YOUR CRAZY BEST FRIENDS
By: Anna&Sarah
Language: en
Categories: Society, Culture, Personal, Journals
I KNOW I SOUND LIKE A CRAZY PERSON BUT I HOPE YOU'LL LOVE ME ANYWAY - a platonic love story. Sarah and Anna revisit letters that they wrote each other over a decade ago, and reflect on what has changed and what hasn't. yourcrazybestfriends.substack.com
Episodes
Letters from Limbo
Dec 13, 2025This week, we talk about Anna’s mum, Vera, and wonder what she might think of our podcast. An excellent storyteller herself, she and Anna share a deep interest in people. But how would she feel about us sharing her story? We’ll never know for sure, though we get the sense she’s cheering us on. We also talk about the difficulty of living in the in-between—witnessing someone you love move through an end-of-life transition while still trying to figure out how to live your own life. As usual, there’s no roadmap for any of it, but we’re...
Duration: 00:29:25Almost forgot it was all for fun.
Dec 06, 2025This week, we get into how, in our early adulthood, we were desperately trying to be “real grownups.” But now, in our mid-adulthood, the real trick seems to be learning how to be kids again. We talk about the trap of trying to be right or perfect, and how much better life gets when you can laugh at the detours, let go of the plan, and treat your mistakes as lessons instead of weapons.
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Alison Hall on Cancer, Connection, and the Power of Showing Up.
Nov 23, 2025This week, we’re joined by reporter and journalist Alison Hall. We had such a fun and real conversation with Alison about vulnerability as a super power, what her experience with cancer taught her about giving and receiving support, and how to invest in friendships that make you part of a community.
Alison is a correspondent for Inside Edition, where she became the first producer in the show’s history to be promoted to full-time on-air reporter. She’s spent the last decade covering major national stories, including reporting from the courthouses during the Bill Cosby, Harvey Weinst...
Duration: 00:45:55Good dancers, nice hands, and a bad recorder.
Nov 17, 2025This week, some surprising parallels between our lives in 2012 and 2025 lead us into a conversation about childhood games, seeking answers in unexpected places, and dancing our way into healing. As usual, we try to help each other untangle the questions that never seem to go away — like why we have breakthroughs and then immediately forget everything we learned, and which practices actually help keep our lives (and our minds) organized.
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When you’re together but alone.
Nov 08, 2025This week, we’re talking about waiting, those in-between liminal spaces, and the biggest transition of all: death. Anna writes about waiting for her mom to make that crossing, and what it means to sit with the unknown. It’s tender and a little heavy, but we also talk about how facing death and our fear of it can make us more awake to life and the people we love right now.
Get full access to YOUR CRAZY BEST FRIENDS at yourcrazybestfriends.substack.com/subscribe Duration: 00:45:15
The Small Things That Make Us Known.
Nov 01, 2025In a shocking twist for this friendship podcast, this week we’re talking about friends. Our friendships shape so much of who we are, so why don’t we talk more about how to care for them? Romantic love gets all the advice columns and grand gestures, but what about the people who’ve seen us through everything? We talk about the grief that comes along with fading friendships, dig into why keeping current communication with our friends is so important, and wonder about what’s lost when we don’t share the day-to-day details of our lives with one anothe...
Duration: 00:46:08Murder, body parts, and the cost of being polite.
Oct 25, 2025This week, we have a ready-for-television interlude in our letters. Anna has a very surprising encounter in a hospital elevator, and Sarah remembers some darkly satisfying dreams. This exchange from 2012 is a welcome distraction from the heaviness Anna was dealing with at the time - her mother’s terminal cancer. Plus, we ask each other for some advice! Tune in for some unhinged solutions for dealing with chronic pain, and practical tips for maintaining a love/hate relationship with long hair.
Get full access to YOUR CRAZY BEST FRIENDS at yourcrazybestfriends.substack.com/subscribe Duration: 00:36:33
We remember what we tell.
Oct 19, 2025This week, we enter the chapter where Anna’s mother begins her end-of-life journey. After a few months back in New York, Anna learns her mother’s health has taken a sudden turn, and she returns to London to be with her in her final weeks. We talk about how the instinct to protect someone from the truth can come from love—but how honesty is often the deepest form of care. We also explore how we keep people alive through the stories we tell, and why every story has more than one side. Even though death and grief are tr...
Duration: 00:46:12I don't want to fuck you unless I'm a little bit in love with you.
Oct 12, 2025This week, we talk about belonging, sex as self-discovery, and learning from struggle. From feeling like an outsider to smashing the porcelain shell, we explore what it means to grow into who we really are.
Get full access to YOUR CRAZY BEST FRIENDS at yourcrazybestfriends.substack.com/subscribe Duration: 00:44:10
Can we talk about sex and creativity for a minute?
Oct 04, 2025In this episode, we talk about how good sex can ground us in our bodies, quiet the overthinking, and teach us what we actually want. We unpack the tug-of-war between following the path we’re “supposed to” take and carving our own way, and wonder how much of life is planning and goal-setting versus letting go and seeing where desire leads.
Get full access to YOUR CRAZY BEST FRIENDS at yourcrazybestfriends.substack.com/subscribe Duration: 00:43:50
The writing's on the Facebook wall.
Sep 29, 2025In this episode, we dig into the pain of being seen only through an old lens — how family can lock us into outdated versions of ourselves and weaponize our deepest insecurities. We talk about what it means to lose yourself in those dynamics, the tug-of-war between self-respect and obligation, and why the people who know us best can sometimes cut the deepest. Plus, we revisit the strange era of Facebook wall posts. Did anyone ever think poking was good UX?
Get full access to YOUR CRAZY BEST FRIENDS at yourcrazybestfriends.substack.com/subscribe Duration: 00:43:44
When you don’t want to know what you already know.
Sep 23, 2025This week, we’re digging into the kind of anxiety that comes from twisting yourself into knots to avoid conflict, ignoring your gut, and convincing yourself you’re “fine” when you’re actually one tequila shot away from a full-on spiral. Sarah shares what it’s like to lose her mind quietly while playing it cool on the outside, and Anna talks about trying to keep the peace with her family while walking on eggshells and navigating her mother’s illness. We get into the messy reality of trusting your feelings, finding the courage to say them out loud, and resisting...
Duration: 00:42:21Love letters, creative vaginas, and some very big what ifs.
Sep 13, 2025This week, we’re unpacking the fantasy version of life versus reality. What happens when life doesn’t match the movie playing in our heads? And what about those moments when we have to crash back down to earth after a trip to cloud nine? Whether we’re trying to escape our current reality or cling to fleeting joy, we’re learning what it means to surrender the illusion of control.
Get full access to YOUR CRAZY BEST FRIENDS at yourcrazybestfriends.substack.com/subscribe Duration: 00:36:06
Why friendship saves the day with Dr. Matt Poon
Sep 09, 2025With so much of this podcast dedicated to big feelings and tough life moments, we thought it was time to call in some expert guidance. This week, we’re thrilled to be joined by clinical psychologist and therapist Dr. Matt Poon. Together, we dig into guilt and shame, why no emotion is inherently bad, how friendship can carry us through the hardest times, and what it really means to give ourselves grace without losing sight of our values. Matt opened up space for self-compassion in such a generous way, and we can’t wait for you to hear his insi...
Duration: 00:48:24Embarrassing behavior and other things we’re proud of.
Aug 30, 2025We’ve all got those late-night cringe memories - the ones that make you want to bury your head under the pillow forever. But maybe we don’t need to hang on to that shame. Sometimes the cure is blurting it all out to your best friend… and having them turn it into a celebration instead of a scar.
Plus, a rigorous debate on coffee, and we reveal our first crushes.
Get full access to YOUR CRAZY BEST FRIENDS at yourcrazybestfriends.substack.com/subscribe Duration: 00:37:49
How soon is too soon to say I love you?
Aug 13, 2025How soon is too soon to say “I love you”? And what happens if the other person doesn’t say it back? In this week’s episode, we dive back into our 2012 letters to unpack big leaps of faith, the messy magic of letting your heart lead, and the eternal struggle between craving freedom and needing control (spoiler: you can’t have both).
All this nostalgia for our 20s has us revisiting the ultimate NYC coming-of-age story — Girls — and celebrating the messy, brilliant chaos of Lena Dunham’s new show Too Much, the 30-something sequel we didn’t know we needed.<...
Duration: 00:38:34Why you should give your friendship a job.
Aug 03, 2025This week’s letters were a little lighter, so we took the opportunity to reflect on what this project has meant to us, both when we were writing the letters in our early 20s and now, doing the podcast in our 30s.
We also had some fun with rapid-fire style questions (which, unsurprisingly, were answered in a very non-rapid way).
Get full access to YOUR CRAZY BEST FRIENDS at yourcrazybestfriends.substack.com/subscribe Duration: 00:40:08
Between a warehouse and a tree fort.
Jul 20, 2025When life gets overwhelmed with practicalities instead of passion, how do we invite our joy to take back the wheel? This week we talk about navigating the uncomfortable gap between what we’d like our lives to look like, and the reality of the here and now. If you’ve ever felt the frustration of being a creative who has to spend most of their time not doing what you love to make ends meet, this episode is for you.
Get full access to YOUR CRAZY BEST FRIENDS at yourcrazybestfriends.substack.com/subscribe Duration: 00:33:18
Just so you know, I'm not going to slap you.
Jul 05, 2025When someone tries to define your story for you, how do you flip the narrative? This week, we’re talking self-confidence and the tricky art of pushing back when someone serves you a “harsh truth” that’s really just confirmation of your worst fears. Plus: we revisit some dodgy early auditions, being a woman in the entertainment industry, and why we’re very grateful for the rise of intimacy coordinators. (Looking at you, Last Tango in Paris 👀)
Get full access to YOUR CRAZY BEST FRIENDS at yourcrazybestfriends.substack.com/subscribe Duration: 00:47:14
Crazy drugs, phone addiction, and wondering if life would be easier if we were dumb.
Jun 28, 2025Can our pets tell time? More importantly, will Sarah ever make it through an episode without talking about her dog? (Spoiler alert - probably not.) In addition to these very important questions, this week we talk about what makes a good person, the complexities of caretaking, and try to figure out how to be more present in a world that is constantly yanking at our attention. Maybe everything would feel simpler if our brains were, too.
Get full access to YOUR CRAZY BEST FRIENDS at yourcrazybestfriends.substack.com/subscribe Duration: 00:39:28
Having it all, and a box full of dildos.
Jun 21, 2025Newsflash - the universe is expanding, and we’re not handling that information well. In this episode, we dive into the concept of home: how you can’t ever really go back, but sometimes being with your parents feels like a weird little time warp that lets you play kid again (mentally, at least). We also get into body autonomy and what it means to claim agency over your own pleasure. Does anyone know when are we finally gonna let women take the wheel when it comes to their desire and image? Anyone?
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All kinds of wet (but not the fun kind)
Jun 14, 2025This week we were both in our feelings, and you know what? That’s okay. We talk through letting go of cynicism (even if it means risking heartbreak) and get honest about difficult mother-daughter dynamics and the cult of diet culture. Fair warning - we discuss eating disorders and our personal experiences with them. We know it’s a tricky subject so skip this one if that’s what’s best for your own heart!
Get full access to YOUR CRAZY BEST FRIENDS at yourcrazybestfriends.substack.com/subscribe Duration: 00:51:34
Clichés, hard truths, and having our hearts fucked out by love.
Jun 07, 2025This week we discuss what it feels like to throw all caution to the wind and say yes to life’s adventures, what’s lost when we don’t tell the whole truth (even if it’s a hard one) and what it’s like to live in the grey areas. Plus, Anna shares some excellent advice about how to connect with people you’ve just met.
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Religion, self-sabotage, and feeling boring.
May 31, 2025We didn’t grow up religious — but that didn’t stop us from having an existential crisis about it. This episode is a spiral: into belief, identity, self-sabotage, and the terrifying possibility that we might just be... boring. It’s awkward, chaotic, kind of sad, kind of funny — basically, church.
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Heartbreak, Hip-Hopcrisy, and Magic Mike
May 24, 2025In this week’s episode, we dive into the difference between being seen and being watched, what it feels like to be an actor, big feelings, and crack way too many poop jokes for Anna’s liking - even more than usual, chaos ensues.
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Dollar bills, loneliness, and alien artists of extraordinary ability.
May 17, 2025In this week’s episode, we’re unpacking the weird in-between of never quite fitting in, and how coupled-culture is designed to make single people feel like they’re always second-best. We ask ourselves what constitutes a “real” life and share the best advice we’ve ever received.
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Gold leaf, hobbits, and letting go of expectations.
May 10, 2025This week, we’re talking about the magic of being fully present—plus why it’s so tricky to actually get there. We also get into social anxiety (including why introducing different friend groups feels like defusing a bomb). The good news? We might’ve stumbled on a few helpful clues for handling it all. Spoiler: it has a lot to do with trust… and letting go of control (easier said than done, we know).
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Shame, mistakes, and embracing trickster energy.
May 03, 2025In this episode of Your Crazy Best Friends, we’re talking about messing up, feeling shame, and learning to laugh at it all. From reframing failure to embracing masturbation and letting go of emotional control, we explore how to stop taking life so seriously—and maybe even have fun with the chaos.
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Rage, porn playing cards, and ridiculous complaints.
Apr 26, 2025In this week’s episode, we dive into a letter that captures the chaotic, thrilling magic of losing control — and finding yourself. We talk about the tension between control and pleasure, swap funny (and slightly mortifying) stories about how we first learned about sex (spoiler: it involves a secret porn stash), and unpack how part of growing up is getting more comfortable with emotions — like anger — that can feel wildly out of control, but are actually vital to recognize and communicate.
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Hammocks, Murray Hill, and a lot of talk about sex.
Apr 19, 2025This week, we get to hear about Sarah’s first date with PH and the flurry of feelings that went along with it. We discuss dating culture, our not-so-successful encounters with casual sex, and the work that goes into breaking out of dysfunctional relationship dynamics. Let’s talk about sex, baby, and also about family trauma.
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Hangovers, exes, and the worst jobs we've ever had.
Apr 12, 2025Our first remote podcast recording, and we’re wondering if being in different spaces made us open up a teeny bit more. In this episode, we explore friendships with exes, things we put up with that we shouldn’t have, and the value of making big old mistakes.
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Flying fucks, fire, and pretending to be slutty.
Apr 05, 2025This week’s episode covers a lot of ground as we talk about past lives, listening to our gut, and the things that break us open.
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Vulnerability, perfectionism, and the consequences of being a woman.
Mar 29, 2025This week’s letters had us thinking about the power - and consequences - of vulnerability. We talk through the trap of perfectionism and what it feels like to put the messy parts of ourselves on display.
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Speeches, letters, and maybe a little too much champagne.
Mar 26, 2025We had a party, and we wish you had been there, so we’re sharing the speech, the letters, and the vibes from our launch. If you’re new to YOUR CRAZY BEST FRIENDS, this could be a great place to start. Grab a glass and join us in launching our dreams.
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Jelly beans, romance, and notes for our past selves.
Mar 22, 2025This week we read through some BIG letters and try to find compassion for our younger selves while discussing what we wish we could’ve done better (with 12 years of hindsight).
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Zeus, Vivaldi, and other famous fuckbois.
Mar 15, 2025In this episode, we read through this week’s letters, talk about how we thought our careers would go, and the music we use to get us through.
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Diaries, obsession, and a lot of talk about lipstick.
Mar 08, 2025I KNOW I SOUND LIKE A CRAZY PERSON, BUT I HOPE YOU'LL LOVE ME ANYWAY - a platonic love story told through letters between two best friends.
We’re sharing our platonic love story through the real-life daily letters from our early 20s (over a decade ago) - they’re messy and silly, sometimes melodramatic, occasionally insightful, but mostly really good evidence that there’s nothing quite like deep true platonic love, particularly when navigating heartbreak, grief, family, and self-discovery.
On this podcast we'll chime in as our older, although not necessarily wiser, selves. This is mea...
Duration: 00:38:44