Peace and Parenting: How to Parent without Punishments

Today's episode comes with a heavy heart as I share a very personal update. My beloved father, Papa, recently passed away after a three-year battle with cancer. For those who knew him or followed my posts, you know he was my steadfast parenting partner and confidant, truly embracing connective parenting and becoming an incredible grandfather to my girls. In this tribute, I'll share a eulogy I wrote for him, celebrating his vivacious spirit, fierce determination, and profound transformation later in life.

This episode is not only a heartfelt farewell to an extraordinary man but...

Do you ever feel like you're constantly battling your kids, trying to "make" them do what you want? Are you tired of using punishments or rewards, but unsure how else to get them to listen? If you're longing for a deeper connection with your child and a more peaceful home without resorting to control, you're in the right place. Today, I’m exploring a crucial distinction: the difference between boundaries and limits, and consequences and punishments.

Many of us were taught that discipline means punishment, but "discipline" actually means "to teach." I want to sh...

What does real respect between parents and children truly look like? Have you ever wondered why your kids sometimes seem “disrespectful,” or whether expecting automatic respect is helping or hurting your relationship? Let’s dive into what it means to nurture mutual respect without demanding compliance.

Today, we revisit one of our most popular topics: the true nature of respect in parenting and how embracing connection over control transforms our family relationships. There is a commonly held narrative that tells us kids “should” respect adults. I used to crave compliance from my daughters, thinking that made...

Have you been told that because your child is neurodivergent, they need different rules? That connection-based parenting works for neurotypical kids, but your child with autism or ADHD requires charts, rewards, and consequences to manage behavior. Many of us hear this, leaving us to choose between a behavioral or relationship-based approach.

In this episode, I have a powerful conversation with Eloise, one of our private clients, whose son has autism and ADHD. She came to us wondering if this work would even apply to her family. She had tried the visual charts and rewards...

Does it ever feel like you’re a referee in your own home? One child is hurt, crying with scratches down their arm, and the other is standing there, looking defiant. In that moment, every instinct tells you to protect the “victim” and correct the “aggressor.” But what if I told you that by rushing in to assign blame, we might unknowingly be making the rivalry worse? It’s a tough pill to swallow, I know. It took me years to see how my attempts to protect my younger daughter, Pia, were actually fueling my older daughter, Esme’s fire and cemen...

Do you feel like you’re doing everything “right”? You’ve started implementing special time and focusing on connection, yet it creates more chaos. The kids might have meltdowns when the timer goes off, or sibling squabbles seem endless. You may question whether connected parenting works. You are not alone, and there is a way through it.

In this episode, I have a wonderful chat with Katie, a mother of three girls from the UK. She’s been practicing connective parenting for just a few weeks and is already seeing incredible results, but she came to me...

Are you sometimes wondering if this whole "connected parenting" thing can really work for your child, especially when you're facing those big emotions or defiant moments? Maybe you've heard people say, "That’s nice, but my kid needs something different." I truly understand where you're coming from, and I’ve been there.

In today's episode, I want to discuss why I’m passionate about connected parenting as a loving approach for all children, regardless of their temperament or challenges. We'll explore how prioritizing our relationship over specific behaviors makes a profound difference. Traditional methods like p...

Do you ever find yourself in those familiar power struggles with your child? Maybe it’s the daily screen time battle, that feeling of being rushed, or just their amazing, strong will challenging you at every turn. If you're nodding along, please know you're not alone, and there absolutely is a path to more peace and cooperation in your home.

In this episode, I had a wonderful conversation with Jackie, a mom to a spirited nine-year-old named Sophia. Jackie bravely shared her struggles with Sophia’s “authoritative personality” and the daily challenges of getting cooperat...

Okay, friend, let's discuss the pressure of being the "perfect" parent. If you've felt overwhelmed by a toddler’s grocery store meltdown or a teen defying you, this episode is for you. I've been in the trenches, thinking perfect parenting meant perfectly behaved children and would validate me.  

Today, I’ll share my journey with perfectionism in parenting, revealing how it harmed my relationship with my kids. My desperation for them to "behave" led to threats, bribes, and yelling, making me feel like a failure. The incredible thing I discovered is that our children need c...

Do you find yourself constantly striving for perfection in your parenting? Does the idea of not having all the answers or losing control fill you with anxiety? If you're a high-achieving parent who wants deep connection but finds yourself stuck in a "fix-it" or "control" mindset, this episode is for you.

Today, I have a truly insightful conversation with Kate Kripke, a licensed clinical social worker and perinatal mental health counselor. We dive into the neuroscience behind why many high-achieving women, like us, approach motherhood with a desire for control and achievement, and why...

Do you want your child to always feel safe enough to come to you, no matter what mistakes they've made? Are you sometimes unsure how to react when your child disappoints you, without resorting to punishment or judgment?

Today, we're diving deep into the power of being your child's "safe place." Research tells us this is the most crucial thing we can do for our children, especially in adolescence. When children feel safe and connected, their brains are better equipped for good decision-making and impulse control. And guess what! The fastest way to make...

What if I told you that schools are actually killing your child's creativity? Is socialization really a problem for homeschooled kids? If you're looking for an insightful discussion that addresses these fears and offers a compelling perspective on homeschooling, you're in the right place.

Today, I'm joined by Liz Hanson, a seasoned homeschooler with 24 years of experience in education. We'll explore what homeschooling truly is (and isn't), debunk common myths, and discuss the incredible benefits it can offer. Liz shares her personal journey into homeschooling and offers practical advice for parents considering this path...

Are you tired of constant power struggles with your child? Does it feel like every little thing turns into a battle? If you're longing for a more peaceful way to navigate these conflicts and maintain a strong connection with your child, you're in the right place.

Today, I’m tackling the tricky topic of power struggles. First, let me reassure you that they're incredibly common. Children, especially, crave autonomy, which can often lead to clashes as they assert their independence. But here's the good news: power struggles don't have to destroy your relationship. We'll ex...

Do you ever find yourself saying things to your child that you instantly regret? Do you worry that your own upbringing is negatively influencing your parenting? Today,, I talk with Helen, a mom who's caught in a cycle of saying hurtful things to her son, often mirroring the way her own mother treated her. We explore the powerful connection between our childhood experiences and our parenting triggers. I offer strategies for breaking free from these patterns, including journaling to process past hurts and reprioritizing connection over academic pressure.

We also discuss practical ways to...

What if I told you that forcing your child to be more social actually harms their confidence? Does it make you cringe when they won't say hello or engage with other kids? If you're tired of pushing your child to be more outgoing and it's just not working, I have a message of hope for you.

Today, I share my journey with my daughter Pia, who was very shy as a child. I used to worry about her lack of engagement and felt that others might perceive her as rude. However, I learned that...

You survived sleepless nights with a newborn, but what about sleepless nights with menopause? Is there an end in sight? I'm taking a short but important detour from our usual parenting topics to talk about something that affects so many of us: menopause. As women, our health and well-being are deeply intertwined with our ability to show up as the parents we want to be.   

Today, I welcome Julia Granacki, a board-certified health coach specializing in menopause and perimenopause. We dive into the controversial topic of hormone replacement therapy (HRT) and aim to clear up...

Tired of feeling like you always have to "fix" your child's negative emotions? Do you find yourself rushing to make them happy, even when they're expressing sadness, anger, or frustration? If you're ready to shift your perspective and learn how to embrace your child's full range of emotions, you're in the right place.

Today, I’m diving into the importance of allowing space for all feelings, even the uncomfortable ones. We often fear emotions and believe that being emotionally healthy means being happy all the time, but true emotional strength comes from acknowledging and pr...

Are you finding co-parenting more challenging than you ever imagined? Especially when it feels like you and your co-parent have completely different parenting styles? If you're navigating the complexities of divorce and trying to raise your child with someone you fundamentally disagree with, I understand how overwhelming it can feel.    

Today, I sit down with Stephanie, a co-parent who, like many of us, is facing the difficulties of raising a child while dealing with the fallout of a divorce. We discuss the challenges of differing parenting styles, especially regarding screen time, and the frustration of f...

I used to think that setting strict limits was the answer to my daughter's iPad obsession. But I learned a powerful lesson: I needed to change my own habits first. In this episode, I'm sharing my story and the importance of modeling healthy electronic habits. We'll discuss how to shift from restriction to connection and create a more balanced digital environment for your family.

I admit it's not always easy! I used to be glued to my phone, even while enforcing strict rules for my daughter, Esme. Realizing my behavior contributed to the problem...

Why do family meals sometimes turn into battlegrounds instead of bonding moments? Have you ever dreaded dinner time, wishing it could feel joyful and connected again? If you’re wondering how to ease meal struggles and nurture a better relationship with your kids around food, this episode is for you.

Today, I sit down with Lindsay, a mom of two young girls, to talk through the all-too-common challenges of family mealtimes. Lindsay shares her frustration about meals becoming stressful and her desire to avoid creating unhealthy habits or a negative relationship with food. Together, we...

Are electronics truly the enemy of modern parenting, or can they coexist peacefully in our lives? With electronics being an undeniable part of our daily lives, today  I explore how we can embrace them without sacrificing the connection with our children.

In this episode, I tackle the polarizing debate of kids and electronics. While some believe in strictly limiting access, others might inadvertently allow free rein. But is there a middle ground? I advocate for a balanced approach that recognizes the necessity of electronics while maintaining firm boundaries and continuous dialogue about safe and r...

Are your toddlers constantly clashing over toys, snacks, or even just space? Are you tired of being the referee or the judge in your kid's battles? Today, I sit down with Miriam, a mom of twin boys on the cusp of turning three, who shares her struggles with daily sibling battles.

Together, we explore how to stay grounded when our kids fight, why blame only adds fuel to the fire, and how to lead with empathy even when chaos erupts. You’ll hear us discuss the power of connection, why getting involved early makes a...

Are you tired of constant sibling squabbles turning your home into a battleground?  Do you dream of a more peaceful, connected family life? I know how you feel because I've been there too! My own challenging relationship with my sister growing up, and then watching my girls struggle, led me to transform my parenting. I traded in punishments and rewards for connection, and it changed everything.    

In this episode, I'm diving into sibling dynamics and sharing my personal journey, including how my past impacted my parenting. I’ll reveal why punitive measures backfired and actuall...

Do you ever feel like your kids only listen when you raise your voice? You're not alone. Many parents struggle with feeling unheard and resorting to yelling, often rooted in feeling disrespected. Today, we're diving into this common challenge with a real parent, Michela, and exploring practical strategies for finding calmer, more effective ways to communicate.

This episode isn't about blaming ourselves or our cultural backgrounds. It's about understanding why we get loud and how to shift towards connection and cooperation. We'll discuss the power of staying calm, setting limits with empathy, and using...

Are parents doing too much for their kids? What if saying "no" to doing something for your child could actually empower them to thrive independently? Today, we dive into the art of stepping back as a parent and explore the practice of avoiding over-functioning.

Today, I delve into the nuanced subject of over-functioning in our parenting journeys. I share my own experience with my daughter Esme, who is learning to navigate the complex world of adulthood. As I recount our recent encounter over her request for help obtaining her driver's license, I reflect on...

What happens when you don’t know what to say as a parent? How can we handle sibling rivalry and help our children navigate their conflicts? In this episode of Peace and Parenting, I'm joined by Lindsey, a mom of two spirited young ones, Ace and Ava. 

Lindsey shares her struggles when faced with sibling squabbles and the moments she feels frozen. We explore the common fear of saying the wrong thing and how to trust our instincts instead. This episode sheds light on how empathy, patience, and a grounded presence can transform everyday cha...

Are you tired of power struggles and tantrums turning your home into a battleground? Do you long for a more peaceful and connected relationship with your child? If you're like many parents, you've probably wondered how to teach your child to manage their big feelings without resorting to punishments or rewards. I’ve been there too. That’s why I traded in punishments and rewards for connection.   

Today is all about co-regulation and how it can transform your parenting approach. I’ll share some insights on why traditional methods often fall short and offer practical...

Ever feel lost in how to respond when your child gets aggressive during tantrums? You're not alone, and it's definitely a tough spot to be in. This week, we're tackling the challenge of aggressive tantrums and how to navigate them with connection, not punishment. Afra joins me today, struggling when her 6-year-old gets physical with her during tantrums. Together, we'll explore why connection is key, even when it feels counterintuitive, and how to keep everyone safe during those intense moments.

We dive into understanding the root of aggressive tantrums and why they happen, especially...

Are you tired of feeling like you're always lecturing your kids, but it just doesn't seem to make a difference? Do you find yourself caught in a cycle of reasoning and explaining, only to see the same behaviors repeat? I get it, because I’ve been there too. This week, I’m diving into why those well-intentioned lectures often fall flat and how they can even be perceived as punishment by our children. But don't worry, because I’ll also share some effective strategies for guiding our children towards better behavior, fostering genuine connection and self-correction without relying on lectur...

Sleep deprivation is real, and when your child won’t sleep without you, it can feel overwhelming. If you're exhausted from middle-of-the-night wake-ups, desperate for just a few hours of uninterrupted rest, and wondering if you’ll ever get your evenings back, today’s episode is for you.

In this heartfelt coaching session, I talk with Polina, a loving mother navigating the difficult challenge of nighttime separation. We explore why young children struggle with independent sleep, how connection impacts bedtime battles, and why setting limits with empathy is the key to long-term success.

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Are helicopter and bulldozer parenting mistakenly being labeled as gentle parenting by some? Today I uncover the myths around connective parenting and share the truth about what it really means to foster deep connections with our children.

In this episode, I tackle a common misconception about gentle or connective parenting, that it's all about speaking in a soft voice and gently reasoning with your kids. But as you’ll discover, it’s so much more. Connective parenting isn't about permissive attitudes or shielding kids from life's challenges. Rather, it's about equipping them to navigate obst...

How can parents navigate the chaos when sibling rivalry turns into a hair-pulling standoff? What if sibling rivalry wasn't just a battle between your kids but an opportunity to deepen your connection with them? In today’s episode, we dive into the dynamics of sibling relationships and discuss how shifting your perspective can bring peace to your parenting journey.

I’m joined by Shannon, a mother of two from Canada, who shares her experience with sibling rivalry. We unravel the complexities of these interactions and explore how our own responses, often shaped by past infl...

The secret to boosting your child's self-esteem is not about constant praise but in how you truly see and trust them. In today’s episode, I explore the significant role parents play in fostering healthy self-esteem in children. I reflect on the profound impact a nurturing and affirming approach has on a child’s self-image. By expressing genuine belief in their inherent goodness and autonomy, parents can help children develop confidence and a strong sense of self-worth.

I’ll share five practical affirmations I use with my kids and the importance of recognizing our childr...

Is bedtime drama with your toddler an indicator of a deeper connection issue? What if the path to peaceful and restful nights for your child begins with understanding their emotional needs? Today on the Peace and Parenting podcast, I welcome Jamesetta, a devoted mother of three daughters, who shares her ongoing journey with her three-year-old's nighttime struggles.

Jamesetta expresses the challenges she faces with her daughter's bedtime routine, revealing a cycle of sleep resistance and wakefulness in the middle of the night. Together, we explore how connection, empathy, and setting limits may hold the...

Are rewards just another form of punishment in disguise? Ever thought that the key to nurturing genuine cooperation in your child lies beyond the promise of a star chart or a treat? In this episode of Peace and Parenting, I dive deep into the often-overlooked pitfalls of reward systems in parenting and how they can inadvertently erode the parent-child connection.

As a mother who once believed in handing out star stickers for good behavior, I share my journey of discovery and realization. I revisit the time I created an elaborate star chart to encourage...

What happens when kids have the freedom to decide their own hygiene? Today on Peace and Parenting, I'm joined by Ana, a loving mom to two and a strong believer in connective parenting but who is having some trouble getting her children to cooperate. Together, we dive into understanding how connection, rather than control, can be the key to cultivating cooperation and harmony within your household.

Ana opens up about her challenges with a spirited 6-year-old, whose strong will and logical mind can sometimes lead to power struggles. Sound familiar? I share my insights...

Do you ever feel like there’s just not enough time for connection? Between work, household tasks, and never-ending to-do lists, it’s easy to let quality time with our kids slip to the bottom of our priorities. But what if I told you that focusing on connection first actually makes everything else run smoother?

Today, I’m exploring a mindset shift that can transform parenting, prioritizing connection over productivity. We live in a world that glorifies busyness, but at what cost? I explore why deep, meaningful relationships with our kids should come first and ho...

What if your teen rejected every attempt at connection? You’ve ditched punishments and bribes, but now your child is pushing back harder than ever. Is it even working? Today, I sit down with Tova, a mother of four, who’s navigating the tricky transition from traditional parenting to connection-based parenting, especially with her resistant teens.

Tova has seen beautiful changes in her younger twins since implementing connective parenting, but her older teen daughters aren’t responding the same way. We dive deep into why trust takes time, what “progress” really looks like, and how to sta...

Ever feel like connection-based parenting just isn’t working? You try play, empathy, and special time, but your child still melts down, refuses to listen, or lashes out. Does that mean connective parenting has failed? Today, I break down the biggest misconceptions about connective parenting, including why it’s often confused with permissiveness, why quick fixes don’t work, and why consistency matters more than perfection.

If you've ever wondered why punishments seem to “work” faster or felt frustrated that your efforts aren’t yielding immediate results, this episode will help you reframe your expectations...

Are traditional parenting strategies leaving you frustrated? In this episode, I sit down with Erica, a relationship coach, adoptive mom, and one of the first graduates of the Peace and Parenting Certification Program. Erica shares how shifting from consequences to connection has transformed her family and her coaching practice.

Throughout our conversation, we dive into the challenges of unlearning traditional discipline methods, the importance of play in fostering attachment, and how this approach is particularly impactful for adoptive families. Erica opens up about the struggles and breakthroughs in her parenting journey—how moving away fr...

Have you ever wondered why your child seems to hold it together all day but falls apart the moment they get home? Today, we explore the concept of system restraint collapse and how understanding this phenomenon can help us better support our children.

I share my personal experience with my freshman daughter, Esme, and a recent surprising event during the holidays where I discovered that even older kids can experience system restraint collapse. Plus, I’ll offer some practical ways to help minimize system restraint collapse with your own children, ensuring you support them in...

What transformative journey led this mom from sleepless nights with her newborn to becoming a parenting coach? Today, I chat with our brand new Peace and Parenting coach, Cammie, about her path from frustration to connection. She opens up about her experiences with her two young children and the profound lessons she learned through our Connected Parent Mastermind program.

Cammie shares how embracing play and laughter has revolutionized her approach to parenting, enabling her to connect on a deeper level with her children. Plus, we’ll explore her transformation and how the Peace and Pa...

Imagine replacing threats, bribes, and punishments with laughter, games, and fun interactions. Today, I share with you the transformative power of play in fostering a deeper connection with our children and reshaping how we discipline them.

Today, we explore why play is not just an enjoyable activity but a crucial element in our parenting toolkit that helps maintain a calm and connected family environment. Let’s challenge the conventional wisdom around discipline and embrace a method that brings joy and learning to both us and our children.

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What hidden struggles are fueling your child's aggression? Have you ever wondered why your child might be acting out aggressively? What if the answer lies not in the child but in how we, as parents, respond to them?

In this episode of the Peace and Parenting podcast, I help Melanie and Michael, a loving couple struggling with their four-year-old son's aggressive tendencies towards his schoolmate and younger brother. Melanie and Michael share their journey of grappling with their son's aggression, their attempts at various disciplinary methods, and their concerns about possibly overlooking ADHD traits...

How do you show unconditional love in challenging moments? Are your children feeling truly loved, especially during their toughest times?

Today, I share the profound difference between loving your children and making them feel unconditionally loved. It's easy to express love in the fun, cuddly moments, but how do we convey that same love when things get tough? I hope this episode provides you with valuable insights and practical approaches to ensure your children feel deeply and unconditionally loved, even in the hardest moments.

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Does your child's behavior trigger unexpected reactions in you? Join me as I sit down with Taylor, a mom navigating the intense emotions that parenting can invoke.

In this heartfelt episode, Taylor opens up about her struggles with a short temper and impatience, emotions she hardly experiences in other areas of her life. Together, we explore the underlying causes of these reactions, linking them back to her own childhood experiences and unmet needs. We explore practical strategies for self-regulation, understanding our triggers, and the power of sincere, straightforward apologies. I hope this raw and honest conversation helps...

Have you found yourself at a loss, struggling with punishments, rewards, and teachable moments that just don’t seem to work? In today’s episode, we explore the profound shifts we can make to foster deeper connections with our children—changes I wish I had known from the start.

Today, I open up about my personal journey of parenting missteps and revelations. From realizing the dark side of punishments and rewards to learning the value of modeling over lecturing, I'll share with you the four significant changes I would make if I could turn back t...

What if your teen's 'rude' behavior is actually a cry for help? Could anxiety be hiding behind their tough exterior? In today's episode, we dive deep into the world of teen anxiety with my special guest Monica Crnogorac, a certified teen anxiety coach. We unearth misconceptions about teen anxiety, discuss how parents often misinterpret their teen’s actions, and explore concrete methods to support your anxious teen without adding to their stress.

With her unique blend of personal and professional experience, Monica sheds light on the common issues teens face today, from academic pressures to...

What if your child’s defiance wasn’t defiance at all but a powerful sense of self? Parenting strong-willed kids can feel like a battle, but what if the secret lies in less demand and more connection? Today, I dive into the unique challenges (and gifts) of raising strong-willed kids. From their sensitivity to their unwavering sense of autonomy, these children often test our patience and beliefs about control.

As a mom to a strong-willed child myself, I know how easy it is to slip into power struggles. But what if we reframed these mome...

Today, I speak with Danielle, one of my students in the Connected Parent Mastermind group. We discussed the significance of connection and how providing our children with emotional support during intense moments can positively impact future interactions. 

During our conversation, Danielle shared a story about an incident that occurred while she was camping with her son. Her son had a tantrum and even pointed a fake gun at her. However, what surprised her was how both of them handled the situation.

This episode originally aired August 2023

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What happens when the desire for order and control in our lives clashes with the free-spirited nature of our children? Today, I delve into the challenges of overcoming control freak tendencies in parenting and finding a harmonious balance that respects both our needs and those of our children.

I'll share my personal journey from being a self-confessed control freak to a more mindful and connected parent. My need for a tidy environment, calm atmosphere, and perfect order often clashed with my kids' natural messiness and spirited behaviors. And this took a toll on my...

Is your child a sweet, sensitive kid who hits others? Could your child's aggressive behaviors be a sign of unmet needs? Today, I discuss the complex world of childhood aggression as we explore this topic with Samantha and Phil, parents who are grappling with their six-year-old son’s aggressive tendencies.

Together, we unpack how aggression in children is often a manifestation of unmet needs and fear, rather than a disposition towards being 'bad.' We exchange heartfelt stories and practical advice on breaking the cycle of aggression by shifting our own parenting responses and fo...

What should you do when Grandma threatens to punish your kids during family gatherings? How can we balance the need for extended family connections with our desire to parent consciously? In today’s episode, I explore the delicate art of navigating family dynamics during the holidays—or at any time—while staying true to our ideals of connected parenting.

I’ll discuss how to handle well-meaning grandparents who bribe with cookies and how to manage our own expectations about family members' behavior. I assure you that one inconsistent influence won’t harm your children if the pri...

What makes empathy a powerful tool in setting limits with your kids? What if letting go of control could transform family dynamics? In today's conversation with Raley, a mother of three teens, she shares her remarkable journey from a disconnected, tumultuous household to one filled with empathy and connection.

Raley opens up about her struggles with conventional parenting methods based on consequences and control. Together, we unravel how her transition to connective parenting, guided by our Peace and Parenting community, has significantly improved her family’s relationships and overall harmony. We discuss practical techniques fo...

Having a teen is as hard as having a newborn! All the firsts and all the angst, let’s face it, the stakes are really high, and we parents worry tremendously about our children, and the teen years can really exacerbate our worry and stress. What I know works is connection, but many times, parents pull away from their teens because the teens are trying to find their own way too. When I lean into being with and understanding my teens, they respond with more kindness and the ability to self-regulate more readily. Listen in as I give you te...

Is Your Toddler Testing Your Limits? Here’s How to Turn No into Cooperation.

Have you ever resorted to reverse psychology just to get your strong-willed toddler to brush their teeth? What if there were a kinder, more effective way to gain their cooperation? In today’s episode, I share some practical strategies to foster a harmonious and cooperative relationship with your little one.

Today, I connect with Lauren, a mom from Indiana who is facing the very relatable challenge of dealing with a strong-willed three-year-old. We explore why some...

Is your approach to restricting electronics actually fostering sneaky behavior in your child? What if instead of wrestling over electronics, we focused on fostering genuine moments of togetherness? In today’s episode, we venture into the intricate relationship our kids have with their devices and discover practical, connective ways to navigate this modern challenge.

I’ll dive into the ever-present issue of electronics in our children's lives, and contrary to popular advice, I argue against outright bans and restrictions. Instead, I emphasize connection as the core solution. 

How can we foster a healt...

Are you caught in the cycle of correction and control in your parenting journey? Today, I am joined by Nadia, a parent who bravely shares her journey from a place of control to discovering the impact of connective parenting.

Nadia candidly shares her experiences of shedding the instinct to correct and control and embracing empathy and connection instead. Through her journey, she unveils her challenges in stepping away from conventional parenting methods and the profound shifts she witnessed in her family dynamics. Tune in to discover the profound impact of prioritizing connection over control...

Can we truly control our children, or are we simply deluding ourselves? Imagine a world where we don't force our kids to do things, but instead, they genuinely want to cooperate because of the loving relationship we share. Today, I explore why letting go of control can lead to a more harmonious and joyful parenting journey.

Many believe that trying to control our kids through threats, bribes, or even physical punishment will produce the desired behavior. However, in the long run, these tactics are unsustainable and damaging. In this episode, I’ll share insights on...

Araminta was struggling with her child's behavioral issues when she discovered Peace and Parenting, which proved to be a lifesaver for her. After signing up for personal coaching the most important lesson she gained was that her son understood the difference between right and wrong, but lacked the ability to regulate his emotions. With this knowledge, Araminta is now better prepared to deal with her son's tantrums and intense feelings without becoming upset herself. She has discovered a method for remaining calm and collected in difficult circumstances.

This episode originally aired July 2023

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What if the everyday moments with your kids held the secret to building a stronger bond? Imagine transforming those challenging instances of whining, fighting, or acting out into opportunities for deeper connection and understanding. Today, I’ll share with you some subtle yet powerful ways to enhance connection with your children without adding extra tasks to your already busy day. 

Connection doesn't always require special time set aside or grand gestures; it's about how we engage with our children in the little moments. Whether it's handling social issues, whining, defiance, or sibling rivalry, the key...

What happens when a teen’s risk-taking behavior leads to serious injuries? Balancing safety and freedom is a challenge many parents face, especially when dealing with sports-loving teenagers. Today, I sit down with Kelli, a mother from Utah, who navigates this tricky landscape after her son suffered a string of concussions. How do you keep your kids safe while respecting their need for independence?

Together, we explore the power of empathy, the nuances of setting boundaries without triggering rebellion, and the struggle to connect with teens coping with setbacks. I share with Kelli how fo...

What happens when you choose not to engage in a fight with your child? Can you handle a power struggle with your child without losing your temper? We all want to navigate those heated moments with grace, empathy, and understanding, even when your child is completely offline.

In this episode, I discuss the multifaceted approach to maintaining a harmonious parent-child relationship, even amidst conflicts. We'll explore how stepping back, listening actively, and regulating our own emotions can turn potential blowouts into opportunities for deeper connection and understanding. Drawing from some of my personal insights...

Are your children constantly fighting and you’re at your wits' end on how to handle it? What if the key to resolving sibling rivalry doesn’t lie in punishments but in fostering deeper connections? Join me today as I welcome Sandra, a mother from Egypt who seeks advice on improving her two daughters' tumultuous relationship.

In this episode, we dive into Sandra’s experience as a mom of two constantly quarreling daughters. Through a heartfelt conversation, we uncover the challenges of maintaining harmony and the tendency to use punishments or let kids "fight it out...

Are you feeling at the end of your rope, wondering how to keep calm when everything around you is chaotic? You’re not alone. In this episode, I’ll give you some practical strategies for those moments when staying calm seems impossible. From the importance of recognizing when a situation is truly an emergency to the value of walking away momentarily to gather your thoughts, these TEN tips are rooted in empathy and real-life scenarios.

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How can playing more and disciplining less lead to a happier household? Today, you'll hear Ashlena's remarkable journey to connected parenting as she shares how her family transitioned from turmoil to tranquility.

In this heartfelt episode, Ashlena, a dedicated member of our community, opens up about her challenging yet rewarding transformation. She dives into the hurdles she faced with her adopted daughter, Devin, and how traditional parenting techniques were failing them both. When stress and desperation took a toll on her well-being, Ashlena finally reached out for help and discovered the incredible impact of...

Do boundaries and limits really matter in parenting? Have you ever wondered if the secret to a more harmonious parenting journey lies in how we set and manage boundaries with our children? Today, I tackle the often confounding topic of boundaries. I’ll unravel misconceptions about boundaries and explain that they aren't about controlling our children but rather about providing a safe space for them to release their emotions. 

Many parents struggle because they believe stricter boundaries equate to more obedient children, but today, I’ll share why this isn't necessarily true. This episode is pa...

What happens when empathizing with your child seems to backfire? Should we apologize when they have big feelings? Is it possible that our efforts to validate their feelings might actually increase their frustration? Today, I'm joined by Nandini, a passionate mom to a 7-year-old daughter. Nandini shares her experiences and parenting dilemmas, sparking an enlightening conversation about the delicate balance of validation, empathy, and responsibility. We explore why children might react negatively to our attempts at empathy and the importance of not taking their responses personally.

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Are you fighting an uphill battle with your child's “defiance”? What if defiance wasn’t something to squash but an invitation to connect? Today, I’m turning the traditional parenting playbook on its head and exploring how to respond compassionately to our kids when they push back.

Often, when our kids push back, we instinctively react with frustration, viewing their refusal as disrespectful or unkind. However, what if small changes in our approach could lead to significant improvements? Instead of using consequences or bribes, we could invite cooperation naturally through play or empathy.

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What if the journey to better parenting starts with accepting our imperfections? In this week's episode, I have a heartfelt conversation with one of my listeners as we explore the emotional process of reparenting ourselves while we raise our children.

Pavlina, a dedicated mother striving to balance her own healing process wants to be more present for her two-and-a-half-year-old daughter. She faces the challenge of overcoming avoidance parenting, a tendency rooted in her upbringing, and aims to create a nurturing, playful environment for her child. We explore the delicate balance of empathy, self-acceptance, and...

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Are you torn between teaching your child to stand up for themselves and maintaining respect? It’s a struggle many of us face, but what if we allowed our kids the space to practice—even if they don’t get it right the first time?

Today on Peace and Parenting I dive head first into a topic many parents wrestle with: Can we truly let our children stand up for themselves if we always require them to be respectful? Parenting is messy, and kids need space to make mistakes as they l...

What happens when the family you imagined doesn’t turn out the way you planned? How do you navigate single parenting while ensuring your children thrive in both homes? Today is a heartfelt episode where I sit down with Beth, a fellow single mom, to discuss the challenges and triumphs of raising kids post-divorce, co-parenting, and creating a nurturing environment without letting conflict define the journey.

As a mother of two teens and someone who’s experienced the highs and lows of divorce, I share with Beth some personal insights on how empathy has been...

Is your child acting out, biting, or hitting their sibling despite your best efforts? What if the problem isn’t defiance but disconnection? Today I talk about a family I worked with recently who struggled to raise a strong-willed child. They had tried everything: timeouts, punishments, and rewards, but nothing worked to stop the aggression.

As I dive into this family's journey, I explain why punitive measures often backfire and how shifting focus toward connection can create the change we’re all looking for. I share with you how I guided this family to stop...

Are you tired of the traditional school system stifling your child’s natural curiosity? Have you ever wondered what it would be like to trust your child to lead their own learning journey?

Today, I am joined by Leah McDermott, a homeschooling expert and advocate for unschooling. Leah shares her personal journey, starting as a rigid, homeschooled child and how she transitioned into a more flexible, child-led approach to education. We discuss the emotional and practical challenges of unschooling, including how societal fears and conditioning can make it difficult to trust our children to le...

Are you worried about your child’s safety on social media? It's easy to jump to the idea of banning electronics, parties, or risky behaviors altogether, but do restrictions really protect them? Today i open up a can of worms as I tackle the tough topic of social media and explore a different approach to keeping our kids safe. 

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How do you handle it when your child withdraws in tough moments? We've all been there, right? We want our kids to open up about their feelings, but we’re faced with silence or resistance. This can leave us feeling helpless and unsure of how to connect with them when they seem to shut down emotionally.

Today, I talk with a listener named Stevie, who shares her struggles with her 9-year-old daughter’s reluctance to express her emotions, especially after witnessing conflict at home. I share with her how our urgency to “fix” things can ofte...

Have you ever worried that being "too soft" might set your kids up for failure in the harsh realities of life? Or maybe you’ve heard that using connection instead of consequences will spoil your children. Today is a special episode for me because I sit down with my oldest daughter Esme, who’s just about to leave for college, to reflect on our 18-year parenting journey. Together, we debunk the myths surrounding connective parenting and explore how it has shaped her into a self-assured, empathetic young adult.

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Ever feel like you’re stuck between what you know is best and what your instincts tell you to do in the heat of the moment? You’re not alone! Today I am tackling a battle many parents face, choosing connection over consequences when setting limits for our kids.

Today, I talk with podcast listener Cecilia, a mom of three, as we discuss the struggles many of us face when balancing connective parenting with the pressures to revert to punishments. We talk about everything from the challenges of setting boundaries with empathy to how we c...

Are You Taking Care of Yourself as a Parent? We all want our kids to thrive, but what if the key to their success lies in our own happiness? In this episode, I dive into the research from the University of Ohio that explores the profound impact a mother’s happiness has on her child’s success. This study found that a mother’s well-being is the most crucial factor for a child’s development, more important than anything else. But what does that really mean for us as parents?

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What if we didn't need to fix our children's feelings? Imagine if the key to a peaceful household lies not in solving every problem but in simply being present. Today, we explore the transformative power of witnessing our children's emotions.

In today's case study, I chat with Shweta, a mother to two children, about the struggle of managing her nine-year-old daughter’s anxiety. Shweta shares the weight of feeling responsible for her child's emotional well-being and the pressure she places on herself to "fix" everything. We unpack the importance of validating our children's feelings wi...

Today, I tackle one of the most common concerns I hear from parents: Am I doing my kids a disservice by not using punishments and consequences? Many argue that without experiencing the "real world" of control and manipulation, children won’t be able to cope when they face it as adults. But is that really true?

I believe raising children with connection, empathy, and unconditional love doesn’t leave them unprepared for the real world, it actually makes them more resilient. Instead of learning to accept harsh treatment, my kids know how to walk away...

Is your child resisting potty training? What if the secret to smoother potty training is all about connection? Join me today as I tackle a common parenting dilemma: potty training with one of my Instagram followers, Jamie. We'll discuss her experiences with potty training her spirited three-year-old daughter.

Jamie shares her challenges, from her daughter’s resistance to potty training to the battles around diaper changes. I'll share strategies prioritizing connection, empathy, and letting go of control and guide Jamie on adopting a more connective approach, highlighting the effectiveness of special time and play in...

Ever feel like every request turns into a battle with your kids? You ask them to put their shoes on, help with chores, or even just sit down for dinner, and instead of cooperation, you get resistance or silence. It’s frustrating, right? But here’s the big question: What if their refusal has less to do with defiance and more about how they FEEL about the relationship?

Today, I tackle why our kids may not cooperate and how it relates to our connection. I explore how common parenting techniques, like punishments and rewards, ofte...

Is your child constantly glued to their screen? Do you feel torn between setting strict boundaries and fostering trust? In today’s world, technology is everywhere, and balancing it with real-life connection can feel overwhelming. How do we guide our kids through it without falling into the trap of punishments and control?

In this episode, I talk with Melissa, a fellow mom, about the daily challenges of managing her daughters' screen time and maintaining a healthy relationship with them. I share with her the tricky balance between allowing technology in our kids’ lives and ensu...

What if offering your child choices isn't really giving them autonomy? Have you ever considered that the choices you present might feel manipulative? Let’s delve into the nuanced world of offering choices and explore how to empower our children genuinely and constructively.

In this episode, I unpack giving children choices, spotlighting its potential benefits and pitfalls. I illustrate how choices can sometimes come off as controlling rather than empowering. I also discuss the vital role of true autonomy in developing a child's independence and problem-solving skills.

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What are the modern challenges of raising teens in a Snapchat and TikTok world, and how should parents adapt? Does taking away their smartphone do more damage than good? Today, I sit down with Danielle, a dedicated mother of four navigating the challenging terrain of parenting a 13-year-old daughter in the digital age. Over the past year, a widening gap has formed between them, fueled by social media and smartphone usage complexities.

Danielle opens up about her struggles setting boundaries around smartphone use while attempting to build trust and connection. We discuss why traditional...

What if the key to being a better parent isn't being perfect but embracing our imperfections? It's time to get real about the rollercoaster journey of parenting, which is filled with mistakes, learning, and growth.

Today, I will talk candidly about the misconceptions around "parenting experts" and our own expectations as parents. I’ll share my experiences, exploring how moments of stress, like a recent family vacation, can shed light on our triggers and mistakes and how we can transform these mistakes into valuable lessons for ourselves and our children.

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What do you do when a nine-year-old flat-out refuses to take a shower? How might giving your child more autonomy reduce daily power struggles? In today's episode, we dive into these nuanced dynamics of connected parenting.

Joining me today is Jade, a dedicated mother juggling a blended family and her journey into connected parenting. Jade shares her struggle with her strong-willed nine-year-old daughter who challenges the status quo by simply saying, "No." Together, we explore the beauty of natural consequences, the search for autonomy in adolescence, and the importance of connection over control.

Ever find yourself questioning your parenting because your child’s behavior doesn’t match up with society’s expectations? Today, I discuss a topic that hits close to home: the idea that successful parenting is not about having perfectly behaved children but about how we respond to their imperfections.

We often get caught up in societal expectations, believing that good parenting is reflected in having compliant, well-mannered kids. But real success lies in how we handle the challenging moments, the times when our kids act out, and how we use those moments to foster a deep...

What if the hardest moments in parenting are actually the best opportunities for connection? Can the struggles we face with our kids actually help us heal our own past? Today, I'm joined by the wonderful Cammie, who shares her heartfelt journey into connected parenting. We delve into the challenges and triumphs of raising young children while navigating the lingering effects of our own childhood experiences. From sleepless nights with a newborn to embracing the big emotions of a toddler, Cammie's story is a testament to the power of empathy and connection.

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Imagine this: Your child has just knocked over their sibling's Lego creation, and you’re torn between wanting to gently correct their behavior and wondering if there’s a better way. Is it really about making them say, "I'm sorry," or is there a deeper lesson to be learned?

In this episode, I share a more nuanced concept of accountability in parenting. We explore the common desire to hold our children accountable for their actions—whether it's making them apologize or ensuring they understand the consequences of their behavior. But what does "accountability" really mean i...

Is there a way to navigate sharing disputes that affirm both children's feelings and boundaries? Are sibling meltdowns causing tension in your home? Today, I sit down with Katrina, a mother of two daughters, navigating the tricky terrain of tantrums and toy sharing. Together, we delve into practical strategies for setting boundaries while respecting each child’s feelings, fostering a sense of fairness and validation for both siblings.

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Does your child connect with some teachers but not others? Have you wondered why? Imagine a classroom where connection, not just curriculum, is the priority. Could this change everything?

Teaching has always been challenging, particularly due to crowded classrooms and lack of support for educators. However, I have personally witnessed how building real connections with students can significantly decrease behavioral problems and improve engagement. With 13 years of experience in public schools, I’ll share my thoughts on why our education system is letting down both teachers and students and explain how shifting our emphasis fr...

From a troubled teen to a mindful mom: Today, you’ll hear one mom’s journey of breaking the cycle of chaotic parenting. Have you ever felt like you're falling short as a parent despite your best efforts? In this powerful episode, I have an intimate conversation with Taylor, a mom who openly shares her struggles with regulating her emotions and the impact of her challenging upbringing on her parenting journey. Together, we explore practical strategies for overcoming self-doubt, managing sibling rivalries, and fostering a deeper connection with our children.

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Ever feel the panic rise when your child declares, "I'm bored!" How is your summer going? Is your little one at a loss for what to do? Do you rush to fix it or let them find their own way?

Today, I want to discuss the phrase "I'm bored!" As parents, we often feel the need to constantly entertain and engage our kids, especially during long summer days. But what if embracing boredom could actually benefit our children? I'll share my thoughts on why it's okay for our kids to be bored and how...

How can we balance the emotional needs of two children in different and challenging stages? Today, I help one mother with her busy world of juggling parenting techniques while maintaining calm and connection.

Corynne is a mother to a three-year-old and a five-month-old, and today, she shares the difficulties of staying calm and connected during intense emotional moments, such as when she is breastfeeding and her older daughter wants to play. We discuss the importance of creating preliminary bonding moments before tending to the baby and explore some of her challenges regarding her husband's...

Have you ever felt like you're losing your little one as they grow into a teen? Imagine the mix of pride and heartbreak as your child starts to pull away, seeking independence while you long for those cozy, close moments. How do we navigate this bittersweet transition?

Today, I explore the emotional rollercoaster of transitioning from parenting young children to guiding adolescents. It's a journey filled with unexpected challenges and poignant moments of letting go. As our children grow and seek more independence, we often feel a deep sense of loss, coupled with the...

Are you struggling with sibling rivalry or managing multiple kids' needs? Imagine a morning when you’re pulled in every direction, resolving online meeting issues for one child while another is desperate for your attention. How do you manage these conflicting demands without losing your cool or compromising the peace in your home? Today I’m joined by Stephanie, a dedicated stay-at-home mom from Virginia. With four children aged between 6 and 14, Stephanie faces the daily challenges of balancing her kids' needs while maintaining boundaries with empathy. Through our discussion, we uncover some practical solutions for managing sibling rivalry and ensu...

Ever wondered if punishing your child for bad behavior might actually be counterproductive? Picture this: your child hits their sibling. Instead of a timeout, what if you offered a hug and some empathy? How might that change the dynamic?

I want to challenge some deeply rooted beliefs in traditional parenting that may benefit from a new perspective, such as the notion that punishment is essential for teaching right from wrong. I believe our children naturally desire to do well and that their behaviors often indicate a need for connection rather than defiance. By understanding...

Are you unknowingly falling into controlling patterns with your kids? Can relinquishing bedtime control to your kids transform your evenings and lead to a more harmonious family life? Today, we explore the delicate balance between control and connection in parenting.

I am joined by Carolyn, a mother of three adorable girls, as we explore her journey of shedding control and embracing relational parenting. I dig deep into Carolyn's realization of mirroring her father's authoritarian style and discuss how to pivot towards more empathy-driven interactions.

We discuss Carolyn's specific struggles...