Counselling Conversations with Julie

Today’s episode tackles a topic that’s as important as it is delicate: How and What to Tell Children About Traumatic World Events. In a world where news travels fast and even young children are exposed to unsettling stories, it’s natural to feel unsure about how to approach these conversations.

How much should you share? What’s the right way to explain difficult events without causing unnecessary fear? And most importantly, how can you help your child feel safe and supported during uncertain times?

In this episode, I will break...

Today’s episode is all about a topic that’s incredibly important: How to Support Your Child’s Mental Health: A Guide for Parents. As parents, we all want to see our children happy, confident, and resilient, but when it comes to mental health, it can sometimes feel overwhelming to know where to begin. That’s why, in this episode, we’ll be breaking it down into simple, actionable steps you can take to create a supportive environment for your child’s emotional well-being.

Whether you’re a parent of a young child, a teenager, or somewhere in b...

In today’s episode we’re diving into a topic that resonates with so many of us: how to keep calm and anxiety-free when life gets busy. I’m Julie Thomas, and as a therapist, I’ve seen first hand how overwhelming life’s demands can feel, and how important it is to find moments of peace amidst the chaos.

We will explore simple, practical strategies to help you manage stress, quiet your mind, and stay grounded, no matter how hectic your schedule gets. Whether you’re balancing work, family, or personal challenges, this conversation is here to re...

As the holiday season approaches and the year winds down, it’s the perfect time to reflect on self-care and wellbeing. In today’s fast-paced world, where stress and anxiety often take centre stage, creativity has emerged as a powerful tool for enhancing mental and emotional health. But what is it about creativity that makes it so transformative? How does engaging in activities like painting, writing, or even problem-solving improve our overall wellbeing?

In this episode, we’ll explore the fascinating connection between creativity and mental health. From reducing stress and boosting mood to foster...

In today's episode, we’re unwrapping a topic that’s on everyone’s mind this time of year, the holiday season!

Christmas is meant to be a time of love, connection, and celebration, but let’s face it, it can also bring a sleigh-load of stress. From endless to-do lists to family dynamics and the pressure to make everything perfect, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed.

But don’t worry,  in this episode, I’m here to help you take the stress out of Christmas. Together, we’ll explore practical tips to get prepared, st...

In this episode, we’re tackling a topic that’s close to the hearts of many parents: how to foster trust with your child who has ADHD. Parenting a child with ADHD comes with unique challenges, and building trust is a cornerstone for creating a supportive and understanding relationship. 

We’ll explore why trust is so essential for children with ADHD, the common hurdles that can strain this bond, and practical strategies you can use to strengthen your connection. Whether it’s navigating emotional outbursts, managing expectations, or simply finding ways to communicate more effectively, this episo...

In this episode, we’re diving into a topic that resonates with so many of us, building confidence in social situations. Whether it’s walking into a room full of strangers, speaking up in a meeting, or simply starting a conversation, social interactions can feel overwhelming and even intimidating at times. 

But here’s the good news: confidence isn’t something you’re born with; it’s a skill you can develop. Today, we’ll explore why social confidence matters, uncover the common barriers that hold us back, and share actionable tips to help you feel more at eas...

Today, we’re tackling a topic that resonates with everyone: How to Deal with Difficult People: Strategies for Maintaining Your Peace. Let’s face it, whether it’s a demanding colleague, a challenging family member, or even a stranger in a stressful situation, dealing with difficult people is an inevitable part of life. These interactions can leave us feeling drained, frustrated, and even questioning our own boundaries.

But here’s the good news: with the right tools and mindset, you can navigate these situations with confidence, protect your emotional well-being, and even foster healthier connections. In this e...

In today’s episode, we delve into the profound connection between emotions and personal growth. How our feelings serve as valuable signals, guiding us toward greater self-awareness, stronger relationships, and improved well-being.

Whether you're navigating stress, managing relationships, or simply seeking a deeper understanding of yourself, this podcast is here to inspire and empower you.

So, let’s tune in, lean into our emotions, and discover how to use them as tools for transformation. Here on Feelings Are Feedback, I believe that understanding your feelings is the first step to un...

Today, we’re diving into a topic that touches millions of lives across the globe, caregiving in the 21st century. Whether you’re caring for an aging parent, a child with special needs, or a loved one facing a chronic illness, caregiving is one ofthe most selfless and demanding roles anyone can take on. 

But let’s face it, caregiving today is not what it used to be. The challenges are evolving, from navigating complex healthcare systems to balancing work, family, and personal well-being. And yet, amidst these challenges, we’re also seeing inc...

Today, we’re tackling a question that many of us have asked at some point in our lives: Why do partners lie? Whether it’s a small white lie or something more significant, dishonesty in relationships can leave us feeling confused, hurt, and even questioning the foundation of trust. But here’s the thing, lying isn’t always as straightforward as it seems.

In this episode, we’ll explore the psychology behind why people lie to their partners, the role fear and insecurity play. Most importantly, we’ll discuss how to approach these...

In today’s episode, Choose Peace Over Conflict: Parents Separating Well aims to help parents navigate the challenging journey of separation with compassion, understanding, and a focus on the well-being of their children.

Separation is never easy, but it doesn’t have to be definedby conflict. Here, we explore how parents can choose peace over discord, fostering a cooperative and respectful approach to co-parenting.

Whether you’re just beginning the separation process or looking for ways to improve your co-parenting relationship, this podcast is your resource for finding clarity...

In today’s episode, we’re exploring a fascinating and transformative topic: The 5 Love Languages and How They Shape Our Romantic Relationships. Have you ever felt like you and your partner are speaking completely different languages when it comes to love? You’re not alone. Dr Gary Chapman’s concept of the 5 Love Languages has revolutionised the way we understand and express love in our relationships. 

We’ll uncover what these love languages are, how they influence the way we connect with our partners, and why understanding them may be the key to building...

In today’s episode, we’re flipping the script on a topic that’s often misunderstood, ADHD. 

For years, ADHD has been labelled as a deficit, a disorder,or even a limitation. But what if I told you it’s not just a challenge, it’s a superpower? That’s right! In this episode, we’ll explore how ADHD can fuel creativity, innovation, and resilience. We’ll uncover the unique strengths that come with it and how embracing these traits can lead to incredible personal and professional success. 

Whether you’re someo...

Today, we’re tackling a topic that resonates with everyone: How Do You Process Your Emotions?  Emotions are a natural part of being human, but understanding and managing them can often feel overwhelming. Whether you’re navigating stress, anxiety, grief, or simply trying to make sense of your feelings, this episode will provide you with insights and practical tools to help you process your emotions in a healthy and constructive way.

We’ll explore why emotions are so powerful, how they impact your relationships and well-being, and share strategies rooted in evidence-based practices...

In today’s episode, we explore The Seasons of Life, the ever-changing chapters of our lives, from moments of growth and joy to times of challenge and reflection. Just like the seasons, life is full of transitions, each bringing its own beauty, lessons, and opportunities for renewal.

I’m Julie Thomas, your guide on this journey, and together, we’ll dive into insights and strategies to help you navigate life’s seasons with resilience, purpose, and hope. Whether you’re in the spring of new beginnings, the summer of abundance, the autumn of change, or the winter...

In this episode, we’re diving into a topic that touches nearly every aspect of our modern lives—social media’s impact on interpersonal relationships. Social media has revolutionised the way we connect, communicate, and share our lives, but it’s also brought unique challenges that can strain our relationships, increase feelings of isolation,and even affect our mental health.

So, how do we navigate this digital landscape in a way that strengthens, rather than weakens, our connections with others? Today, we’ll explore the good, the bad, and the surprising truths about how s...

Today, we’re tackling a question that resonates with so many of us: Why do we play small? Have you ever felt like you’re holding yourself back, shrinking your dreams, or dimming your light to fit in or avoid failure? You’re not alone. Playing small often stems from fear, self-doubt, or even the stories we’ve been told about what we’re capable of.

In this episode, we’ll explore the reasons behind this common struggle, the impact it has on our lives, and how we can break free from the patterns th...

Today, we’re asking a powerful and thought-provoking question: Are you silencing the real you? In a world that often pressures us to conform, it’s easy to lose touch with our authentic selves. Maybe you’ve found yourself saying ‘yes’ when you mean ‘no,’ hiding your feelings to avoid conflict, or even questioning who you truly are beneath the roles you play.

In this episode, we’ll explore why so many of us feel the need to silence our true selves, the impact it has on our emotional well-being, and how we can begin to reconnect with o...

Today, we’re exploring a topic that affects many of us, but is often misunderstood: emotional dysregulation in adults. Have you ever felt like your emotions are running the show, leaving you overwhelmed, reactive, or even stuck? You’re not alone. Emotional dysregulation can impact relationships, work, and even your sense of self. But here’s the good news:understanding it is the first step toward managing it.

In this episode, we’ll unpack what emotional dysregulation really is, explore its causes, and share practical strategies to help you regain control and find bala...

Parenting is one of the most rewarding journeys, but it’s not without its challenges, especially when it comes to setting boundaries. How do we guide our children with love and understanding while fostering their independence? How do we create a home where boundaries feel like bridges to connection, not walls of conflict? 

In today’s episode, we’ll explore how to set positive, age-appropriate boundaries that nurture trust, respect, and emotional growth. Whether you’re navigating tantrums with your toddler, managing power struggles with your preschooler, or navigating the growing independence of an 8-9-year-old...

Parenting pre-schoolers is a journey filled with joy, discovery, and, let’s face it, some pretty big emotions! From meltdowns over the wrong colour cup to the overwhelming excitement of a new adventure, pre-schoolers experience the world in a way that’s raw, unfiltered, and sometimes challenging for parents to navigate. 

In today’s episode, Pre-schoolers and Big Emotions: Supporting Children and Parents to Stay Cool, we’ll explore how to help your little ones manage their emotions while keeping your own cool as a parent. We’ll dive into practical strategies for fosterin...

In this episode, we dive into the transformative power of holistic wellbeing and explore how nurturing the mind, body, and soul can lead to a more balanced and fulfilling life. We’ll discuss the interconnectedness of mental, physical, and emotional health, and why addressing all three is essential for true wellness. 

Listeners will gain insights into practical strategies for reducing stress, fostering emotional resilience, and creating a lifestyle that supports overall health. From mindfulness practices and self-care routines to the importance of movement and nourishing relationships, this episode is packed with act...

Today’s podcast, Challenging Your Limits: A Path to Growth and Transformation, inspires you to step beyond your boundaries, embrace challenges, and unlock the bestversion of yourself. 

Life is full of opportunities to grow, but it’s not always easy to take that first step. Here, we’ll explore how progress, not perfection, is the key to transformation. Together, we’ll uncover how every challenge you face is an opportunity to learn, grow, and thrive. 

So, are you ready to challenge your limits and transform your life? Let’s take that fi...

In today's episode, we’re diving into an important topic: Proactive Mental Wellness. Mental wellness isn’t just about addressing issues when they arise; it’s about building a strong foundation of habits, tools, and strategies that help you thrive every single day. Think of it as creating your very own mental health toolkit, one you can rely on, no matter what life throws your way. 

In this episode, we’ll break it all down: 

· What proactive mental wellness really means and why it’s essential for your overall well-being. 

· The fasci...

Today, we are tackling a topic that resonates with many parents, caregivers, and even teens themselves, navigating the changeableness of the teenage years. Adolescence is a time of incredible growth, self-discovery, and, let’s face it, a fair share of confusion and conflict. It’s a period where emotions run high, relationships shift, and the search for identity takes centre stage. 

In this episode, we’ll explore the push-and-pull dynamic of teenage changeableness, why teens can seem so independent one moment and so vulnerable the next. We’ll discuss practical strategies for fostering...

Today’s episode is for anyone who’s ever felt the weight of a struggling relationship. If you’ve found yourself thinking, Help! My relationship with my partner is in trouble; you’re not alone. Relationships are one of the most rewarding yet challenging aspects of our lives, and when they hit a rough patch, it can feel overwhelming and isolating. 

In this episode, we’ll explore the common challenges that couples face, from communication breakdowns to unmet expectations, and how these can create distance and tension. More importantly, we’ll discuss practical, act...

Today, we are diving into a topic that touches so many lives: anxiety. Anxiety can feel like an overwhelming storm, disrupting our thoughts, emotions, and even our physical well-being. But what if we could understand it better? What if we could learn to manage it and, in doing so, find a path to inner peace? 

In this episode, we will explore the roots of anxiety, how it manifests in our daily lives, and the impact it has on our mental and emotional health. More importantly, we will discuss practical, evidence-based strategies that ma...

In today’s episode, we’re focusing on a topic that’s close to the hearts of many parents, caregivers, and educators: supporting children with neurodiversity and their emotional regulation. For children who are neurodivergent, managing emotions can sometimes feel overwhelming, and for the adults in their lives, it can be equally challenging to know how to help. 

In this episode, we’ll explore what emotional regulation looks like for neurodivergent children, the unique hurdles they may face, and how we can create safe, supportive environments to help them thrive. We’ll also discuss...

Today, we’re talking about a painful topic: infidelity and its impact. Betrayal in a relationship can shake the very foundation of trust, leaving individuals and couples grappling with feelings of anger, grief, confusion, and even self-doubt. But while infidelity is undeniably devastating, it can also serve as a turning point, a moment to reflect, rebuild, and redefine what connection and commitment mean. 

In this episode, we’ll unpack the emotional and psychological toll of infidelity, explore the ripple effects it has on relationships and families, and discuss pathways to healing. Whether you’re someone...

Welcome to Counselling Conversations with Julie, the podcast where we dive deep into the journey of self-discovery, resilience, and personal growth. I’m Julie Thomas, Director and Therapist at Beyond the Surface Counselling, and I’m here to guide you through the transformative power of self-awareness, helping you uncover the strength that’s already within you. 

We’ll explore thought-provoking insights, practical tools,and inspiring stories to help you navigate life’s challenges with confidence and clarity. Whether you’re feeling overwhelmed, seeking balance, or simply looking to reconnect with yourself, this is your...

Welcome to Counselling Conversations with Julie, the podcast where we explore the depths of emotional well-being, relationships, and personal growth. I’m Julie Thomas, Director and Therapist at Beyond the Surface Counselling, and I’m here to guide you through the challenges that shape us and the tools that empower us.

Today, we’re diving into a topic that affects so many of us,often in ways we don’t even realise, trauma and its impact on the body. Have you ever wondered why certain experiences leave a lasting impact, not just on y...

Welcome to Counselling Conversations with Julie, the podcast where we dive deep into the challenges, habits, and mindsets that shape our lives. I'm Julie Thomas, a therapist with over 30 years of experience helping individuals and families navigate life's complexities. Today, we’re tackling a question that resonates with so many of us: What Habits Are Keeping You From Being the Person You Want To Be?

We all have aspirations, dreams, and a vision of the person we want to become. But sometimes, it feels like something is holding us back, a habi...

Welcome to Counselling Conversations with Julie, the podcast where we explore the relationships and experiences that shape our lives. I’m Julie Thomas, a therapist with over 30 years of experience helping families and individuals navigate life’s challenges. Today, we’re delving into one of the most profound and complex relationships: The Mother-Daughter Bond: A Lifelong Connection.

The mother-daughter relationship is a unique and powerful connection that evolves over time. It can be a source of immense love, support, and understanding, but it can also bring challenges, misunderstandings, and emotional complexities. In this...

Welcome to Counselling Conversations with Julie, the podcast where we uncover the science behind our emotions, behaviours, and mental well-being. I’m Julie Thomas, a therapist with over 30 years of experience helping individuals and families navigate life’s challenges. Today,we are diving into a fascinating topic that impacts every aspect of our lives: The Positive and Negative Effects of Dopamine.

Dopamine is often called the 'feel-good' chemical, but its role in our brain and body is far more complex. It’s responsible for motivation, reward, and pleasure, but it can also con...

Welcome to Counselling Conversations with Julie, the podcast where we explore the challenges and triumphs of parenting, mental health, and personal growth. I’m Julie Thomas, a therapist with over 30 years of experience helping families and children navigate life’s complexities. Today, we’re focusing on a topic that touches so many parents’ hearts: Supporting Anxious Children: Practical Strategies for Parents.

Parenting an anxious child can feel overwhelming and, at times, isolating. You want to help, but knowing where to start or how to respond can be a challenge. In this episode, w...

Welcome to Counselling Conversations with Julie, the podcast where we explore the meaningful, sometimes challenging, conversations that help us grow and connect. I’m Julie Thomas, a therapist with over 30 years of experience supporting individuals and families through life’s ups and downs. Today, we’re diving into a topic that’s close to the heart but often difficult to approach: Starting conversations about mental health.

Talking about mental health can feel overwhelming, whether it’s addressing your own struggles or supporting someone you care about. But these conversations are essential for fosterin...

In today’s podcast, we are exploring a topic that resonates with so many families: the complexities of blended families. Blending two families into one can be a beautiful journey, but it’s not without its unique challenges. From navigating new dynamics to fostering trust and connection, the path can feel overwhelming at times.

In this episode, we will uncover practical strategies for building stronger bonds, creating a harmonious environment, and thriving together as a blended family. Whether you are a parent, stepparent, or child in a blended family, this conversation is p...

Welcome to today’s episode, where we explore the joys and challenges of parenting. Today, we’re diving into a fascinating and sometimes tricky stage of childhood, parenting 9-year-old girls. At this age, girls are navigating a unique blend of independence, emotional growth, and social development. They’re forming their identities, building friendships, and starting to ask more profound questions about the world around them.

In this episode, we’ll discuss how to support them, nurture their confidence, and help them thrive during this pivotal stage. Whether you are a parent, caregiver, or educator, this epi...

Welcome to Mind and Body Harmony, the podcast where we explore the powerful connection between mental and physical well-being. Here, we dive into practical strategies and expert insights to help you achieve balance, resilience, and a deeper sense of harmony in your life. Whether you're seeking tools to manage stress, improve emotional health, or live more mindfully, this is your space for growth and transformation.

Let’s embark on this journey to wellness, one step at a time.

Thank you for joining me today. For more information, please click the lin...

Welcome to "Becoming a Better Communicator: Building Bridges, Not Walls", the podcast where we explore the art of meaningful connection, one conversation at a time. Whether you are navigating family dynamics, strengthening relationships, or fostering understanding in your personal or professional life, this is the space for you.

Join me as we uncover practical strategies, inspiring insights, and expert advice to help you break down barriers, build trust, and create deeper, more authentic connections. Communication isn’t just about words, it’s about understanding, empathy, and the bridges we build to brin...

In today’s episode, we are diving into a topic that is often misunderstood but holds incredible potential for healing and growth: The Power of Emotional Vulnerability: Strength in Being Open.

Many of us view vulnerability as a weakness, something to avoid or hide. But what if vulnerability is actually a source of strength? What if being open and honest about our emotions could deepen our relationships, enhance our resilience, and lead us to a more fulfilling life?

Together, we will unpack the misconceptions around vulnerability, explore its role in bui...

Today’s episode is dedicated to a topic that so many parents face but often feel alone in: Parental Stress: Understanding the Challenges and Strategies for Coping.

Parenting is one of life’s most rewarding journeys, but it can also be one of the most overwhelming. From managing daily responsibilities to supporting your child’s emotional needs, the weight of it all can feel like too much. But you’re not alone. 

In this episode, we will uncover the root causes of parental stress, explore how it impact...

In today’s episode, we are diving into a topic that resonates with so many of us: Letting Go of Past Hurts. Whether it is a painful memory, a difficult relationship, or lingering guilt, holding onto the past can weigh us down and prevent us from moving forward. But here is the good news, letting go does not have to be overwhelming. 

Today, I will be sharing 5 simple shortcuts to help you release those emotional burdens and create space for healing, growth, and peace. These are practical, evidence-based strategies that you can...

Welcome to Thriving After 50: A Guide for Women to Embrace Their Best Years, the podcast where we celebrate the wisdom, strength, and resilience of women stepping into their best years.  I am here to guide you through this exciting chapter of life, a time to rediscover your passions, redefine your purpose, and embrace the freedom to live authentically. 

Whether you are navigating the changes of midlife, exploring new opportunities, or simply looking for inspiration to thrive, this is the space for you.

Because thriving after 50 isn’t ju...

Welcome to Beyond the Surface: Trauma-Informed Approaches in Therapy, the podcast where we explore the transformative power of compassionate, evidence-based counselling. This podcast is your guide to understanding the profound impact of trauma-informed care.

Thank you for joining me today. For more information, please click the link to check out more at Beyond The Surface Counselling

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In today’s episode, we are talking about a few parenting terms you may have heard of in the parent world, Lawnmower and Bulldozer Parenting. You may have heard these terms before, but what do they really mean? And more importantly, how do these parenting styles impact your child’s development and well-being?

We will explore the characteristics of these approaches, why they might feel like the right choice in the moment, and the unintended consequences they can have on your child’s ability to face challenges and build resilience. Most import...

In today’s episode, we are talking about a topic that affects so many of us, Comparison. Whether it is scrolling through social media, observing others’ achievements, or feeling like you are falling short in your personal or professional life,the habit of comparing yourself to others can be incredibly draining. It steals your joy, erodes your confidence, and keeps you from embracing the unique person you are.

But here is the good news, you can break free from the comparison trap. In this episode, we will uncover why we are wire...

In today’s episode, we are diving into a topic that resonates with so many of us: When Our Habits No Longer Serve Us Well: Recognising the Need for Change. Habits are the foundation of our daily lives, shaping how we think, feel, and act. But what happens when those habits, once helpful, start holding us back, causing stress, or even harming our wellbeing? How do we recognise the signs that it is time to let go and embrace a new way forward?

Together, we will explore the emotional and psychological im...

Today, we are exploring a topic that touches every parent’s heart: children’s fears. From the monsters under the bed to the anxiety of starting a new school, fears are a natural part of growing up. But as parents and caregivers, how do we respond in a way that soothes their worries and builds their inner strength? 

In this episode, we will uncover the roots of children’s fears, how they evolve as children grow, and practical, compassionate strategies to help them feel safe and supported. Whether you are a parent...

In today's episode, we are diving into the fascinating concept of Crystal Ball Thinking: The Power and Pitfalls of Predicting the Future. From its ability to spark innovation and strategic planning to the risks of over-reliance on speculation, we will uncover how this forward-thinking mindset can both inspire and mislead. So, whether you are a parent, a crystal ball thinker, a creative thinker, or just curious about what is next, stay tuned as we explore how to harness the potential of crystal ball thinking while staying grounded in the present.

Thank you f...

Today, we are exploring a fascinating topic that impacts all of us, The Psychology of Being Right: Why Some People Struggle to Admit They Are Wrong.

Have you ever found yourself in a heated argument where no matter how much evidence you present, the other person just won’t budge? Or maybe you have caught yourself doubling down on a belief, even when you knew deep down you might be wrong? You are not alone. The need to be ‘right’ is deeply rooted in our psychology, and it is more than just a matter of pri...

In today’s episode, we explore the profound ways our words, actions and presence shape the lives of those around us. Are you intentional in your interactions? Whether you are a parent, a professional, or someone striving to make a positive difference, this podcast is your guide to creating meaningful connections and leaving a lasting legacy of kindness, empathy, and understanding. Let’s uncover the ripple effects of our impact, one conversation at a time. 

Thank you for joining me today. For more information, please click the link to check out more at Bey...

In today’s episode, we are diving into, Child-Centred Play Therapy. It is a powerful therapeutic approach that may transform the lives of children and their families.

If you are a parent, caregiver, or someone who works with children, this episode is for you. We will explore what child-centred play therapy is, how it works, and the incredible benefits it offers for both children and their families.

Thank you for joining me today. For more information, please click the link to check out more at Beyond The Surface Counselling

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In this episode, we will dive into the science behind how media affects our wellbeing, explore the potential benefits and risks of different types of content, and share practical tips to help you create a healthier relationship with what you watch.

Whether you are a parent concerned about your child’s screen time or are simply curious about how your favourite shows might influence your mindset, this episode is for you. Let’s get started!

Thank you for joining me today. For more information, please click the link to check out more at B...

In today’s episode, we are talking about body image, and how it intertwines with our mental health. Body image plays an influential role in shaping our self-esteem, confidence, and overall well-being, from how we see ourselves in the mirror to the messages we absorb from society.

But what happens when our relationship with our body becomes a source of stress, anxiety, or even shame? How does this impact our mental health, and what can we do to foster a more positive mindset?

So, take a deep breath, settle in, and let’s be...

In today’s episode, we’ll unpack why this assumption is so prevalent, how it can quietly harm your relationship, and most importantly, how to shift toward open, honest, and effective communication. You’ll learn practical strategies to express your needs, foster deeper understanding, and create a stronger, more connected partnership. 

Whether you are navigating a new relationship or looking to strengthen a long-term bond, this episode is packed with insights to help you break free from the mind-reading myth and build a healthier, happier connection. So, let’s dive in and discover the key to be...

In today’s episode, we are uncovering the incredible power of family therapy, an approach that not only strengthens bonds but also fosters deeper understanding among family members. Families are the cornerstone of our lives, but even the strongest families face moments of conflict, miscommunication, and emotional strain. Family therapy offers a safe, non-judgmental space to address these challenges, rebuild trust, and create lasting harmony.

We will discuss how family therapy can help uncover hidden dynamics, improve communication, and empower families to work together toward shared goals.

Whether you are a parent, pa...

In today’s episode, we explore a timely and deeply impactful topic, the effects of environmental disasters and trauma on children. From bushfires and floods to cyclones and other natural catastrophes, these events leave more than just physical scars, they can profoundly shape a child’s emotional and psychological well-being.

We will uncover how these experiences affect children’s development, sense of safety, and ability to process overwhelming emotions. We will also discuss the importance of creating a safe, compassionate space for children to heal and how caregivers can support their journey toward resilience.

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In this episode, we are tackling a topic that many of us face but rarely talk about—negative self-talk. That inner critic that whispers —or sometimes shouts—doubts, fears, and self-judgments. It is that voice that can hold us back, chip away at our confidence, and impact our mental and emotional well-being.

But where does this negative self-talk come from? Why does it have such a strong grip on us? And most importantly, how can we quiet that inner critic and replace it with a voice of self-compassion and encouragement?

Today we dive i...

Today, we are exploring a topic that resonates with many of us, people-pleasing. You know that constant urge to say 'yes,' to avoid conflict and put others’ needs ahead of your own. While it might seem harmless or even admirable, people-pleasing can have profound consequences on your mental health, relationships, and overall well-being.

In this episode, we’ll unpack what people-pleasing is, why so many of us fall into this pattern, and most importantly, how to break free from it. Whether you’re someone who struggles with setting boundaries or you’re just curious...

In today’s episode, we are embarking on an exciting and deeply personal journey. Life can often feel like a whirlwind of responsibilities and expectations, leaving little time to reflect on what truly matters to you. But what if you could pause, reconnect with your inner self, and design a life that aligns with your values, passions, and dreams?

Together, we’ll explore the steps to uncover your authentic self, identify what brings you joy and fulfilment, and create a roadmap to the life you’ve always envisioned. This isn’t about perfection—it’s about prog...

In today’s episode, we uncover what cognitive shuffling is all about and how it works.

Have you ever found yourself lying awake at night, your mind is racing with worries and intrusive thoughts? If so, you are not alone. Many of us find quieting our minds at bedtime challenging.

That’s where cognitive shuffling comes into play—a simple yet powerful mental technique designed to help you break free from those overwhelming thought patterns.

Thank you for joining me today. For more information, please click the link t...

Today, we are diving deep into a fascinating topic that hasgained significant attention in psychology and health: enhancing vagal tone.

Have you ever felt overwhelmed by stress or anxiety? Orperhaps you have noticed that your mood fluctuates more than you would like.

The vagus nerve, often referred to as the 'wandering nerve'due to its extensive reach throughout the body, plays a crucial role in regulating our emotional responses and stress levels.

In this episode, we will uncover practical techniques that mayhelp you stimulate the vagus nerve, ultimately leading to improved emotional resilience and...

Today, we are talking about a topic that affects countlessindividuals but is often shrouded in silence: Workplace Bullying.

In this episode, we’ll delve into the emotional, psychological, and even physical toll that bullying in the workplace can have on your well-being.

We will explore how to recognise the signs of workplacebullying and the long-term effects it can have on your mental and physical health.

Whether you’ve experienced it or want to support someone who has, this conversation is for you. 

So, please take a moment for yours...

Today, we are tackling a topic that resonates with so manyparents. Whether it’s differing values between you and your partner, extended family, or even your children as they grow and develop their own perspectives, navigating these differences can feel overwhelming and isolating.

In this episode, we will explore how to approach thesechallenges with compassion, open communication, and a focus on building stronger connections. We will discuss practical strategies for finding common ground, respecting differences, and staying true to your core values whilefostering a harmonious family environment.

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In today’s episode, we are diving into the world of creativeand somatic therapies—powerful approaches that go beyond words to help youreconnect with your mind, body, and emotions. Whether you are facing anxiety,grief, or simply feeling stuck, these therapies may offer you a safe andcompassionate space to explore, heal, and grow.

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Today, we are diving into a topic that impacts so many lives— Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder or ADHD.

This episode will explore ADHD, dispel common misconceptions, and explore practical strategies for managing its challenges. Whether you are living with ADHD, supporting someone who is, or simply curious to learn more, this conversation is for you.

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Today, we are talking about a topic that affects us all: stress in today's world.

Stress has become a modern epidemic, woven into the fabric of our fast-paced lives. From juggling work and family responsibilities to navigating the constant demands of technology, it is no wonder so many of us feel overwhelmed. But what exactly is stress, and why has it become such a pervasive issue in our society? More importantly, how can we learn to cope and thrive despite it?

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In today’s episode, we are exploring a topic that touches the lives of many families—understanding behavioural changes in children who have experienced trauma. Trauma can deeply impact a child’s emotional and psychological development, often manifesting in ways that may seem confusing or overwhelming to parents and caregivers. Together, we will unpack the signs of trauma-related behavioural changes, discuss the underlying causes, and share practical strategies to support children on their healing journey.

Whether you are a parent, caregiver, educator, or someone looking to deepen your understanding of childhood trauma, this episode is for...

In today’s episode, we are talking about decluttering your life for mental clarity and wellbeing

Today, we are diving into a topic that impacts us all—clutter. But this is not just about tidying up your home. We are talking about decluttering your life—your physical space, your schedule, and even your mind—to create room for mental clarity, emotional well-being, and a sense of calm in your everyday life.

If you have ever felt overwhelmed by the chaos around you or the weight of unresolved emotions, this episode...

In today's episode, we are talking about why adults need more play in their lives.

A topic that is often overlooked but incredibly important. Play is not just for children! As adults, we often get caught up in the hustle and responsibilities of life, forgetting the joy and creativity that play can bring. But did you know that incorporating play into your life may reduce stress, boost your mental health, and even improve your relationships?

In this episode, we will uncover why play is essential for adults, how it...

In today’s episode, we are exploring a topic that touches every aspect of our lives—Building Stronger Emotional Bonds. Whether it is with your partner, children, friends, or even yourself, emotional connections are the foundation of healthy, fulfilling relationships.

We will uncover practical strategies to strengthen these bonds, discuss the role of communication and empathy, and explore how understanding your own emotional needs can transform the way you connect with others.

In this episode, we are discussing a topic that’s more important than ever in our fast-paced world: The Wellbeing Benefits of Being Calm. Have you ever noticed how much better you feel when you are calm? It’s not just in your head—calmness profoundly affects your mental, emotional, and even physical health. From reducing stress and improving mental clarity to enhancing your resilience and overall happiness, calmness is a superpower we all have the ability to cultivate.

So, whether you’re looking for ways to manage stress, improve...

In today’s episode, we are exploring a topic that affects us all—fear. Fear is a natural response, but it can have profound effects on both the mind and body. Together, we will uncover what fear is, how it manifests, and the ways it can shape our thoughts, emotions, and even our physical health. Most importantly, we will discuss practical strategies to manage fear and regain control when it feels overwhelming.

So, whether you are looking to better understand your fears or support someone you care about, this episode is for you. Let’s jour...

In today’s episode, we are addressing a deeply personal and universal experience: *Grief and Loneliness*. Grief is a natural response to loss, but it often brings with it a profound sense of loneliness that can feel overwhelming. Whether you’re grieving the loss of a loved one, a relationship, or even a life transition, understanding this emotional journey is the first step toward healing.

Together, we will explore the connection between grief and loneliness, why these feelings arise, and how they impact our mental and emotional well-being. Most importantly, we will discuss practical stra...

In today’s episode, we’re diving into a topic that touches all of us at some point: managing unmet expectations. Whether it is in relationships, career, or personal goals, unmet expectations can feel like roadblocks. But what if they’re actually stepping stones to growth and resilience? Together, we’ll uncover how to reframe these moments, embrace the lessons they offer, and build a stronger, more adaptable mindset.

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Understanding and Supporting Adolescent Mental Health is a podcast dedicated to exploring the unique challenges and opportunities in the mental health . landscape for adolescents. I am Julie Thomas, Director and therapist at Beyond the Surface Counselling, with over 30 years of experience helping families and children navigate through life's complexities.

In this episode, we delve into critical topics such as anxiety, depression, family dynamics, and the impact of social media on young minds. We provide actionable insights, evidence-based strategies, and compassionate advice to help parents, educators, and mental health professionals support adolescents in their journey...

Welcome to "Surviving and Thriving During the School Holidays," a podcast dedicated to helping families navigate the ups and downs of school breaks with confidence and joy.

In this podcast, we will explore practical tips, expert advice, and creative strategies to make the most of your time together, ensuring that both parents and children can enjoy a balanced, fulfilling holiday season. From managing stress and maintaining routines to finding fun and educational activities, we're here to help you turn potential chaos into cherished memories.

In this episode, we are exploring a topic that is both challenging and incredibly rewarding: embracing discomfort for personal growth. It's natural to shy away from discomfort, but what if I told you that stepping into those uncomfortable spaces can lead to profound personal development and a deeper understanding of yourself?

We will discuss why discomfort is a crucial part of the growth process, how to navigate those uneasy feelings, and practical strategies to help you embrace and even welcome discomfort as a catalyst for change. Whether you're dealing with personal challenges, relationship issues...

Today, we are focusing on a topic that resonates with many of us: feeling overwhelmed.

In our fast-paced world, it's easy to feel like we're drowning in responsibilities, emotions, and expectations. Whether it's work, family, or personal struggles, the weight can sometimes feel unbearable. But remember, you're not alone, and there are effective strategies that may help you regain control and find your balance.

In this episode, I'll be sharing my top ten tips for managing those overwhelming moments. These tips are designed to be practical, actionable, and based...

n today’s episode we will delve into the heart of family dynamics and emotional well-being. We are exploring a topic that is fundamental to every parent's journey: understanding your child's emotions.

As parents, we often find ourselves navigating the complex world of our children's feelings. From the joy of their first steps to the frustration of a tantrum, emotions play a crucial role in their development and our relationship with them. But how can we truly understand what our children are feeling, especially when they might not have the words to express it?

n this episode, we are diving into a topic that touches the core of our human experience: healing ruptures in relationships. Whether it is a misunderstanding with a friend, a conflict with a partner, or a rift within the family, relationship ruptures can be deeply painful and challenging to navigate.

We will explore what causes these ruptures, the impact they have on our emotional well-being, and most importantly, how we can begin to heal and rebuild trust. Through practical strategies and compassionate insights, we will guide you on a journey to mend these fractures...

Often, we are our own harshest critics. We criticise, judge and tell ourselves the most negative thoughts and feelings.

Self-limiting beliefs are judgments or opinions about our strengths and capabilities that prevent us from achieving our goals and being successful in our lives. They are toxic to our mental health and our own worst enemy.

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When you step into a mental health professional room, you are not walking through the door ‘alone’; in a sense, you bring your family with you.

Have you ever wondered what makes some families more capable of moving through difficult times without fracturing under strain? Or how other families deal effectively with conflict?

If your family needs professional advice, please reach out to a mental health professional.

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Grief is complicated and fluctuating, a painfully normal part of life and an experience universal to every one of us. Grief and loss feelings may never entirely disappear; however, we can learn to manage the pain. It is essential to understand grief and how to deal with the pain and sadness while remaining on a journey of growth and healing.

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Studies show that our social connections with other people can have a profound effect on our well-being. Strong social connection is vital to our existence, it has a significant effect on our mood and psychological health.

Engaging in socialness can be challenging if you are not feeling great, you may want to be left alone and may not feel like you can be bothered to make the effort to get out there and socialise.

Looking at the deeper reasons, our thoughts and feelings on why you may not want...

Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) is a term used to describe very stressful and traumatic events or circumstances that children may experience during their childhood. Adverse childhood experiences have been shown to impact individuals' development throughout life.

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Play is fun and vital to children’s healthy development; it has enormous psychological benefits. However, what happens when your family or child feels overwhelmed, stressed, or anxious?

Challenges and distress look different for all families; they are as individual as you and your family. Using a structured problem-solving technique may help your child reframe their worries, it may also help you.

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Stress can affect the quality of our close relationships. When life and environments get stressful our partners may feel we are not invested in the relationship. This can lead to interfering with or worsening our relationship.

Stressful situations such as financial, ill health, family dynamics, and work pressures are often the intruders in the relationships that may cause dissatisfaction.

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Parents inevitably come to parenting counselling for many varied reasons. Parents may come to counselling through an event that has an evident and significant effect on their child. In other instances, the cause of your child’s change in mood, behaviour, and social or academic functioning is not evident.

Becoming a parent of a child and knowing how to parent are two different things. Most parenting does not come naturally, and there is no such thing as the “perfect parent”. We all make mistakes, so engaging in parenting counselling may be the be...

During the Olympics, there was a buzz around one of the male athletes knitting whilst in the stands. This episode provides the history and possible reasons this Olympian is one knit and purl from other athletes.

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We often hear about authenticity in the media, about people being real or not. What is being authentic and is it a big deal if we are not authentic, is that going to be a problem?

A big question, one we may grapple with on many occasions and why do we often conceal our authenticity and not be true to ourselves?

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Anxiety may cause a serious inability to function to our highest capacity. The intense worry and fear about everyday situations can elevate our heart rate, breathe more rapidly, perspire, and feel shaky, or tremble and we have a sense of impending danger or panic.

Anxiety can be a normal feeling in stressful situations such as taking an exam, meeting new people or public speaking. However, anxiety becomes an issue when anxious feelings become excessive, all-consuming and interfere with sleep patterns.

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Most people have experienced sleep struggles sometime in their lives. Insomnia is a disorder characterised by difficulty falling asleep, staying asleep or getting adequate restorative sleep, these can negatively affect our health and wellbeing.

We often do not realise how important the health benefits of a good night's sleep are for us. Many important health-related things are being performed as we sleep such as our brain forming memories and processing the day’s events as well as pruning the information in our brain it no longer needs, making room for things it does need. Ou...

Traumatic experiences can overwhelm your neurological system, the nervous system includes the brain, spinal cord and a complex network of nerves. When your neurological system is overwhelmed, it can lead to heightened sensitivity affecting your ability to manage life experiences, emotions and actions for many years after trauma. So what is the window of tolerance you may be asking? The window of tolerance developed by Dan Siegal, a clinical professor of Psychiatry describes the window of tolerance as the best state of ‘arousal’ or stimulation in which we can function and thrive in everyday life. Thank you for joining me toda...

Shame is a powerful and complex emotion that can have profound consequences on our mental and emotional wellbeing and can significantly impact our quality of life. Shame tends to deeply ingrain itself in our sense of self. Our sense of self is the perception we have of ourselves, the characteristics and traits that define us as individuals. When we lose our sense of self a gap is formed, a space in our identity. We may question who we are, and the inner critic's volume is turned up which may result in increased anxiety, low self-esteem and confidence, feelings of being...

In this podcast, I highlight a therapeutic approach called the Emotional Freedom Technique EFT, also known as tapping. Life can be stressful and in these challenging times, the need for emotional resilience is paramount. When our emotional and physical systems are challenged and possibly compromised, we may feel out of balance, physically ill and overwhelmed with emotional turmoil. Unprocessed emotional and physical sensations remain in our bodies. Our nervous system stays on high alert to protect us from perceived threats. These perceived threats are stored in the emotional centres of our brains. These are activated whenever a similar situation presents...

Are you in a rut, feeling like you are going through the same routine day in and day out, no spark in your relationship and you feel taken for granted? Sometimes the idea of changing something different or trying something different in your relationship can seem daunting. Doing things differently will not only keep your relationship healthy but will also feed your mind, body and soul. Couples who try new experiences build their relationships closeness, trust, and communication and develop healthier patterns of behaviour.

Careers with Independence Australia Here in the Southern Hemisphere, we experienced the Winter Solstice on Friday the 21st of June, the shortest day and longest night of the year; days grow colder and the nights longer. The arrival of the solstice and the change of season may bring us different sensory feelings that may remind us of past experiences, activating our responses in unexpected ways. Less sunlight and warmth have been found to affect our moods and emotions. People often refer to their mood and emotion changes as the winter blues. The reduced level of sunlight in winter may disrupt...