole, healed, fulfilled higher selves. I am sharing useable tips to begin closing your knowledge to skill gap and begin feeling like the person you so badly wish to be. If you find yourself constantly wishing and working to become your best self but always feel like you're falling short this episode is for you.

I wanted to answer the commonly asked question of why we can feel we don't stick with our self care routines. I talk about 3 areas that you could shift your thinking in to help you better incorporate self care into your life consistently and not feel like you are have an on again off again relationship with taking care of yourself.

On this week's episode I sat down with women’s personal growth coach, speaker and author of the book Lady and the Tribe, How to Create Empowering Friendship Circles, Brenda Ridgely. Brenda's mission is to help women find and build deep connections with other women and create a Tribe of support. She discusses her blueprint for reconnecting and becoming whole. She shares applicable tips and tactics to create friendships in our lives as adults, how to weed out the friendships that aren't meant for us, how to take control of our own friendships without just leaving them up to fa...

On this week's solo episode I am celebrating my 26th birthday by sharing 26 of my biggest life lessons. The 26 things I list here are what I regularly use to get me through my life, the advice I give to others on a consistent basis, and now what I found most impactful to share with you. Consider this 26 tips to get through your 20's and hopefully beyond. From practical tips like making some quick extra cash, beauty secrets, and advice for when you're drunk to personal development and feeling like your best self, if you are just trying to make...

On this weeks episode I wanted to bring a little science and research to why the h*ll we can't seem to reach happiness. Turns out we have been focusing on the wrong things. I used my Coursera course "The Science of Wellbeing" and the book "Think Fast and Slow" by Daniel Kahneman for the studies and research provided in this episode. I review the most common things we think will make us happy, but don't and the proof it doesn't work. I end the episode reviewing why they don't make us happy and the one thing we do...

Hi friends. I ditched ya'll last week and I apologize. The reason was this right here. I just haven't been mentally 100% at my best. A lot of overthinking, a lot of self depreciation and I just didn't have the mental capacity for an episode. I decided, even though I still wasn't at my best by the time I recorded this episode, that 1) I wasn't missing two weeks in a row and 2) this is what Well ISH is all about. No matter how many tools you have in your self improvement tool belt, there are still mental lows we go...

On this weeks episode I am discussing a fear that is very close to home, but in today's social media era not uncommon. Many of us work hard to not settle constantly being exposed to more of people's highlights in their life than they are to real life experiences. We are living in a time right now that if you follow the traditional path you feel like you are at risk of not living a fulfilled life. I want to show you in this episode how this fear is causing that to happen simply by having it more than...

This week I sat down with relationship coach Bethany Nic0le to discuss people generosity to feed their own validation, sense of worthiness, coerce you to do something you're not comfortable with, not allow you to set boundaries etc. we discuss how to cope with people who use generosity as a means of controlling you through validating themselves,, a means of preventing you to set boundaries, and ensuring you behave in a specific way. We also discuss how to ensure you do not behave this way, and if you do working to move away from it and not feel...

On this episode I wanted to talk about something that you may not realize when you begin to really heal. How many issues come up in several relationships in your life and for a variety of reasons. You don't realize the correlation between your healing and why your connections with other tend to struggle. It can leave you feeling alone, confused, like you're not good enough, like you're doing something wrong, pushing against your healing efforts even further. If you feel like you have been experiencing push back in your relationships lately, this episode is for you.

On this week's solo episode I walk through the Elite through several indicators that are telling of whether or not you're settling in your relationship. From subtle to obvious red flags you will not finish this episode without knowing in your heart whether or not you're settling in your relationship even if you're not ready to admit it to yourself yet. While you may feel upset and disappointed this episode WILL NOT make you feel like you are doing something wrong for still being in the relationship and pressure you to leave immediately. This episode is solo for awareness...

On this solo episode I dive into my most highly requested episode: how the hell did you have the courage to start posting on social media? SO many of the Elite want to know how I started, why I started, and what steps I took to create my podcast and have the courage to post on social media. I tell you guys my story from very beginning up until the creation of my first episode and lessons that I have learned since episode 1 in effort to help you see similarities between the two of us to highlight your own...

No body, no matter how self improved they are is perfect. Even more, you typically have to experience some pretty toxic thoughts and actions to learn your lesson and get to a healthier spot because you know you did not like how that felt. Today, I wanted to bring you to the toxic side of Wellish and let you in on my cringiest regrets. I am telling you 4 stories that to this day make my skin crawl because of how embarrassed I am by the way my toxic brain chose to operate at that point in time, to help...

For the final episode of the 28 Days of Self Love I wanted to elaborate on the importance of putting intention towards self love and how it is the back bone of becoming your Elite self. I discuss how if we lost everything else, but had self love we would still be able to rebuild our self love, the most common mistake most people make in regards to self love on their journey to becoming their best self, and what self love will provide for your life. If you are in a vicious cycle of trying to become your best...

I wanted to give you tools to carry with you for a long time after the series ends. Self soothing tools to make your feel safe. Tools to help your racing mind find a place of ease so you can think with more clarity and gain control of you overwhelm, overactive mind, high emotions, or whatever you are experiencing. No matter how far along you are in your self love journey you will benefit from these tools because even the "most healed" person (if that even exists) experiences negative emotions. While these tools will not solve your challenges, they...

As we come to the end of the 28 Days of Self Love series, I thought it would be really impactful for our last speaker of the serious to prove to the Elite that it is truly possible to go from a really low place to a place of self love. Shannon McBride describes her path to self love. For years she battled with mental illness, became a mother unplanned at 19, faced huge amount of anxiety, relationship problems, mental health crisis and post-natel depression. Shannon expresses how nobody around her really knew what she was experiencing. "I hated myself, my...

On this episode I thought it would be fun to give you guys some action steps to focus on if you are wanting to take your self love just a little further. While it isn't necessary to grow your self love like the other topics we've discussed throughout the series it is something that will only take your self love another step further. Using Dr. Gary Chapman's concept of "Love Language" I thought it would help to focus the 5 love languages on ourselves. I walk you through the meaning being the 5 different love languages and they ways you could...

For this episode I wanted to give the Elite a wake up call. Our society always alludes to perfection. If we do more if we work harder we will finally step into these best versions of ourselves. We will be fully healed. We won't be the sucky wimp that we are right now. And it works! Because we always have room to improve! So, it's not very hard to convince us that if we just bought their program or followed their social media we could potentially get the result we want. And it's worth a shot right? So if...

On this episode I wanted to walk you through one of the major pillars of self love. One that a lot of the time we don't even correlate to self love and one that we may not realize just how much we may lack. I start the episode by explaining what self trust truly is, because my philosophy is if you aren't 100% clear on what it is it's going to make it that much harder to attain it. I then elaborate on several of the most common ways we can lose our own trust to help bring awareness to...

On this episode I walk the Elite through indicators that you are more resistant to your own evolution than you may be ready to acknowledge. It's one of the most mind blowing revelations especially for us personal growth folk because we believe so deeply in being open and receptive to whatever is thrown our way. We have growth mindsets and want to continue to develop. But, we really aren't able to develop as much as we feel we really should be. Somehow we are mentally so much farther than we are physically. We are discussing allowing ourselves to evolve...

Leaning how to rid yourself of your negative thoughts is something people have been trying to figure out forever. It is one of the most commonly asked questions how to cultivate a more positive mindset. And because self love is definitely not having negative thoughts it is important how to learn how to minimize them as much as we can. On this episode I explain to you the reason why we have these negative thoughts because knowing why makes it a lot easier to understand and even love that we have them and then I give you my 3 step...

A topic that continues to surface in our discussing about self love is making sure our needs are met. Today I want to talk to you guys about learning what your needs are. That way, you can begin to bring them into your life as consistently as possible and finally reach your full potential of self love that you can achieve and step into the best version of yourself you know you are capable of becoming. We seem to really forget to remember to sus out what our needs are. This episode will trigger that awareness and reflection in...

On this episode, I sat down with Dr. Jane Tornatore, a self-love expert and therapist, and discussed the importance of self-love and its impact on mental health. She explores the process of helping individuals attain self-love by identifying and clearing blocks that hinder it. They also emphasized the need to unlearn negative self-perceptions that emerge from unmet needs in childhood. Dr. Tornatore provides several mind-blowing mindset shifts that will open up even someone with the most negative mindset to the possibility of loving yourself. No matter where you are on your road trip to self love this episode will...

The idea of this sounds crazy on the surface. Especially because we are always taught to stop comparing ourselves to others. And I agree! It is a bad habit. But, the bad habit isn't comparison itself, it's comparison leading to negative feelings about ourself like jealousy, putting ourselves down, and feeling inadequate. All comparison is is assessing similarities and difference and that can also lead to feelings of neutrality or even inspiration. On this episode I talk to the Elite about how to use comparison to their advantage in self love because most of the time comparing ourselves to...

This is a topic that I believe is not talked about often enough in regards to self love. While self love is developed internally we cannot deny the ways that our external influences impact us. It is going to be a hell of a lot harder to love yourself if there are people in your ear making you feel like you aren't good enough, are putting you down, make you feeling you can't be your authentic self etc. It's also not going to be helpful if you are putting yourself in positions of discomfort, like continuously showing up for...

I don't want to contradict yesterday episode by empowering you to say no, but it is equally as important to push yourself out of your comfort zone and start saying yes. I am very adamant on not ever telling the Elite to do anything because they thinking they "should" or because they're "supposed to" and allow me to promise you that is not changing for this episode. I provide insight on two different areas for why you should be saying yes to more things in your life. One, to help you better align with the best version of yourself...

Saying no is a very common thing people struggle with and I am no exception. I still find it uncomfortable to say no when I have to because I have this underlying feeling like I am being rude and have a deep rooted old habit of people pleasing. On this episode I walk you guys through some other options to say no, but spend a majority of the time letting you guys know why it's okay to say no. I am giving you guys the prompts that I have found bring me the most success to tell myself in...

I don't think there is enough information about there about HOW to actually build self worth. It mostly consists of letting us know that it's something we should already have. As one of the pillars of self love and on a day like Valentine's Day that we get so worked up over our worthiness, I thought it would be beneficial to provide you guys with tangible steps you can complete in order to begin building on your self worth. I start by explaining what self worth it, because it's easier to incorporate it into your life when you truly...