Summary

In this episode, Dan explores the third pillar of mental fitness — self-command — and how it integrates with the biblical call to “renew your mind.” Christian fathers often feel the gap between who they want to be and how they actually show up under pressure. Dan explains why willpower alone isn’t enough and how spiritual + neurological “reps” retrain your responses, helping you lead from the Spirit instead of stress.

Through scripture, practical tools, and a powerful real-life coaching story, Dan shows how simple 10-second shifts can transform your tone, presence, and connection...

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In this episode of the Positive Legacy Podcast, Dan Hayden continues the three part series on the pillars of mental fitness from the Positive Intelligence framework. This episode focuses on Pillar Two, Strengthening Your Sage. Dan explains that the Sage is the Spirit-led, calm, wise, and grounded part of a father’s mind. While saboteurs create fear-based reactions, the Sage creates clarity, connection, and purposeful leadership.

Dan introduces the five Sage Powers and explains them in everyday fatherhood language. These include Empathize, Explore, Navigate, Innovate, and Activate. He sh...

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In this episode of the Positive Legacy Podcast, Dan Hayden begins a three part series on the pillars of mental fitness from the Positive Intelligence framework. The focus is Pillar One, Quieting Your Saboteurs. Dan explains how saboteurs are fear based mental habits formed early in life. These patterns were once protective but now interfere with a father’s ability to lead with calm confidence and connection.

Dan breaks down the most common saboteurs for Chris...

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As we head into Thanksgiving week, Dan invites Christian fathers to see gratitude not as a holiday feeling but as a powerful tool for spiritual and mental growth.

Gratitude is more than saying “thank you.” It’s training your mind to focus on what’s good, even when life feels heavy. In this episode, Dan unpacks how gratitude quiets the inner critic, strengthens empathy and presence, and helps you lead your home and work life with calm confidence.

You’ll hear how to use gratitude to address bu...

In this episode of The Positive Legacy Podcast, Dan Hayden helps Christian fathers turn the holidays from a season of stress into a season of legacy. Instead of slipping into frustration or control, Dan shows how to enter this time spiritually and mentally equipped to lead your family with peace, presence, and purpose.

Discover how legacy is built through ordinary moments, why presence matters more than presents, and how Positive Intelligence (PQ) helps you renew your mind and respond from faith instead of pressure. Dan also shares a practical coaching model for connecting with your...

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From Stress to Strength: Why Rest Is a Father’s Greatest Leadership Tool

Summary:

In this episode, Dan opens up about the sleepless nights many dads face. The constant stress, the mental replay of worries, and the toll it takes on faith and family. He shares a deeply personal story from his Army retirement, the night he heard God whisper, “Son, you’re not Me. You can go to bed now.”

Dan explains how faith and mental fitness (Positive Intelligence) work...

In this episode, we unpack one of the most overlooked marks of great fathers: emotional self-command. Drawing from both biblical wisdom and Positive Intelligence (PQ) principles, he explores how Christian dads can lead with calm authority even when anger flares.

Through personal stories and practical tools, Dan shows how presence under pressure, mental fitness, and repair after rupture can transform family dynamics and earn lasting respect.

Learn how to train your “Sage brain,” practice the Pause + Pray Reset, and mode...

🎙️ Episode 5: The Holiday Reset

Summary:

The holidays amplify stress, but they can also be your chance to reset. Dan shares how Christian fathers can break old patterns, embrace empathy, and lead their families with calm and connection before the season begins.

🕒 Timestamps

00:00 – Introduction:

Dan’s journey from Army leadership to coaching Christian fathers toward faith-based connection.

02:00 – Why Holidays Magnify Old Patterns:

Anger, distance, and control often resurface — awareness is the first step to...

Episode Summary

When your teen pushes back against your faith and values, it can shake your confidence as a dad. In this episode, Dan shares how Christian fathers can stay grounded in faith while building deeper connection through the principles of Positive Intelligence (PQ). You’ll learn how to quiet your saboteurs, lead from your Sage powers, and create the safety your teen needs to grow spiritually and emotionally.

🧭 Episode Breakdown

(00:00) Intro

(02:10) Faith Grows Stronger Under Questioning – Identify the Controller, Judge, and Avo...

🎙️ When Silence Speaks

Short answers. Rolled eyes. Closed doors.

If you’re the dad of a teenager, you know that kind of silence — the kind that leaves you wondering what happened to the kid who used to talk your ear off about Minecraft builds, skate tricks, or the latest youth group story.

You ask how school was and get:

“Fine.”

Anything interesting happen?

“Nope.”

Wanna hang out later?

And just like that… conversation over.

The door closes...