The Secure Love Club Podcast

In this episode, I’m joined by the incredible Emma — a former Peacefully Attached client — for one of the most honest and expansive conversations we’ve had on the Secure Love Club podcast.

Emma shares what life looked like before we worked together: moving between anxious and avoidant attachment, repeating toxic relationship cycles, people-pleasing to the point of burnout, and feeling deeply disconnected from her sense of worth. We unpack how trauma, boundary violations, and self-abandonment quietly shaped her dating life, her work, and her relationship with herself — and the moment she realised she couldn’t keep doing it alo...

In this episode, I’m taking you into a conversation that poured through me fresh from my morning trot. You know those moments where life suddenly clicks, and you see your challenges through an entirely different lens? That’s what today is about. I’m breaking down the biggest lie we tell ourselves — that life should be linear, logical, and pain-free — and showing you why the hard seasons in your life aren’t punishments, but preparation. Preparation for more love, abundance, alignment, and a deeper version of yourself you haven’t even met yet. We explore how the universe uses your “qua...

In this episode, we’re diving into a question almost every woman on the anxious-to-secure path quietly struggles with: “How do I believe the partner I truly want actually exists… and that I’m not delusional for wanting it?” This conversation was sparked by a powerful question from a Peacefully Attached client who had just finished painting a beautiful, detailed vision of her ideal partner, and then immediately felt like it was too good to be true.

If you’ve ever felt that too? You’re in the right room, my friend. I break down why your brain resists...

In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on one of the most addictive and confusing patterns for anxiously attached women; the chase for high-intensity relationships. You know the ones: the mixed signals, the emotional rollercoasters, the butterflies that feel electric… but end up leaving you anxious, exhausted, and questioning your worth.

I’m breaking down why those “sparks” you’re chasing aren’t actually chemistry, they’re activation. You’ll learn how low self-worth wires you to confuse chaos with connection, why your nervous system keeps choosing what’s familiar over what’s healthy, and how to finally reprogr...

In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain and giving you a real, unfiltered life update - the stuff I usually only share with my closest friends. No lessons, no frameworks today… just truth. I’m talking about the unexpected year I’ve spent in Melbourne, the slow unraveling of my mental health these past few months, the impact of pouring everything into my business, and the very real loneliness that can happen when you don’t have community around you.

I share why I finally decided to go back to therapy, what patterns I’m uncovering...

In this episode, I’m talking about something that almost nobody in the anxious attachment / healing space is talking about enough… and yet it’s one of THE most important pieces of what actually gets you secure results.
Consistency. Not perfection. Not being “fixed.” Not never slipping up. Consistency.

Because the truth is, you will have setbacks on this journey. You will have moments where your old patterns pull you back in. You will have moments of self-sabotage. And THIS is where most people opt out, collapse, shame spiral… and change the goal entirely instead of changing the...

In this episode, I’m diving into why constantly dating, matching, texting, and seeking the next “spark” is actually delaying your love life — not accelerating it. We’ve been sold this idea that the woman who hustles hardest in dating wins. But in reality, the women who find healthy, secure partnership aren’t the ones sprinting from person to person… they’re the ones who pause, reflect, self-resource, and date intentionally.

I’m breaking down how slowing down — even taking short breaks from dating — is one of the FASTEST ways to call in the love you desire. Because when you stop...

In this episode, I’m opening up about something that’s been sitting heavy on my heart lately - loneliness. Not the kind that comes from not having plans on a Saturday night, but the deeper kind that sneaks in when you’ve done the healing, raised your standards, and are no longer willing to settle for half-love or almost relationships.

I’m sharing the truth about what this season of singleness has brought up for me. The moments of peace and freedom, but also the quiet ache of missing connection and partnership. Because even when you’re secure...

In this unfiltered solo episode, I’m taking you behind the scenes of what’s really been going on in my world — and my heart — lately. This isn’t your typical “dating advice” chat. It’s about the seasons of life where you aren’t dating, where you’re questioning parts of yourself you never expected to, and where you wonder if who you are now still fits the life you once built.

After feeling creatively flat and disconnected from my usual spark, a powerful conversation with my mentor cracked me open to the truth I hadn’t been saying: I haven...

In this solo episode, I’m diving deep into the truth about situationships - not just what they are, but why we find ourselves in them. This conversation was inspired by a listener who shared how much she loved my previous episode on secure situationships, and a private client who realized she was using hers to avoid parts of her life that needed her attention.

I’m sharing my own story of how casual dating once became both a healthy outlet and a sneaky form of escapism and how I learned to tell the difference. Because sometimes, a si...

We’re back for part two of my conversation with embodiment coach Emma Elmoza — and if you haven’t listened to part one yet, go back and tune in first so you’ve got the full context.

In this second half of our chat, we move from naming retroactive jealousy into the heart of healing it. Emma shares how she built deep self-trust, confidence, and inner safety — and how those shifts completely transformed the way she experiences her relationship. This conversation will open your eyes to what’s possible when you stop living in survival mode and start creati...

So many women secretly struggle with this, but almost no one is talking about it… retroactive jealousy.

In today’s episode, I’m joined by embodiment coach Emma Elmoza, who opens up about her own journey from insecurity and self-doubt to building deep confidence and self-worth through embodiment work. Together, we explore the concept of retroactive jealousy — what it is, how it shows up in relationships, and why it often comes with so much shame.

If you’ve ever spiraled over your partner’s past, compared yourself to their ex, or felt that anxious pit in your stom...

Today, I’m pulling back the curtain on something I’ve seen time and time again in my own journey and in my clients’ lives: when you commit to healing your anxious attachment and developing secure attachment, the ripple effect is massive.

This transformation isn’t just about dating or finding “the one.” It shifts your friendships, your career, your self-worth, your hobbies, your boundaries – literally your entire life opens up.

In this episode, you’ll hear:
- Why anxious attachment keeps you stuck in cycles of chasing, overgiving, and abandoning yourself
- How becomi...

In today’s episode, I’m sharing a personal story about grief, nostalgia, and the versions of ourselves that relationships leave behind. Sometimes we think we’re yearning for an ex, when really we’re grieving the version of ourselves who existed in that chapter. And while it’s tender and sometimes gut-wrenching, this grief can also be a doorway into growth, self-love, and a deeper understanding of who you are now.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
- The difference between missing a person vs. missing the version of yourself you were with them Duration: 00:32:15

You don’t get the relationship or life of your dreams just by wanting it harder. You get it by expanding your capacity to hold it.

In this episode, I’m breaking down why desire doesn’t equal readiness, the mistakes that keep you stuck even when you’re “doing the work,” and how to stretch your nervous system so you can finally hold more love, success, and visibility without sabotaging it.

Inside this episode, you’ll discover:
• Why wanting more isn’t the problem (and what really is)
• The hidden ways your nervous sy...

This episode is one of the most powerful conversations I’ve had on the podcast. I’m joined by Teagan Woodgate, founder of Reform Body Coaching, whose journey from surviving domestic violence to creating a thriving global coaching business will leave you feeling both shaken and deeply inspired.

Teagan shares openly about her past — the warning signs she missed, the fear that kept her stuck, and the breaking point that finally set her free. We talk about the messy, painful reality of abuse, but also the incredible resilience and power that can come from choosing yourself and taking...

In this episode, I’m sharing an interview I did with my beautiful friend Hillary McVeigh — Human Design teacher, Retreat Facilitator, Certified Coach, intuitive, and the kind of woman who will lovingly see straight into your soul.

Before we even hit record, she pulled up my Human Design chart (Vessel of Love, Generator 2/4 for my HD lovers) and read me like a book. Then we went deep into all things dating, love, and self-worth.

In this episode, we talk about:
• The real difference between connecting with someone and attaching yourself to them (and wh...

This episode is one of the most vulnerable and raw I’ve ever shared. For the last 12 months, I’ve been quietly navigating something that has shaken me to my core and challenged my identity in ways I never expected… and today, I’m bringing you behind the curtain.

In this ep, I open up about:
- The journey of questioning my sexuality and why it’s felt terrifying and liberating all at once.
- How I’ve hidden behind fake tan and perfectionism for years, and what I’m learning about beauty, self-worth, an...

If you’ve ever felt afraid that once you really like someone, you’ll slip back into old habits… abandon yourself… and forget everything you worked so hard to heal—this episode is for you.

After a long pattern of anxious dating, emotionally unavailable partners, and constantly losing myself in love, I decided to do something radically different:
I took 12 months off dating completely.

In this episode, I share what happened during that year—what I learned, how I reconnected with myself, and how I became the kind of woman who dates from overflow, not emptines...

If you’ve ever found yourself spiraling over a situationship, stuck in a cycle of "I know he’s not good for me, but I can’t walk away" - this episode is your medicine, my love. Today, I’m joined by the beautiful Majo Torreli - somatic coach, Oxford grad, and nervous system wizard - for a powerful convo on how your body (not your brain) holds the key to finally breaking your anxious dating patterns.

Majo spent over a decade feeling small, powerless, and anxious in love, even while doing all the “right” things like therapy, min...

You know that moment where you get invited to something amazing — a room full of women you know you’d vibe with — but your body starts screaming, “Nope! Stay home, it’s safer on the couch”? Yeah… that was me last night.

In this episode, I’m bringing you behind the scenes of a beautiful women’s networking dinner that totally cracked me open. What started as excitement quickly spiraled into social anxiety, fear of being judged, and a resurfacing of my teenage sisterhood wounds — you know the ones: feeling not cool enough, not chosen, and like the odd one out. If...

Can you actually date casually and feel emotionally safe, respected, and secure?
Short answer: yes. But most people out here trying to be the “cool girl” in casual dating are actually just abandoning their needs and calling it chill. Let’s clean that up. In this episode, I break down what a secure casual dynamic actually looks like and how to stop treating situationships like a slot machine that might pay out if you just stay cool enough.

You’ll learn:

Today’s episode is for the over-thinkers, the self-doubters, and the “was it something I did?” spirallers. If you’ve ever felt triggered after a date and immediately asked “What did I do wrong?” Caught yourself on a mental hamster wheel wondering if you’re too much, not enough, or just cursed in love… Or tried to dissect someone’s texting patterns like it’s a code to crack…this episode is your wake-up call.

We’re talking:

- Why the questions you ask yourself are the key to your confidence
- The difference between a...

If you’ve ever hit a point in your healing where you thought, “Why is this happening again?” or “I thought I already worked through this!” this episode is your reminder that healing isn’t a straight line… but every challenge is an invitation to EVOLVE.

We’re talking:

- How to catch yourself before spiraling into victim mindset
- What self-sabotage is really trying to protect you from
- A deeply personal story about my most recent PA launch and the shadow it brought up
- Why your challenges are a portal to...

This episode is for every human who’s ever thought: “Am I actually into men… or am I just addicted to their validation?” 😳 …or “I think I might be queer, but I’m terrified of what that means.” Today I’m joined by the brilliant Inez Bye - queer content creator, business coach, and one of my real-life besties, for a no-holds-barred convo on coming out later in life, dating women for the first time, and how anxious attachment still finds a way to sneak in… even when you finally feel like you’ve met “your people.”

We’re talking:
• Tha...

Today’s episode is a full-on DATING DEBRIEF. If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in dating burnout 🙃, ghosted someone because you weren’t sure how to say “I’m not feeling it,” got ghosted and spiraled hard, or stared at your phone thinking “Do I even want to be dating right now??” 😒 This episode is for you.

We’re talking:

If your dating life feels like a never-ending loop of ghosting, confusion, and anxiety… you need this episode. In this episode of The Secure Love Club Podcast, I’m breaking down the subtle, yet game-changing, difference between dating from scarcity vs. abundance. This conversation was sparked by a real-life moment from a 1:1 client session that I knew I had to share with you. If you’re sick of overthinking every text, afraid to speak your truth, or constantly worried you’re “too much”… then my love, this one is a must-listen.

We dive into:
• What it really m...

Ever caught yourself planning your wedding playlist after one flirty date? 👀 Already imagining what your couple selfies will look like before you even know their last name? You’re not alone, my love—and you’re not crazy. In today’s juicy episode of The Secure Love Club Podcast, I’m answering a question I get all the time: “How do I stop myself from spiraling into fantasy land and imagining my whole life with someone I barely know?!” If dating has you exhausted from mentally fast-forwarding every new connection… this one’s for you.

We dive into:
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If you’ve ever caught yourself saying “I’ll be happy when…” — when I find my person, when I make more money, when I finally feel chosen — this episode is your wake-up call. Fresh from my Europe trip, I’m sharing the biggest shift I had around what it actually means to live fully — without waiting for the relationship, the job, or the external milestone to give you permission to enjoy your life. We dive into why so many women (especially those with anxious attachment) press pause on their joy, and how that mindset is quietly keeping you stuck in low self-worth...

You think you’re searching for a relationship, but what you’re really craving is relief. A break from the spiral of overthinking and the constant need to feel “enough.” In this episode, I’m sharing a truth I learned the hard way: When you haven’t learned how to regulate your own emotions, you’ll unconsciously make your partner responsible for doing it for you. And that, my love, is where anxious dating patterns are born. We’re diving deep into why love isn’t the fix you think it is—and how chasing a relationship to soothe your anxiety will on...

In this episode of the Secure Love Club podcast, I welcome special guest and Human Design expert, Hilary McVeigh. Hilary shares her journey from being a burnt-out lawyer to a guide helping people reconnect with their authentic selves through human design. We dive into what human design is, how it can help you understand yourself better, and how you can align your life and relationships with your true energy. Hilary opens up about her personal experiences with hitting rock bottom and the transformation that led her to where she is today. We also discuss the different human design types...

Ever wonder why you keep repeating the same patterns in dating — like chasing emotionally unavailable people, feeling like you’re “too much,” or constantly questioning your worth? In this episode of the Secure Love Club podcast, we’re going deeper than surface-level dating advice. Because often, what you’re experiencing in love today has everything to do with the environment you grew up in.

You’ll learn:
• How your nervous system was shaped by early attachment experiences
• The link between childhood emotional neglect and anxious attachment in adulthood
• Why you feel more chemistry with peopl...

Have you ever met someone new and immediately felt hooked? Like one great date has your brain spiraling with “What if they’re the one?!” and then panicking when they take hours to reply? In this episode of the Secure Love Club podcast, we’re unpacking one of the most common (and confusing) experiences for anxiously attached daters: the difference between genuine excitement… and anxious attachment.

You’ll learn:
• How to tell the difference between real connection and nervous system activation
• The signs you’re anxiously attaching (and not just “really into them”)
• Why you spiral w...

My friends… this one is a soul shaker. If you’ve been waiting for a sign to stop tolerating the bare minimum — from yourself, your life, your relationships — and finally take radical ownership, this is it. Today I sat down with the powerhouse that is Dijana Djukicc, and you’re about to get your entire mindset rearranged in the best way.

Dijana is a coach, personal trainer, nutrition practitioner, and the woman behind a multiple seven-figure business that helps women become hot, healed, and high-performing — without the burnout. But what makes her so magnetic is that she’s not just pre...

Ever feel like you always fall for the person who sends mixed signals, keeps you guessing, and never fully commits? You’re not alone. In this episode of The Secure Love Club Podcast, we’re diving deep into why emotionally unavailable people feel so magnetic—and why breaking this cycle feels nearly impossible. I’m sharing my own journey from anxious attachment to security, unpacking the real reasons you keep getting stuck in this pattern (spoiler: it’s not your fault!). We’ll talk about: how childhood experiences shape your attraction to unavailable partners, why the emotional rollercoaste...

In this episode of The Secure Love Club Podcast, I’m sharing something really close to my heart—a live talk I gave recently at the On Purpose event in Melbourne. This one’s personal. I open up about parts of my journey I’ve never shared online—times where I lost myself, felt disconnected, and how the friendships I built (and let go of) played a huge role in coming back home to me. If you’ve ever questioned your place in a friendship, felt like you were too much (or not enough), or struggled to stay true to yourself...

Flirting isn’t just about romance—it’s about confidence, connection, and having fun in your own skin. In this episode of The Secure Love Club podcast, I sit down with Benjamin Camras, aka The Flirt Coach, to break down how flirting can feel natural, effortless, and fun (yes, even if you’re shy or overthink every interaction). Benjamin shares his journey from socially anxious introvert to flirt expert and spills his best tips on building confidence, handling rejection without spiraling, and using micro-flirts to create instant connections—without playing games. If flirting has ever felt awkward, confusing, or straight-u...

If you’ve ever felt like your heart and your head are at war when it comes to dating - this episode is for you. In this juicy deep dive, I’m breaking down the tension between desire and discipline, especially for those of us with anxious attachment. Because let’s be real… when we want someone, it can feel impossible to slow down, stay grounded, and make choices that actually serve us. I’m sharing my own journey (yes, the messy bits too) and giving you real, actionable strategies to help you build your capacity for discomfort, self-soothe like a pro...

In episode nine of the Secure Love Club podcast, we’re discussing the sensitive topic of jealousy in relationships and the anxiety and insecurity stirred up when your partner finds other people attractive. I cover why attraction outside of your relationship is normal, what is and isn’t okay, and the important red flags to look out for that may indicate your partner is overstepping a boundary. We explore where this insecurity stems from and how it can be projected unnecessarily (hear a personal story where I did this with my ex!), and how to build your self-esteem so you...

In episode eight of the Secure Love Club podcast, I address the painful and often isolating experience of going through a breakup and offer a compassionate space for discussing heartbreak. I acknowledge the pain you're going through, share how breakups can lead to powerful transformations, and provide personal anecdotes from my own significant breakups. Whether you're in the midst of a breakup or still struggling to move on, I offer practical tips for processing pain, embracing dissonance, forging new connections, and the importance of going no contact. Let's navigate this journey together and transform through the pain. 

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Get ready for a deep dive into the juiciest episode of the Secure Love Club podcast yet! Join me as I chat with the incredible Eliza Wilson, a therapeutic coach & clinical sexologist with over a decade of experience in helping individuals master self-love and create fulfilling relationships. We explore how anxious and avoidant attachment styles shake up your love life, the seductive yet dangerous role of sex as a form of reassurance, and the magic of building a deeper emotional connection through intimacy in secure relationships. Eliza also dishes out transformative advice on breaking unhealthy patterns, the power of...

In episode six of the Secure Love Club podcast, I share a personal BTS life update on the challenges I’m facing right now as a single woman in my 30s and how I feel about dating. I discuss missing my community in Sydney, craving independence while living with family in Melbourne, and taking a break from dating due to a lack of emotional availability. We dive into the importance of accepting the current season of life you’re in and letting go of unmet expectations from our 20s in order to make the most of your 30s! Join me a...

In episode five of the Secure Love Club podcast, I share personal stories where trusting my intuition led to life-changing outcomes, such as changing career paths, ending a significant relationship, and even moving to Bali. By reflecting on these experiences, I aim to show how reconnecting with and trusting your inner voice can positively transform your life. Additionally, I provide actionable steps to help you strengthen your connection with your intuition, avoid common mistakes, and better navigate life's decisions. Tune in to learn how to distinguish your intuition from anxiety and start making decisions that align with your true...

In today's episode, I sit down for an inspiring conversation with my client Maria, who shares her transformative journey from being in a toxic relationship to finding a secure and loving partnership. Maria opens up about her struggles with anxiety, low self-esteem, and people-pleasing tendencies, and the tangible and emotional shifts she made to gain confidence, set boundaries, and become her authentic self. She talks about her new, healthy relationship and what’s really like being with a secure partner and offers advice to those hesitant about seeking support. Tune in to hear more about our transformative work together an...

In episode three of the Secure Love Club podcast, we dive into how to identify avoidant behaviour early on and what secure signs to look for in dating. I break down the top five OBVIOUS and SUBTLE red flags you need to know. We also discuss the role of intuition and unpack common dating patterns to look out for to ensure more secure and fulfilling relationships.

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In episode two of the Secure Love Club podcast, I discuss the benefits of dating multiple people in the early stages to manage anxious attachment tendencies, protect emotional well-being, and ultimately gain clarity on what you're looking for in a partner. I share practical tips such as setting clear intentions, maintaining honesty on dating profiles, understanding when to disclose you're seeing other people, and the importance of not taking rejection personally. Listen in to learn how to date with integrity while having fun and protecting your energy.

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Welcome to the debut episode of the Secure Love Club podcast! In this first episode, I share my personal journey from dealing with anxious attachment to becoming a confident and secure woman and dating and relationship coach. Drawing from real-life experiences and struggles, I recount my childhood in a blended family, the development of my anxious attachment style, and the transformative process of discovering attachment theory. Delve into the highs and lows of my past romantic relationships, and learn how I eventually found peace, independence, and secure love. I also discuss the birth of my coaching business and the...