Stop Parenting & Start Coaching

If you’ve ever said, “My teen needs to be taken down a notch,” this episode is your wake-up call. We break down why that mindset crushes confidence and how a coaching approach actually develops humility, strength, and real independence. You’ll learn how to use love, challenge, and questions—not control or shame—to raise high-performing, emotionally healthy teens.

In this episode, we dive into how humiliation, even when subtle, can derail your teen’s confidence and passion. Instead, we offer some powerful questions to guide your teen’s growth through thoughtful challenges, encouragement, and conversations that fuel both t...

Think your teen’s success starts with better training or coaching? Think again. It starts at home. The strongest teen athletes and performers come from families that operate like teams, playoff teams centered around clear communication, shared accountability, and mutual respect. Today we explore practical ways to build that kind of culture: from a united front to weekly huddles and making repairs in front of our teen athletes and performers. Because if your family functions like a playoff team, your teen will thrive wherever they play.

The Timestamps!

00:00 Family as a Playoff Team

03:25 Co...

Parents, here’s the hard truth: growth doesn’t happen where honesty is avoided. In Episode 118, we dive deep into why facing the truth—especially the uncomfortable kind—creates the breakthrough moments your teen athlete or performer needs. You’ll quickly learn how to apply our “3 Reframing R’s”—Reflect, Refocus, and Recommit—to transform your approach from typical parental reacting to coaching with clarity and power.

Moms and dads--we believe in you and we believe you CAN handle the truth!

The Timestamps

00:00 The Importance of Truth in Growth

02:15 Keys to Confronting...

PARENTS—your words carry weight. If you're coaching a high-achieving teen, "linguistic intentionality" isn't optional—it's essential. In this episode, we break down why how you say something matters just as much as what you say. The way you communicate can build confidence, resilience, and trust—or do the opposite. This one’s packed with practical insight to help you level up your parenting (ahem, coaching) game. Let’s get into it.

The Timestamps!

00:00 Understanding Linguistic Intentionality

00:37 The Importance of Words in Communication

02:52 The Story of Finn: A Teen Athlete's Struggles

03:44...

Steve goes on the hot seat!! Sizzle! This week's episode is a replay of a LinkedIn LIVE session where Nate plays himself (a high performance coach) and Steve plays a high achieving parent of a teen athlete or performer. It's time for Steve to "get radically honest!"

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High-achieving parents! You’ve got the ambition, the goals, and the work ethic. But tech doesn’t care. Tech and social media is working against you and your best efforts, pulling your high performing teen away from purpose into danger, anxiety, and crippling identity issues.

Nicole Runyon, a licensed psychotherapist, keynote speaker, wife, mother, and author of the book: Free to Fly: The Secret to Fostering Independence in the Next Generation, joins us to share the wisdom and necessity in reclaiming your role as a parent—not with your hands off the wheel or ruling with an iron f...

PARENTS: Please join us at a special LINKEDIN Live event just for you. "RADICALLY HONEST" are the words we'll be wrestling with! 30 minutes, short and sweet, 100% complimentary, and you, a Most Valuable Parent will be one of the stars! Click the link below to register!

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Hey parents—what if the very thing you’re trying to fix in your teen isn’t actually the problem? In this episode, Steve and I dive into a powerful shift: moving from parenting strategies that control to coaching strategies that c...

PARENTS--Let’s get radical! Let's get honest! We might as well get RADICALLY HONEST!! Traditional parenting often breaks down when your teen starts to compete or perform at a higher level. What they need isn't more control, it's a shift from your best parenting to skilled coaching. We dive into what radical honesty really means, how to reset communication, and why your own growth as a parent is the key to unlocking theirs. It’s not about pushing harder—it’s about connecting deeper. Let's go MVP's!!

You're cordially invited to join us on a LinkedIn LIVE on Monda...

"Nobody needs coaching" (say it in a bit of a whiny voice for added effect). While that is a common "hot take" out there in the coaching space, we 100% go against the grain on that statement. Those are fightin' words to us!

After 55ish combined years of coaching, parenting, and marital (mostly) bliss...we strongly contend that while everyone may not want a coach or aspire to be coached, Everyone Needs a Coach!! Tune in to this short but hard punching episode where we will present the arguments against the "nobody needs coaching" statement and throw a...

Parenting is the hardest job and there's not a close second. So what if you just decided to focus on getting "M.A.D.?!" We do what we do because we want to be M.A.D. 24/7/365 if at all possible. Tune in to find out why being a M.A.D. parent will help you to help your high performing teen to soar! If you model this yourself as a high achieving mom or dad, your teen is likely to become a M.A.D.M.A.N. or M.A.D.W.O.M.A.N. too!<...

Raising high-achieving teens is not about pushing harder—it’s about aligning better. We reveal how you can use coaching strategies that keep your teen motivated, connected, and resilient—even when the inevitable, emotional potholes appear. And teens face dozens of emotional potholes in an average school day. It's easy for them to get out of alignment quickly which in turn can create alignment problems with you as a parent.

We've faced this pothole/alignment issue as dads, coaches, and teachers. Let's take this whole pothole thing head on and explore some practical solutions that you can implem...

If you’ve ever felt your heart race while watching your teen compete or perform, you’re not alone. We’ve been there—sitting in the stands, palms sweaty, wondering if I’ve done enough to prepare them for this moment. We've also been a little shaky at times before an crucial conversation or uncomfortable situation.

Confidence as a parent isn’t something we’re born with—it’s something we intentionally build. In this episode,we use the metaphor of a pre-flight checklist to shifting from "parenting" to “coaching.” You’ll discover how to prepare for high-pressure moments so...

What is the most important relationship? We've got our answer. Do you have your answer? We won't really fight you over this, but we absolutely, positively believe it is the parent-teen relationship. And...parenting a teen athlete or performer isn’t just another stage of life—it’s a high-stakes job with an expiration date!

Let's get real about what it takes to win in this short window of time that you get with your high achieving teen. If you're tired of your traditional parenting tactics that fall flat, you’re going to want to hear how coaching...

When your high achieving teen starts tuning you out, it’s a warning sign—not a "drive off the cliff" moment. It’s a chance to upgrade your approach. A welcome chance to shift from parenting to coaching.

In this commuter-friendly--"I'm too busy to listen to long form podcasts"--conversation, we explore how a traditional parenting strategy fails miserably—and how coaching habits rooted in connection, curiosity, and courage can unlock your teen’s highest potential.

The Timestamps

00:00 The Power of Listening in Parenting

07:49 Influence and Expectations in Child Development

11:22...

PARENTS: Is your playbook outdated? Discover how questions—not commands—empower your teen athlete. You’ve worked hard to give your teen every opportunity for success—but is your parenting actually helping them thrive or holding them back? In today’s episode, we dive into why shifting from advice-giver to question-asker could be the most powerful move you make.

Timestamps

00:00 Shifting from Parenting to Coaching

02:52 Relationship Building is Where It's At!

04:25 Understanding the Role of Expectations

07:27 The Power of Questions in Parenting

Takeaways

-Realizing the old parent...

Parents! CHAOS alert! Ever feel like you're drowning in the chaotic shuffling of schedules, calendars, practices, carpools, uniforms, and GPS instructions?! Well, you probably are! Let's throw you a rescue donut (and maybe a chocolate one, too) and help you create some clarity and control. Want to know how you can turn your family scheduling chaos into "organization on the go?" OK, we've got something for you that you'll wish you had yesterday!

In this week's episode, Zoya Lehrer, co-founder of Orgo--the shared calendar app for crazy busy sports parents--shares the origin story of this amazing app...

Hey there high achieving moms and dads! Are you ready to fill your parenting and coaching pan with some gold nuggets?! Simon Timms is in the house and he's got 30 years of parenting wisdom to share. As an experienced father, husband, and licensed therapist Simon knows the ins, outs, ups, and downs of communicating and connecting with teens, especially when the stakes are high and the going is tough! You're going to love this one!

The Timestamps!

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Parenting Challenges

00:57 Simon Timms: Background and Experience

07:57 Understanding Teen...

Whooa parents! Here's a must listen if you want to simplify the complexities of the recruiting process for your young athlete! David Hitz and Athlete Narrative to your rescue!! Let's get real and learn the importance and best practices of personal branding, your role as a Most Valuable Parent, and how technology can become your athlete's trusted guide in recruitment.

Tune is as we engage with David and discuss the common mistakes parents and athletes are making in their efforts to reach out to coaches and colleges! Listen to some success stories that inspire hope for your...

We’re asking a powerful question: Is "it" optional or essential? What is "it?" Tune it to find out as we explore how the concept of "NECESSITY" can help you lead your teen more effectively, especially if they’re navigating high-stakes performance in sports or the performing arts. You’ll leave with tools that shift your mindset from transactional to transformational and from parenting...to coaching!

We’re diving into the deep end of the pool to get a bit uncomfortable. Yep, in the deep water we'll find out how the high performance habit of necessity creates clarity...

If you're serious about high performance—not just for your teen, but for yourself as a parent, this conversation may be your wake-up call. We dive head first into the real reason our communication and connection with our teens often falls flat: low energy. There are some simple and strategic ways to turn this around!

Walk with us in this discussion on how we can better generate energy. That's right. We have the power (pun fully intended) to create energy rather than viewing it as a supply we have no control over. We touch on the four pi...

If you're a high-performing parent trying to raise a high-performing teen, you know this already—it takes courage. Not always the “run-into-the-fire” kind, but the quiet, everyday kind: letting go of control, staying consistent, and having the hard conversations. In our milestone 100th episode, we celebrate YOU—the brave moms and dads who courageously shift from parenting to coaching on your quest to create magical relationships with your teens!

Sure, we're pumped we've published content for you every Monday for 100 weeks, but what we're most excited about is you and teaming with you to elevate your performance.

Her...

Going first can be scary! But, your teen is watching. If you’ve ever wished your teen would just change their attitude, their habits, or their mindset—this episode flips that desire on its head. We unpack the powerful metaphor of the "first penguin" and challenge you to step up and model the behaviors you want to see from your teen athlete or performer. From emotional resilience to authenticity, this episode dives deep into why going first isn't just brave—it's necessary.

Are you ready to be the first penguin? Let's gooooooooooo!

The Timestamps!

00:0...

Parents, what is the #1 High Performance Habit? Where does it all start? it’s time to swap confusion for clarity. Ah, clarity! In this powerful episode, we unpack the King of the High Performance Habits: CLARITY. This isn’t just a concept—it’s a parenting and coaching superpower and one you've gotta get right if you want to improve your own performance and that of your teen. Let's get crystal clear on this. Ready? Let's gooooooooo!

The Timestamps!

00:00 Understanding How our Own Uncertainty Affects Teen Growth

02:43 Clarity-- Is it a Destination?

04:59...

Discover how leadership, love, and trust transformed an autistic teen’s life, and how it can change yours and your most important relationships! Parents, this episode is a Can't Miss, Don't Miss opportunity! Coach Jim Johnson doesn’t just talk about winning, he talks about leading with heart and he walks that walk in his own life!

Coach's story of the miracle that took place on February 15th, 2006 in Rochester, New York is nothing short of stunning. On that night Jason McElwain ("J-Mac"), a young autistic team manager made sports history. And J-Mac's story is more than insp...

Silent contracts filled with expectations usually lead to disappointment and communication breakdowns. This is gonna lead to some "A words!" You know, we could probably name this episode "The A Words!"

What "A" words you ask? Agreements (oh yeah, much better!) and Awareness (ok, now we're talking!). In this episode we're going to discuss how to use Awareness so you can cancel those bad silent contracts and more toward creating powerful Agreements!

Let's go parents! Let's stop parenting and start coaching!!

The Takeaways

Parents, what scoreboard are you using to measure your teen's success—and is it hurting more than helping? And, what scoreboard are they using to measure success—and is it creating momentum or stress in their lives?

Do you ever wonder if your teen is chasing results just to keep you happy—or worse, to feel worthy? We’re digging into that "silent contract" so many families carry without talking about it. You’ll walk away with tools to separate your teen’s performance from their identity, and strategies for helping them craft a scoreboard that reflects who they rea...

Parenting teens isn’t about talking more — it’s about asking better. Discover the Question Only Tool today. Every parent wants their teen to succeed. But success doesn’t come from micromanaging — it comes from ownership. In this episode, we show you how to use The Question Only Conversation to guide your teen toward greater autonomy, confidence, and motivation — all while strengthening your bond.

Chapters

00:00 Understanding Teen Wisdom

03:51 The Shift from Parenting to Coaching

07:55 Empowering Teens Through Questions

10:02 The Power of Inquiry-Based Conversations

11:53 Real-Life Examples: Jason's Track Success

"Parenting is the hardest job, and there's not a close second!" Parents--we see you and we know that quote by our very own (Nate Crandall) is true as the ocean is blue. And that is exactly why we started this podcast back in the summer of 2023. We've been here every Monday for 93 weeks discussing a perspective shift and approach that helps parents to begin coaching their athletes and performers. That crucial shift requires that your communication and connection with your teens is taken to a higher level. You can do this and we're here to help!

We're...

Hey parents—what if the greatest measure of your teen's success wasn’t how many points they scored, solos they nailed, or trophies they earned... but how they made everyone around them better? In this episode, we unpack the powerful concept of becoming a multiplier, and why it might be the secret ingredient your teen is missing.

The Timestamps

00:00 The Concept of Win-Win-Win & Being a Multiplier

02:50 The Ripple Effect in Team Dynamics

05:33 The Power of Multipliers in Sports

08:39 Lessons from Larry Bird and Magic Johnson

11:08 The Role of P...

Are you the parent every coach dreads…or the one they trust? Learn how to have the team's back...in the right way. Parents: if your teen is competing at a high level, your support (or lack of) can either elevate the entire team or silently sabotage it. In this episode, Nate and Steve go deep on how to be a Team First Parent—the kind of presence every coach dreams of having support the team or performance group. You’ll walk away with real, actionable ways to help the program thrive—without crossing any lines.

The Timestam...

Balancing parent and coach roles? Avoid the "Daddy ball" trap and create real success! Coaching your own kid can be both rewarding and challenging. You want to see them succeed, but how do you stay fair? Avoiding favoritism—or the appearance of it—is tough, and the "Daddy ball" label can quickly damage trust. In this episode, we break down how to lead with integrity, balance your roles, and create a positive experience for every player on the team. Take the "Daddy (and Mommy) ball" dive with us today! Let's go parents, let's get better so our teen athletes and...

Does your teen shut down when you encourage them? Avoid toxic positivity and find the ‘sweet spot’ of support. Sooo, your amazing teen athlete or performer just had an "Oops!" They bombed an audition, missed the game-winning shot, or flubbed a major performance. Of course you want to lift them up, but how? If you get this wrong, you risk losing credibility—or worse, making them feel dismissed. So, let's get it right.

Join us as we dive head first into how leaving Parent Mode and entering Coach Mode can help you deliver the neutral encouragement that is gen...

Parents, how do your teens view practice? Is it a chore, an obligation, or a chance to improve? In this episode, we break down why practice isn’t just about showing up—it’s about showing up with the right mindset and appropriate rules. Using some humorous insights from the unlikely combo of Allen Iverson and Ted Lasso, we explore how values and rules shape your teen’s approach to practice and how you, as a parent, play a critical role in that process.

This episode, #88 is the last in the Values Need Rules and Rules Need Values S...

PARENTS: Are your teen’s online habits helping or hurting them? Discover how to coach them toward smart social media use! In this episode (#3 of our 4 episode series of our Values & Rules series), we unpack the real life challenges you as a parent face with your teen’s online presence.

Teens live in a digital world—are they equipped to navigate it wisely? We break down how to help your teen use social media in a way that reflects their values, strengthens their confidence, and avoids common pitfalls. With real-life scenarios, helpful conversation starters, and practical tips, we’ll...

Worried about teen parties? Master the art of coaching your teen to confidence in pressure-packed social situations. So parents, are you ready to party? Well, are you ready to at least talk about teen parties? Are you ready and equipped to talk about parties with that teen(s) that lives in your house?!!

In today's show we discuss the challenges parents face when navigating the topic of teen parties. Let's face it, this is not easy! But, it is so important that we have open conversations about values and rules with our teens so they are prepared...

Parents: What are the homework rules for your teens? Interested in a different and effective approach to creating homework rules, backed by your values? In this episode (which is a spin-off of Episode 84 on Values & Rules), Certified High Performance Coaches™ Nate Crandall and Steve Galley dive head first into the importance of having a structured game plan for homework. You may even learn a new jingle, motto, or cheesy saying that may help you create an extremely valuable conversation around homework rules with your homework hating teen!

The Sticky Timestamps!

00:00 The Importance of a...

Parents: Ever wonder why your teen pushes back on "the rules?" Shifting from rules to values can transform everything! And shifting from "parenting" to "coaching" changes your relationship with your teen! In this episode, Nate and Steve explore the importance of establishing rules that are rooted in values, how these rules can create a sense of freedom for teens (and parental units!!), and practical steps for teens and parents to identify their values. The commuter-friendly conversation also highlights two of Nate and Steve's personal rules and the values that underpin them, providing and example and insight for parents of...

A Half Point Gift? Parents: Give this Some Thought! Refuel your teen’s motivation with a powerful mid-season celebration! Let's face it, despite commitment and effort, sometimes our teens (and us too) are running on fumes! Parental Units--what can we do? Well, what about a "half point gift?" What in the wide world of parenting is that, you say? You're going to find out as we highlight strategy #24 from the book "SAY IT NOW: 33 creative ways to say I LOVE YOU to the most important people in your life" by author and our friend, Sherry Belul. (link to her bo...

PARENTS: Are you feeding your teens enough P.I.E.? Learn how praise, inspiration & encouragement fuel success! Let's dive into the importance of delivering timely and authentic recognition, fostering a culture of appreciation (thank you to Shannon Waller of the Team Success podcast!), and finding ways to praise even in challenging situations. And then let's wrap it up with some practical application gems from one of the G.O.A.T.s of all time: Mr. Dale Carnegie himself!

The All Important Timestamps!

00:00 The P.I.E. Shop Concept

02:33 The Importance of PIE...

Parents: do you have what it takes?! Apply Steve’s 5 Ironman lessons to master the hardest job: parenting teens! In today's conversation you'll enjoy exploring the challenges of parenting as Steve and Nate draw parallels to the mental toughness required in endurance sports like the 140.6 mile Ironman triathlon. They discuss the importance of self-talk, synergy and harmony with others, building a support team, and...finishing! You may never swim 2.4 miles, hop on bike and ride 112 miles, and then hop off and grind out a 26.2 mile marathon, but guess what? As a parent of a teen athlete or performer, you're ta...

Are you a "phubber?!" How do you get your teens on board with putting your and their cell phone down during conversations? Let's chat about improving your parent/teen connection! We probably all will admit we get distracted by our phones during conversations. We probably also admit that it hinders our connection and focus with the ones we love the most!

So...what are some effective ways to bring reason and common sense into the mix and how can we kick "phubbing" to the curb?! We get into this most important discussion about phone boundaries in Episode #80.<...

Is a Cell Phone Fast Realistic? Disconnect to Reconnect with strategies to limit tech and boost mental health. Let's dive into the idea of phone fasting—yes, actually taking a break from our phones—and we’re not holding back on whether it’s realistic. We share how phone use impacts mental health, strains family dynamics, and even pulls us away from the people who matter most. We’ll ask the questions that will help you create practical strategies for reducing tech dependency, building systems to manage phone usage, and reclaiming meaningful connections in a world that’s constantly buzzing. Let...

Parents: Turn 'I'm bored' into 'I created this!' Inspire creativity in your teen athletes & performers now with the simple parenting hack revealed in this episode! In today's conversation, we explore the concept of boredom and how it can be transformed into an opportunity for creativity and purpose.

PARENTS: Are you missing out on this opportunity?!

Let's find out as we discuss the importance of recognizing boredom as a choice and how you as a parent (and your teen) can create meaning in mundane tasks. You in your unique role as a parent can be...

The Land of Wishes is holding you back. Develop skill to elevate your parenting of your teen athlete and performer. Oh, how we know it's fun to hang out in The Land of Wishes!! But, you're better than that and you're striving to raise your Parental Unit game. Let us help! In this episode we unveil one of the best ways to take action and exit The Land of Wishes and step into the world of Making Things Happen. Thanks for being here and enjoy the show!

The Timestamps are here!

00:00 Loitering in the Land...

Showing your flaws builds trust! Learn how owning mistakes teaches teens resilience & strengthens connections. PARENTS: What is your plan when your parenting flaws are on display?

In today's conversation, Nate Crandall and Steve Galley, Certified High Performance Coaches and co hosts of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast, explore the complexities of parenting, particularly the challenges of acknowledging and embracing one's flaws.

The juicy stuff timestamped!!

00:00 Embracing Flaws and Hypocrisy

03:04 The Role of Humor in Acknowledging Mistakes

05:39 Parenting Challenges and Emotional Responses

08:39 Modeling Behavior and Values for...

Hello there Moms & Dads! Welcome to The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast!! We're downright festive about families and parents and teens and trying to elevate our performance within those 3 Very Important People groups. We're glad you're here. In this episode we're going to share with you some age-old wisdom in the form of 3 letters: P...C...and R.

PCR is all about fostering strong relationships with our teens. Today we'll discuss personal experiences that highlight the importance of being present with loved ones, the role of community in enhancing our lives, and how establishing rhythms can create...

Welcome back or welcome to The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast! We are excited you are joining us to explore The 3 Gifts all parents have within their control and need to be used, or may we say regifted, to your teen athletes or performers.

In this short but powerful episode we're going to reveal The 3 Gifts and encourage you to think about your thinking by posing some very good questions to ask yourself. In doing so, we think you'll find value with the following takeaways:

-High-quality interactions with children can enhance the use of time.<...

Welcome Parental Units to Episode 73 of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast! We appreciate you for taking the time to level up! Today we tackle the nasty, awful thief that is stealing joy and happiness the world over! That's right, we are going to unveil the antidote to the venom found in Comparison and her ridiculously joke of a cousin, Envy. You are familiar with these two poisons and know their modus operandi. They are out to destroy you and create misery in your life!

But, we can all tool up and send these destroyers to the...

Hi Parental Units! Welcome to a Turkey Week edition of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast!!

We are THANKFUL to those of you who have been with us since the start of this over a year ago AND to those who have just found us. This podcast is for parents of teen athletes and performers who are engaged in the hardest job on planet earth: parenting!

In EP 72 we explore the concept of gratitude, particularly in the context of parenting and personal relationships with your teens. We hit on the importance of genuine gratitude, by...

Oh, moms and dads, you already know how difficult your job is as a parent. We like to say here on The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast that "it is the hardest job and there's not a close second." Yep, it's tough.

So...do we actually make it EVEN harder (why would we ever do that?!!!!!) by using ________? Fill in the blank with the nasty word we wrestled with in Episode 70. Yep, the "S" word. No, not that "S" word but this "S word": sarcasm. Hello, darkness my old friend! If you just discovered us and haven't...

Hello Super Moms & Dads! Welcome to a MISSION CRITICAL edition of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast!! And if you're wondering if it has to do with the dynamic and often delicate dance of communication, you are right...AGAIN! (Parents are always right, right?!)

In EP 70 we specifically dive into a crucial communication subject that can get a little blurred, messy, and unfortunately hurtful. We're going to focus on the differences between sarcasm and clever wit. It's a bit tricky! In fact, it's more than that when it comes to sarcasm. We believe it is quite "risky"...

Parents--Halloween is over but you are in for a real treat today!!

In this edition of The Stop Parenting & Stop Coaching Podcast, we are overjoyed to have the mighty Chad Sims, head boys basketball coach at Davis High School (UT) as our guest today!

Chad does a lot of things in his communication system that many coaches do, but he does ONE THING that NOT very many HS coaches do. Chad shares his innovative approach to engaging parents that incorporates a very personal, transparent, in-person conversation. His approach helps everyone involved and has contributed to...

Welcome Parental Units to Episode 68 of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast! We appreciate you for taking the time to up your parenting game! Today we wrestle with the 2 words that describe GREAT parenting. You already know them AND (hint, hint) they are not mutually exclusive--they are a mix of seeming contraries. You can be BOTH and if you are, your parenting skills are next level! Congrats!

Back to The TWO WORDS. We reference from the work of the great brain himself, Dr. Daniel Amen. What do you think they are? Fill in the letter blanks:

Hey Parents--here's hoping your racking up some W's with your teen athlete and performer! But what if it feels like you're not needed anymore? How can we continue or start a new winning streak?

In this episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast, we will dial in on exactly why we hurt as parents when "we're not needed anymore" and even better, we'll zero in on the thinking shift that can get you back in the "NEEDED" game!

Here are a few juicy ideas we'll bat around in today's show:

--The feeling...

In today's edition of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast, we will explore the concept of challenge avoidance, particularly how subconscious beliefs can lead us to shy away from challenges. Yikes! Let's don't shrink!! We want to face and embrace challenge, don't we?!

Absolutely (I mean, you did choose parenthood!!), so let's discuss the "the challenge continuum" from childhood to adulthood, and how reframing challenges as opportunities can foster confidence and growth in our teen athletes and performers.

Let's embrace challenges as parents and model this behavior for our kids, because hey, challenge is inevitable!<...

Welcome

Have you or your teen athlete or performer ever been in a nasty, discouraging slump? We'll take your answer to be a YES even if we can't hear you. But trust us parents, we CAN hear you loud and clear. Slumps happen. It's no fun to watch your teen wallow in misery during a slump even when we know this is part of life, sports, and performing arts!

Today's episode is all about SLUMP BUSTING (and possibly launching some preemptive strikes to avoid those pesky slumps!). We hope you enjoy what we're serving up...

Hey Parents--here's hoping your lucky streak continues! If you didn't check out Episode 63: "Do Your Teens Feel Unlucky?", we suggest you give that a listen before you digest this one.

In that episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast, we tackled the concept of luck based on some ideas from a book titled: "Conscious Luck: 8 Secrets to Change Your Fortune."

Here are a few lucky horseshoes we'll toss around in today's show:

Hey Parents--it's your lucky day!! Oh that was a bad dad joke but please do stick around and maybe your luck, or our luck, will change!

In this episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast, we tackle the fascinating subject of luck based on a few concepts we have gleaned from the following book that believe it or not, impact you AND your teens: "Conscious Luck: 8 Secrets to Change Your Fortune" by Gay Hendricks (he wrote The Big Leap--highly recommended!!) and Carol Kline.

Stay tuned as we hit the following big ideas, keys, or...

NOTE: This is a do-over from a previously published episode of the same title and subject. Due to some faulty recording and technical issues, that upload was awful and did not meet our high audio quality standards. So here we go again. Please enjoy the cleaner, new, and improved version!

Welcome back or welcome to The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast! Are you a juggler? Now for you non-jugglers before you answer no, ask yourself "Am I a parent?" If you answered "Yes!" then guess what? You ARE a juggler!

And if you're the parent...

Today on The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast we entertain the very fun and intriguing question of whether you should let your kids win when competing with them as parent/kid, parent/teen, and for Steve, grandpa (Pops!)/young grandson!

This like many other parenting, uh coaching decision is very kid/teen specific and requires some thought on your part.

We may not have all of the answers on this but we do have some fun stories and some compelling questions to make you think! We thank for being here and we hope you'll gain...

Thanks for joining us on The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast! We're Nate & Steve and we get pretty nerdy and jiggy about helping parents to help their teen athletes and performers to thrive!

In today's show we talk about the storybook endings we are not only attracted to but sometimes fall in love with. And along the way we're going to talk Olympics since it is the summer of 2024 and the world's best are competing in France. Yeah, we're talking the stuff of dreams and we'll even throw in some Rocky Balboa, some good ole Wide World...

Parents--we're talking teenage freedom on The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast today!

Specifically, how much do you give your teens. Oh man, this is a tough question when it comes to your kids. It perhaps is easy to answer it for other parents but not so much for yourself, but let's tackle it now!

And while we're at it let's do the following:

Thanks for joining us on The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast! Are you great at guessing, assuming, and mind reading when it comes to the relationship with your teen athlete or performer? Well, we confess we've traveled down that dead end path that leads to monumental letdowns and disappointments.

Are your "expectations" getting in the way of elevating your relationship and more importantly, is there a better way? Yes, there is! We hope you enjoy this episode and extract some serious value as we dive into why "agreements" are a much better alternative to assumption-filled "...

Super Moms & Dads-we know that being a parent is the hardest job every and you're doing your best! Your son or daughter often finds themselves smack dab in the middle of preseason preparations. But, do you?

We're going to get you thinking about how you can be the ideal sports parent today on The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast! It's your preseason now--how will you prep yourself to be that amazing performance parent that coaches appreciate and rave about?

We're gonna focus on some important "Do's" that automatically help you avoid some disastrous "...

Parents--we're talking attitude and optimism today on The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast!

You've no doubt heard the ole adage: Your attitude is contagious--is yours worth catching?! Well, is it? I sure hope so because as a parent you are on stage 24/7 and you're kids are very likely to replicate what you do.

We're going to dive into modeling, inquiry, and even "neural synchronization!"

Yep, Nate goes into full Nerd Mode and teaches about this fascinating brain truth!

And for dessert, we'll introduce you to The Negativity Diet. So long South...

Moms/Dads--Did injury (or setback) ever rear its ugly head back in the day during your playing or performing career? It likely did and you'd probably agree, it sucked! So what did you do about it? Did you turn tragedy into triumph? We trust that you did and hope you'll help your teen athlete or performer do the same if they are sidelined by an unfortunate injury.

We're talking all things injury and bouncing back strong on The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast today!

Let's help our kids turn into The Rubber Band Man or...

Izi Chinchay (a name you won't soon forget) is our guest today on The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast! Izi is a coach, leader, role model, podcaster, and a newlywed too (at the time of this recording she was counting down the weeks to her wedding). We're big fans and excited to have her on the show!

Soccer mom and dad alert!! You are in the right place today. You are gonna soak up the wisdom, and may I say, next level energy, fire, and competitive spirit of this amazing lady!

Izi has an important...

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Welcome to The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast! You must be a Most Valuable Parent! Of course you are!

In this 4 episode series we will be rolling around in and climbing up and down the not so secret, secret to lasting happiness. Thanks for joining us as we dive into the transformative content from the bestselling book: The Good Life: Lessons from the World’s Longest Scientific Study of Happiness by Marc Schulz and Robert J. Waldinger. These guys know happiness! After all, they ha...

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Welcome to The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast! You must be a Most Valuable Parent! Of course you are!

In this 4 episode series we will be rolling around in and climbing up and down the not so secret, secret to lasting happiness. Thanks for joining us as we dive into the transformative content from the bestselling book: The Good Life: Lessons from the World’s Longest Scientific Study of Happiness by Marc Schulz and Robert J. Waldinger. These guys kn...

NOTE: We're on video now on YouTube!! Click here to watch!

Welcome to The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast! You must be a Most Valuable Parent! Of course you are!

In this 4 episode series we will be rolling around in and climbing up and down the not so secret, secret to lasting happiness. Thanks for joining us as we dive into the transformative content from the bestselling book: The Good Life: Lessons from the World’s Longest Scientific Study of Happiness by Marc Schulz and Robert J. Waldinger. These guys know happiness! After all, they ha...

Welcome to The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast! You must be a Most Valuable Parent! Of course you are!

In our next four episode series we will be revealing the not so secret, secret to lasting happiness as we dive into the transformative content from the bestselling book: The Good Life: Lessons from the World’s Longest Scientific Study of Happiness by Marc Schulz and Robert J. Waldinger. These guys know happiness. After all, they have been engaged in a study spanning almost 85 years and examining 700+ individuals and families. Now that's what you call an exhaustive study!!

MINDSET SERIES (6 of 6): Let's Ignite INTENTION!

Moms & Dads! Today we continue our 6 episode series on mindset. We are so excited to share our createtransformbecome mindset map with you! It is key to improve your parenting and become a high performing human! Are you with us on that? Let's goooooooooo!

In today's episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast we finish strong with INTENTION! We've walked the path from HONESTY to FOCUS to BELIEF to RESPONSE to OPTIMISM in the past 5 episodes. If you haven't listened to them, we encourage you to do so (start...

MINDSET SERIES (5 of 6): Let OPTIMISM Rule!

Moms & Dads! Today we continue our 6 episode series on mindset. We are so excited to share our createtransformbecome mindset map with you! It is key to improve your parenting and become a high performing human! Are you with us on that? Let's goooooooooo!

In today's episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast we step up to OPTIMISM. This is next on the pathway after drilling down on HONESTY, FOCUS, & BELIEF, RESPONSE in the past 4 episodes. If you haven't listened to them, we encourage you to do so (start...

MINDSET SERIES (4 of 6): Your RESPONSE is Everything!

Moms & Dads! Today we continue our 6 episode series on mindset. We are so excited to share our createtransformbecome mindset map with you! It is key to improve your parenting and become a high performing human! Are you with us on that? Let's goooooooooo!

In today's episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast we progress to RESPONSE. This is a logical step after hitting HONESTY, FOCUS, & BELIEF in the last 3 episodes. If you haven't listened to them, we encourage you to do so (start on Episode 44)

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MINDSET SERIES (3 of 6): You'll Always Follow Through on What U Believe!

Moms & Dads! Today we continue our 6 episode series on mindset. We are so excited to share our createtransformbecome mindset map with you! It is key to improve your parenting and become a high performing human! Are you with us on that? Let's goooooooooo!

In today's episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast we build upon HONESTY and FOCUS as we climb up the mindset ladder.

Here are some teasers:

MINDSET SERIES (2 of 6): Let's FOCUS!

Moms & Dads! Today we continue our 6 episode series on mindset. We are so excited to share our createtransformbecome mindset map with you! It is key to improve your parenting and become a high performing human! Are you with us on that? Let's goooooooooo!

In today's episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast we take a step beyond HONESTY and dive into the most important commodity known as FOCUS.

Here is a teaser:

Moms & Dads! Today we continue our 6 episode series on mindset. We are so excited to share our createtransformbecome mindset map with you! It is key to improve your parenting and become a high performing human! Are you with us on that? Let's goooooooooo!

In today's episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast we take a step beyond HONESTY and dive into the most important commodity known as FOCUS.

Here is a teaser:

Moms & Dads! Today we begin a 6 episode series on mindset. We are so excited to share our createtransformbecome mindset map with you! It is key to improve your parenting and become a high performing human! Are you with us on that? Let's goooooooooo!

In today's episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast we lay the foundation with

We are going to challenge you as parents to get radically (think BMX bike tricks, or not!) honest, the first step in building an unbeatable mindset--you simply cannot skip it and expect to come off conqueror!

Giannis Antetokounmpo (say that 5 times fast!), the all star forward and one time MVP of the National Basketball Association's Milwaukee Bucks is currently experiencing painful playoff adversity in more ways than one. At publishing time of this episode (April 29, 2024) he is hobbled by a late season injury that has kept him out of the series with the Indiana Pacers which has also contributed to them facing first round elimination for the second consecutive year. Ugh! So let's rewind a bit...

Back on April 26, 2023. The Eastern Conference #1 seeded Milwaukee Bucks had just been eliminated from the...

Moms/Dads--Halt...Stop. If you have not listened to Episode 41 on The 3 R's of Productivity, please throw it into Reverse and go listen to it first.

And then...

dial in to today's episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast where we do a semi-simulated coaching session of a fictitious (and totally plausible) Parental Unit who is proudly wearing The Badge of Busyness!

Enjoy!

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Hey there Very Important Parents! We resolve to up our game in 2024 as we strive to create a world-class podcast...

Moms/Dads--we know you're soooooper BUSY! And we know you're often proud of it--haha! We get it and applaud your never ending efforts to excel and doing your best to help your teen athlete or performer excel! Bravo!

Question: Should we proudly display the Badge of Busyness? We're not saying it's a terrible thing, but...and this is a big but...is there anything we can do as high performing parents of high performing teens to alleviate this incessant BUSYNESS that is both a blessing and a curse?! It turns out there is, you can, and probably...

We're weighing costs and benefits and outcomes today on The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast! Let's address some very important questions that you as parents need to ask yourselves as you make decisions about support, incentives, and rewards with the intent of raising your teen's performance and creating a great life experience for them. And, as you decide on what type of support you provide, what are the ramifications besides the obvious (and not so obvious) price tags?! Here are a few teaser questions to ponder:

--Do I pay or reward for performance such as...

This episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast. is no joke (really)! Happy April 1st everyone!

Today we explore a very intriguing question from one of our teen listeners (ha-this isn't just for parents!) who competes as a high school wrestler:

Should I or shouldn't I "bracket watch?" What a great question! And what a timely question too as most of the world (even if you don't like basketball) is aware of the fun and frenzied "bracket watching" that goes on during the winding up of the college basketball season...

Welcome to a fiery episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast where we encourage you, ourselves, and all Parental Units on earth to toss those ever so destructive Blamethrowers into the trash heap!

We're not gonna lie--today's subject makes us squirm a little and may make you a bit uncomfy as well! That's why it's soooooo necessary and so important for each of us to address head on. We aim to help you avoid being "trapped in blame!"

So, here's our path today. We will build on the "Figure it...

Thank you for joining us as we attempt to counter a crazy delusion that exists in some parental circles on today's episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast! This episode is built around an illuminating observation and quote from an NBA veteran and father, Jamal Crawford.

Listen in to hear him describe a chronic problem in the AAU youth basketball circuit than can help you grow as a parent and in turn help your teen to successfully navigate their performance world. It matters not if your son or daughter plays basketball, a musical instrument...

In today's this episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast we are going to talk stop signs, ladders and the common "I Don't Know" answer. We dive in first by chatting about those red, octagon-shaped street signs and "The Ladder of Learning!"

What is The Ladder of Learning? You're going to find out (or remember it) in this episode. We all climb it throughout our life and it's important that we understand where our teen athletes and performers are at on The Ladder. Understanding the 4 related "rungs" of competence, incompetence and consciousness is way...

Parents...

Ever run into Stubborn Walls in your daily battles with a not so cooperative teen?

Ever tried to connect with Stubborn Ones?

Ever been in the proverbial "I'm Right You're Wrong" power struggle with your teen (or anyone else!)?

In this episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast we explore how you can learn to lead with humility in conversations with teens who are not so easy to connect with. Some questions we take on include:

--What is your role as a parent...

Moms and Dads--Ever feel like you're spinning out of control? How do you stay firmly in orbit in your role as a Parental Unit?!

Prepare to launch yourself (sorry for the dad joke) into the nerd zone in this episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast. We'll do our very best to land on the following questions (sorry, that was a bad one!):

--Why is it critical you UNDERSTAND the gravity of your role as a parent?

--Why is being INTENTIONAL in your interactions and conversations so important?

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CLICKBAIT WARNING! What do guinea pigs and perpendicular parking have to do with parenting a teenaged athlete or performer?! Whaaaaaaaaaaaaaat?!

and...

Have you ever parked like a banana? Huuuuuuuuuuuuuuuh?!

OK, let's unpeel this banana and straighten up those guinea pigs between the lines or in other words, let's figure out how this one weird little perpendicular parking trick will help you to strengthen your connections with your teen and elevate your parental communication skills!

Listen in to the latest episode of The Stop...

What in the wide world of sports is "positional intimidation" and how does it effect your teen athlete or performer? And what is "pupification?!" Ok, the second term was created purely in jest but the first term is real and almost every teen will find themself facing it at some point in their playing or performing journey. Perspective and preparation will help them lower the stress and apprehension that often accompanies this scary situation! What situation? We're talking about your teen approaching an "intimidating" coach, director, advisor, teacher, or leader. Yikes! This can be difficult, but it doesn't have...

Last week in Episode #30 of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast we explored the "My Coach Hates Me" situation and in today's episode (#31) we stick our hands in the same hornet's nest, but now from a coach's perspective.

In fact, speaking on "perspective", our goal is to encourage you as a Most Valuable Parent to entertain the idea of creating a perspective shift in this difficult situation. By doing so, you position yourself to help your teen to learn the best way(s) to turn this not very fun situation into a positive experience. We...

"My coach hates me!" Is this a thing? Oh, it's a thing and it's not fun for player or parent (or coach, either). Ouch, this one hurts!

"My coach hates me!" is a common refrain from performing teens the world over! So parents, how do we handle this difficult situation? How would you (or do you) deal with this fragile moment that borders on opportunity for learning and a full on train wreck?!

We don't claim to have all of the answers but we do have some gems for you today on navigating the whole "...

The opening line for today's show was about sunshine but we must tell you it was sooooooo cold in the studio today--downright frigid! But, we warmed up quickly creating this episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast for you. We hope you love it and find it useful.

What do BHAG's, Pink Floyd, Steve Chandler, qualifying for the Boston Marathon and "moving futures" have to do with your parenting and coaching? Listen in to find out as we explore all of the above and specifically the following:

--the importance of managing expectations by using...

In the high performance coaching pool that we swim in, the phrase "trust the process" is mentioned every 3.8 seconds (ok, maybe an exaggeration there!). But...what if we get stuck on or in our feelings and "trusting the process" is not very attractive in the moment? Motivation is easy uh well, when it's easy! :) But what about when it's not?

In today's episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast we continue our BHAG (big, hairy audacious goal--thank you Jim Collins), resolutions, and generally "go make things happen" 2024 conversation that we began in Episode 26 ("You Don't Need...

Welcome back to The Stop Parenting and Start Coaching Podcast! And a hearty welcome to any new listeners--thanks for being here!

In the third and final episode of The TRANSFORMING Stress Series, we hit on an absolutely critical subject! The all important, absolutely necessary process of creating your definition of success (for you and helping your teen athlete or performer to create their own).

Here's a look at what you'll find in this episode:

- The "story of humanity" or the quest we perpetually chase

- The traps we continually fall...

It's January 1. Do you know where your resolutions are? Hopefully in the garbage! Wait, what? Did we just say that?! Uh, yeah we did. Btw, thanks for joining us for the first episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast in 2024! It's time to bang your pots and pans and light off some fireworks! Happy New Year!!

It's also time to:

--exercise more often

--lose that unwanted weight

--read 1 book a week

--eat clean

--start a new hobby

--get out of debt

--share...

Greetings to any new listeners and welcome back to those who've been onboard with us at The Stop Parenting and Start Coaching Podcast!

In the second episode of The TRANSFORMING Stress Series, we bring some glass cleaner and wipe the egocentrism off our parental eyeglasses! This one is all about seeing things from your teen's perspective.

Here is a quick peek at what you'll find inside this episode:

--Would you ever deprive a two year-old of a nap in an effort to prepare him or her to for elementary school? Huh?!

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Welcome to the Transforming Stress Series on The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast! In the first of three empowering episodes, we delve into the crucial topic of stress transformation.

You, the Very Important Parent, play a crucial role in modeling leading the way for your teen athlete or performer. Your teen is watching you and how you deal with the big "S" word. Stress. YIKES! And, we know it's tough. Often it is harder for you as a parent to watch your teen in a pressure cooker situation than it is for them to perform! You know...

Thanks for tuning in to this episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast.

When a "season" or career ends we often wonder: "so, what's next?"

We are so thankful to one of our listeners for asking us to address this common and challenging situation that most if not all parents of athletes and performers face: the inevitable end of your son or daughter's high school career. As both coaches and as fathers, we have had a front row seat for this experience with our own teens and hundreds of players. It is not an...

Relax parents, it's not a medical emergency, it's an Emotional Regulation Expedition! That's right, on today's episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast we're taking a trip to the 'E.R.' !

As a parent of a teen athlete or performer you know emotions are intertwined into your parent/teen world. Emotions show up in your thoughts, conversations, and for sure in your teen's competitions and performances. We cannot and should not necessarily avoid being emotional, but we can and should learn how to appropriately regulate our emotions to set a great example for our teens...